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Making Sense Of The Men In Your Life What Makes Them Tick, What Ticks You Off, And How To Live In Harmony

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Loved this book. My wife saw the author on a christian talk show and the author sold her. He was very funny and serious at the same time. She ordered it but I also read it.
We both loved the book for different reasons. She loved it because it helped her to understand some of the things about me that she did not learn about men due to an absence father. However, I learned somethings about loving and being married to a woman who had an absent father. Dr. Leman had us both laughing about ourselves because he shares both sides. It helped us both understand each other in a different light and why we are so different yet that it's possible to live in the same house. We read Mars and Venus and this would be similar only with a christian twist. It's a must read. Our favorite part was when Dr.Lehman asked his wife if she wanted to know how to make a "Happy Husband" you will have to read the book to find out her answer. My wife and I refer to this point often it is a good tension breaker if nothing but a laugh. It has great points and advice even for single and divorced women. It is worth reading.

As a pastor who counsels many couples, I have found this book useful to help women face the realities about the male of the species. I have seen marriages rejuvinated in certain instances.

Although the author could have been more tactful, he brings home the real facts of life about men and particularly the importance of frequent sex for men. True, not all men fit Leman's mold, but most do. Of course, men will not always admit to being as Leman describes becasue they fear their wives will reject them.

The genders have to learn to accept one another even if they really cannot understand one another.

This is not a cure all for all marriage problems, but it will help enhance many marriages. If nothing else, women will read a real-life explanation as to how most men work. Whether they believe it or not is another issue.

I can't say enough about this book. I am almost finished after having it only 3 days. I am a Christian, and found this book a great guideline on how to deal with issues with my husband. I felt like my husband and I were having the same fight over and over again, with no positive outcome. With Dr. Leman's help, I now see my husband's perspective with deeper insight.
I don't understand some of the previous reviewers. If you already think you know the answers to your problems, why are seeking help from Dr. Leman's book? I think some of the comments were based on stubborn ideas, ideas that didn't want to change. If you are wanting someone to validate your thoughts and be "on your side", do not read this book. This book is to help give you your husband's, father's, and son's perspective...not your own.
Anyone seeking some help (with humor), this book will benefit you.
Kudos, Dr. Leman! Again, a job well done.

This book is a real eye-opener! It really changed my attitude toward my husband and also gave me some clues about what to expect with my 3 boys. A great book!

Men are constant puzzle for women. We tick so much differently than them, we don't understand eachother's drives since we are so different and that's why this book makes sense.

If you are trying to win your men over (in my case - again), to keep him for good (hopefully!) it's good to have some of the tricks from this book up your sleeve... Especially if everyday life had put you in the gray marriage rutine...

Some of the reviews show that the writer is sexist and puts women down with some of the stuff he suggests in the book, but the title is "Making Sense of The Men in your life" and it's written from the perspective of a man... so there you go :)

This began as a very eye-opening book--it presented some things I never in a million years realized about my husband. By about mid-book, however, I began to get REALLY TICKED OFF. Yes, it is my duty and honor as a wife to make my husband happy. I don't care what Leman says, however, I do not have to be his sexual slave and perform a sexual revolution in my home on a weekly basis just to please my husband. What offended me the most? Probably when he said in essence, "I know some nights you're really tired and sex is the last thing you want to involve yourself with so give your husband a hand job, you'll only have to lay there and it will feel incredible to him." I'm sorry, but I don't buy into his notion that men must have sex three to five nights a week or they will cheat on their wives. Grow up, be a big boy and get over it!
Then there was the astonishingly cruel diatribe with his wife. Leman was saying women "SHOULD" on their husbands to much and to prove his point he went into this story about his wife Sande and he visiting a restaurant in which he always orders the same thing. She politely said, "You should try something different." And his reply? "Or maybe I should try out a new wife!" COME ON! The poor woman must have felt horrible, but yes, Leman, I'm sure she got your big, egotistical point.
Oh, and let's not forget his joking around with Moonhead about "committing adultery" because he couldn't take his eyes off some chick at a football game. Haha. That was hilarious. His wife must be Mother Theresa.
Yes, I believe him that men NEED sex to feel loved, just as women need affection and caring and sex to feel loved. But unlike his list of "must dos", I refuse to meet my husband at the end of our driveway without any clothes on, I don't think taking naked photos of myself and putting them in his briefcase is necessary, and rather than "exploring ideas outside of my sexual comfort zone" I think I'll do what I feel is right, not what some man's unrealistic fantasies dictate. I can't believe this book--it's clear he feels women are around to please, care for and obey. And that's it. I'm a mother, I have my own career and I have a dynamite sex life, without feeling I need to be my husband's personal sex slave.
So Kevin Leman, I love your views on parenting, daddy's an daughters and raising boys, but I think I'll stick to my own views on sex in my marriage. And as for the hand jobs ... God gave you hands of your own. Have at it!

I just can't believe I made it through so much of life without reading this book. It has made such a difference in my life that I've ordered an additional 7 copies. One for each of the women in my family! May God bless Kevin for sharing this information and understanding and may He bless everyone that reads it with new love for the strange people He created - MEN!!

I read this book to get a better idea of what makes men tick, since I was getting married and was raised in a primarily female family. This book is full of true and helpful information. This book has helped to give me a fulfilling and satisfying marriage. By giving my husband the sex, attention, affection, playfulness, respect, and honest praise that he yearns for, he's given me everything I need and more!
As to the comment the other reviewer made about your husband having two hands of his own... yes, he does, and if you give him a break now and again, maybe he'll use them on you as a completely unselfish treat. If you read any of his other books, you'll notice that he has a sense of humor and great respect, admiration, and love for his wife... there is no disrespect in his jokes. And the part at the ballgame with Moonhead? I love the idea of my husband recognizing that lusting after another woman is cheating and the idea of him having a friend he can admit it to and be held accountable by.

Mr. Leman may be a good person and he may have some insight into men, but his writing style is ruthlessly condescending. I am in chapter one and doubt I'll keep going.

Whether or not the following is true, this is what it the book has been like for me: it seems as though Mr. Leman is assuming that the women reading this book are stubbornly thinking, "Hah! I know all there is to know about men!" and that he's trying to convince all of us as to how wrong we are. His presumption is appalling; I get the feeling that he feels that we women not only know almost nothing about men, but we are also beligerent in our will to cling to this ignorance! He's guilty of name-dropping (unnecessarily pointing out that James Dobson and Gary Smalley are "good friends" of his), and he just keeps on phrasing his sentences and crafting his arguments in a "There, there, little darling, I know this will shock you, but you must hear the truth" kind of way.

For the practical information (so far), I'd give him a three, maybe, but for condescention I'd rate this a negative ten. It really is that bad. I'm going to look for other books on this topic that aren't so nearly degrading to read.

All in all, it is an awful book.