Making it as a Couple: Prescription for a Quality Relationship [Paperback]

Allen Fay (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: February 1, 1999

Making it as a Couple provides specific recipes, easy to follow prescriptions, and precise methods that have an immediate impact on relationships. Dr. Fay shows you how to avoid inflammatory reactions, how to circumvent power struggles, and how to phrase requests, suggestions, observations and objections so that they are understood and respected.

Editorial Reviews

Review

" An excellent guide to resolve the problems of troubled marriages and to make happy marriages still happier." -- Aaron T. Beck, MD Author, Love is Never Enough

" One of the best books on relationships I have ever read."

Darrel Sifford -- Philadelphia Inquirer

This stuff is fantastic! My feeligs of excitement and enthusiasm about Making it as a Couple are shared by collegues, students and numerous clients who have applied Dr. Fay's techniques.

This book comes from the pen of a gifted psychiatrist who is first and foremost a compassionate human being, and whose special talent for quality relationships can now be acquired by anyone who reads Making it as a Couple and puts its principles into practice. -- Arnold A. Lazarus, PhD Distinguished Professor Emeritus, Graduate School of Applied and Professional Psychology, Rutgers University

About the Author

Allen Fay is a psychiatrist in private practice in New York City. He is a graduate of New York Medical College and completed his residency training in psychiatry at the Mount Sinai Hospital in New York. He is on the faculty of the Mount Sinai School of Medicine, where he teaches behavioral and cognitive approaches to therapy. Dr. Fay is a dipolmate of The American Board of Psychiatry and Neurology. He is the author of The Invisible Diet, Making Things Better By Making Them Worse and co-author of Don't Believe it for a Minute and I Can If I Want To.

Product Details

• Paperback: 226 pages
• Publisher: FMC BOOKS (February 1, 1999)
• ISBN-10: 0965981800
• ISBN-13: 978-0965981804
• Product Dimensions: 8.2 x 5.4 x 0.7 inches
• Shipping Weight: 11.2 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 5.0 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (3 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #1,113,845 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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17 of 17 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars An absolute gem that saved my relationship!, October 4, 1999

By A Customer

This review is from: Making it as a Couple: Prescription for a Quality Relationship (Paperback)

My feeling is that most "self help" books, in reality, are the authors helping themselves to the reader's money. With that as my overall opinion I decidedly was not excited when my girlfriend insisted I get a copy of "Making it as a Couple." I agreed to read it only to make her happy. However, after reading just the first dozen or so pages, I was really impressed. I stayed up and finished the book in one night.

It is spectacular!

Fay's insights, principals, and ideas are BRILLIANT! The book has no shrink-double talk and no Freudian bull**** or touchy-feelie filler. Instead each and every page has at least one very real, genuinely creative, unique, and practical ideas on what to do when there's problems in a relationship. I can't say Arlene (my girlfriend) and I now live in perfect relationship bliss. BUT this book did help uncover our major problems and (MOST IMPORTANT OF ALL) told us SPECIFICALLY how we could solve them! In fact, things are the best they have ever been with us. The shrink that wrote the book (Fay) helped us more (without ever meeting us) than a local psychiatrist/so-called relationship expert that I paid over $1,000.00 to for nine office visits. The book is an undiscovered gem. If I sound like I'm wild about this book--- that's true. I can't say enough good stuff about it.

With this book and a few hours I think any couple can solve their own problems ...or at least get a good idea if they are solvable. We spent two hours a week AS A COUPLE using the book's relationship tools. The techniques given might at first seem crazy. But upon reflection and use you'll see they work. In fact we have gone months without a fight (in the past ... every week had at least one big blowup). Now we seriously talking about getting married! I can't recommend this book highly enough. I know I sounds like one of those morons on Oprah-Jerry-Ricky ... but the truth is the book really changed my life! I can only say that about one other book (and that's my bankbook).

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2 of 2 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars PQR: Prescription for a QUALITY RELATIONSHIP, February 2, 2004

By A Customer

This review is from: Pqr: Prescription for a Quality Relationship (Paperback)

I was in a shaky monogamous relationship and was LOST as to if it was I that was responsible for what was going on! I didnt know where to turn,or what to do~ as my friends were telling me EXACTLY what WANTED to hear! NOT what I NEEDED to hear!
This book is like a WORKBOOK in GUIDING YOU to better COMMUNICATION....dealing with dissaprovement....criticism..blaming and self-justifying....and even being right!....being more attentive....double standards and soooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo much more!
IT helped ME tremendously to understand how everything I SAY or DO makes a tremendous difference in either having a GREAT relationship or one that left me feeling lost,alone and FRUSTRATED!!
I HIGHLY RECOMMENED THIS EASY TO READ book!

1 of 1 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars One of the best!, July 11, 2004

By A Customer

This review is from: Making it as a Couple: Prescription for a Quality Relationship (Paperback)

One of the best self help books for a marriage that has gotten off on the wrong foot, causing unhappiness and misunderstanding. It is truely a "self"-help book, as it asks the reader to examine their own behavior in relation to their spouse, and shows how changing one's own behavior causes positive changes in the spouse's behavior. AND IT WORKS! The book is simple to read without being simplistic,and has easy to follow guidence. It is an excellent resource for a person whose spouse refuses to go to marriage counselling.