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Product Details

  • Paperback: 272 pages
  • Publisher: Revell; 2nd edition (August 2000)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0800757319
  • ISBN-13: 978-0800757311
  • Product Dimensions: 8.5 x 5.4 x 0.7 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 13.6 ounces
  • Average Customer Review: 4.5 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (129 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #1,644,103 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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Amazon.com Review

As the title indicates, Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours is a book with a friendly, lighthearted approach. Author Kevin Leman (The New Birth Order Book) speaks directly from his experiences as a father of five and a practicing psychologist. While you won't find specific studies or statistics here, you will find straightforward, practical suggestions that often get right to the heart of troubling situations.

Leman's technique, which he refers to as "reality discipline" is based on a particular passage from the Bible, and his book is liberally sprinkled with his religious beliefs. These references will make this book a particular favorite for some readers; his stance that parents' authority comes directly from God is a fundamental principle of his text, and some parents may prefer a less evangelistic approach. That said, it's hard to disagree with suggestions such as "train yourself to be a good listener" and "give your children direct eye contact." Nearly every suggestion is coupled with a real-life example of the behavior in discussion, making for an easy read, and every chapter ends with questions labeled "to review and apply" as well as a short section of concepts to put into practice. The section dealing with divorce suggests you make a list of the chapter's suggestions you find difficult and create a plan to implement them. Leman assumes that anyone reading this book can find the time to create such plans themselves, and doesn't provide his readers with any step-by-step charts. If you're not up to creating your own action plans, you may prefer a more detailed form of help than this book offers. --Jill Lightner

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I found this book to make for interesting reading and saw a lot of valuable suggestions in it for creating harmony in the home and teaching children to mind their parents. It also has valuable suggestions for teaching a parent."--Gary Dreher, East Central Illinois Baptist Association --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.

More About the Author

Dr. Kevin Leman, an internationally known psychologist, radio and television personality, and speaker, has taught and entertained audiences worldwide with his wit and commonsense psychology. The best-selling and award-winning author has made house calls for hundreds of radio and television programs, including "The View" with Barbara Walters, "The Today Show," "Oprah," CBS's "The Early Show," "Live with Regis Philbin," CNN's "American Morning," and "LIFE Today" with James Robison, and he has served as a contributing family psychologist to "Good Morning America." He is the founder and president of Couples of Promise, an organization designed and committed to helping couples remain happily married. Dr. Leman is also a charter faculty member of iQuestions.com. He has written over 30 best-selling books about marriage and family issues, including "The Birth Order Book" and "Sheet Music: Uncovering the Secrets of Sexual Intimacy in Marriage." Dr. Leman and his wife, Sande, live in Tucson. They have five children.

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This book was very common sense, but very sound advice.
T. Graybill
It really maps out how to let reality be the discipliner of your kids, you give them choices, and they have to endure the consequences (good or bad).
jbricker
The techniques and principles in this book will help decrease your parental stress level and change your kids' behavior.
R. Ortiz

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121 of 125 people found the following review helpful By marciebaby on February 3, 2005
Format: Paperback
I love parenting books because they are always full of good ideas, even if you don't necessarily agree with everything in the book. THIS book, however, was fantastic. I'm a pretty easy-going person, so as long as their safety wasn't at risk, I would generally allow my kids to have way too many liberties.

Dr. Leman describes pulling the rug out from under the little buzzards. If a child begins whining about dinner, then simply throw dinner down the garbage disposal and excuse the child from the table.

Yikes, that seemed a little harsh to me, but I felt as though my little ones had way to much control over me, so I gave it a try. WOW. It worked.

He also discusses the necessity of making your relationship with your spouse a priority. The best gift you can give your children is a strong marriage! And they will feel more secure going through life with parents who show love and respect to one another.

I'm a huge fan of Kevin Leman now. I can't wait to read what else he's written!
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107 of 112 people found the following review helpful By A Customer on September 1, 2003
Format: Paperback
And i have read a lot! I am a full-time mother of very active three-year-old twin boys. My mother was a yeller and I swore I would not parent that way. However, once the boys hit two I found myself beginning to fall into that pattern. If I didn't yell or vent, I carried around anger at them which spilled over to my husband when he came home from work. I wanted nothing more than to escape from my life and even considered going back to work even though I really wanted to raise my own children. This book didn't just tell me what to do in a certain situation, it gave me a change of perspective. Now I can figure out on my own what to do before I get angry. Both of my boys are responding beautifully and we have a lot more fun together than ever before. There is also a lot more affection between all of us. BUY THIS BOOK!
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60 of 64 people found the following review helpful By Jodi Sloboda on June 6, 2001
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I've read a LOT of parenting books. This is the best one I've read by far. His methods teach a balance of respect and discipline that make so much sense! And it works! I have been trying to move away from so many punitive measures in disciplining my kids, but I could never buy into the completely positive discipline style of discipline. This book (and video series) was a true answer to prayer for me and my husband. It teaches a balance of punishment and discipline with self control and respect. We have been trying to apply this philosophy in our family, and this book gives great practical examples. I have seen a real difference in my kids and have felt it in myself.
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38 of 42 people found the following review helpful By Jessica A. Smith on August 8, 2005
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This book has been such a huge help in my home. I am so much more confident in my parenting skills, and my 2 year old showed immediate improvement in her behavior. I can now discipline my child knowing that I will get results, that I'm doing what's best for her and that I'm not damaging her little psyche.

I am not religious, but the religious references didn't bother me a bit. In fact, I can say that I was impressed with how Dr. Leman tied his religion into his discipline methods.

This book is worth every penny, and I only wish I had bought it sooner. I see people all the time now having difficulty with their children, and I just want to say "Buy this book!"
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31 of 34 people found the following review helpful By Renita S. Folds on April 9, 2000
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Dr. Leman gives parents practical and inspirational advice in "Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours". His views on "reality discipline" fall right in line with the way my husband and I have been trying to raise our four girls. It was wonderful to have support for the way we "discipline" vs. "punish" our kids. He also gives practical advise with examples on how to handle situations that arise in all families. From temper tantrums to tattling, hope and help is here!
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16 of 16 people found the following review helpful By "ninaradio" on October 31, 2000
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The Reality Discipline described in this book is just common sense distilled into a well-thought out set of guidelines. I like that Leman writes in a manner that is respectful of parents, rather than preaching, and flexible-you won't find any "do exactly as I say to the letter or your child will be a brat," which all too many parenting experts do. Reading this book really helped me think through why I do what I do and how I can alter my actions to better fit with my philosophy. I highly reccomend it!
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18 of 19 people found the following review helpful By R. Myers on March 6, 2012
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No offense Dr. Leman---
Another book about how to raise your children. Some things work, some things don't. Every child is different. Dr. Leman presents himself like all the others do "my techniques work...the others don't" because they worked on his kids and some of his clients. And, yes, some of them do work.
My big complaint is he really doesn't address how to deal "make children mind" at the younger years (2 and 3). If you are a parent, you know how tough those years are in regards to the kids minding. His techniques DO NOT work on my 2 year old. Especially the eating part, where they either eat what is in front of them or they are excused from the table with nothing else to eat for the night. This works pretty good for my 5 year old, who will complain his little heart out but still eat as he knows the consequences. That being said, bribery and other techniques have also worked with him.
Despite that, if you have an elementary school child who is a handful (maybe this works on teenagers too?), his book gives you some good techniques to consider and thoughts to ponder in your armory of child rearing books. But, if you are looking to tame your preschooler or toddler, you might want to look elsewhere.
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