This common-sense guide to surviving the stress and disappointments of divorce approaches the fear factor involved in such a big life upheaval with practical steps to facilitate healing. Setting the "peaceful divorce" as the ultimate goal to aim for, the authors offer easy-to-follow advice like giving your ex the benefit of the doubt and carefully following "8 Peace Practices." One will remind readers of the critical role of self-care: "We recommend that you deal with your divorce the same way you would deal with facing a serious heath crisis." In addition to insightful lists and journaling topics, Mercer and Wennechuk prompt readers to create their own "new beginnings mission statement." Useful chapters on grief and forgiveness all underscore the necessity of taking the high road whenever possible. "Think of the people you've met who can't wait to tell you how awful their former spouse is. They don't realize that this reflects on them...after all, who would marry the monster they describe?"
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"Making Divorce Work is an absolutely essential work. .......... make use of the wise and practical advice this book contains. And this book is especially a must read for people with children."
--Mira Kirshenbaum, author
"This most positive offering comes from family law mediator Mercer and certified divorce mediator Wennechuk, who claim that the way one proceeds with a divorce, whether amicably or acrimoniously, will directly influence the quality of life afterward....Anyone considering or getting a divorce would benefit from reading this book."
"Making Divorce Works translates Diana and Katie's unique mediation model into skills anyone can use and that will revolutionize the way people get divorced."
-Len Jacoby, founder, Jacoby & Meyers Law Offices
"Imagine a world in which instead of ruining your life your divorce could help you redefine your goals for yourself and your family. Making Divorce Work shows you how to make this happen in eight simple steps."
-Nell Merlino, author, Stepping Out of Line, CEO and Founder, Count Me In for Women's Economic Independence
"... chock full of simple, everyday, practical steps that can ease our way through a minefield so we come out not just with our sanity intact, but actually far more conscious as individuals. Its countless insights show how a breakup-whether we want it or wish to God it weren't happening-can end up actually advancing our wellbeing."
-David Robert Ord, author of Your Forgotten Self and Lessons in Loving
"...the book that every person facing a divorce must have. Many divorce books can be read---this book must be studied. The authors not only intuitively and insightfully understand what people going through divorce need and how they feel, they also offer self-help tools such as writing a Divorce Mission Statement to help readers prepare for success through this life challenging event."
-Forrest (Woody) Mosten, author of Collaborative Divorce Handbook and Complete Guide to Mediation.
"...brings consciousness, clarity, practical applicable wisdom, and common sense insight into what is undeniably one of the most heart- wrenching experiences any human being may have to face. ...a practical, creative, and healing tool to support not only those moving through this experience, but also those wishing to be of greater support when their loved ones are faced with such an extreme life change."
-Michael Brown, author of The Presence Process and Alchemy of the Heart
My wife and I filed for a divorce. I soon found this book at my local library. It really helped me get through the difficult times and, along with seeing my counselor, begin to... Read morePublished 19 months ago by cp187
I had already read this before i bought it and just wanted it as a reference. there are a lot of helpful excersizes in the bookPublished on May 1, 2013 by rocky
The advice in this book seemed heavily weighted toward the leaver. As the leavee in an 11-year marriage and a mother of two young children, I have may unresolved issues that this... Read morePublished on November 27, 2011 by slcmom
There is a lot of information out there on divorce - but nothing comes close to the straight forward, no-nonsense advice offered here. Read morePublished on February 3, 2011 by V. Simon
Diana Mercer has created an excellent guide to making divorce work in the best possible ways. She encourages sane solutions and negotiation skills that result in win-win... Read morePublished on January 17, 2011 by Rosalind Sedacca