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The Man Who Mistook His Job for a Life: A Chronic Overachiever Finds the Way Home [Hardcover]

Jonathon Lazear (Author)
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May 22, 2001
At the end of the day, what really matters? Maybe it's been too long since you've asked yourself this question, because the workday is never-ending. You just don't have time. Indeed, if you're like Jonathon Lazear was for years, you don't seem to have time for much of anything besides work.

More recently, Lazear, a blindingly successful entrepreneur, found himself lost, burnt out, and wondering, not for the first time, why. But this time he did an extraordinary thing: rather than sweep these uncertainties under his desk and get right back to work, he made time to ask some of the biggest, most important questions a man can ask, questions he'd been avoiding since he started his career. What really matters? What are you afraid of? What are your other dreams? Who are you if you aren't your title and your paycheck? How much money is enough money? When was the last time you took a vacation and left work behind, disconnected from your cell phone, e-mail, pager, fax, and all the other toys that tell you you're important? Gave someone you love a gift that cost more time than money? What would you do on a Saturday if you weren't at the office -- or keeping tabs on work from home? How will you reconnect with your family -- and face the fact that you checked out on your wife and kids for far too long? Not only did Lazear confront these hard questions, but with probing insight and deep sensitivity, he found some answers and took them to heart. And he wrote it all up so you can, too. No excuses.

So meet The Man Who Mistook His Job for a Life. Short and to the point (because no one knows better than he how busy you are), thoughtful and wise, yet eminently practical, this book will remind you what really matters, help you give up what you don't need, and reclaim what you do.

Do you know what you're missing? If you stopped to look at this book, then at least somewhere deep down you probably do. Or if you don't know exactly what, at least you sense that you're missing something. Certainly, your family and friends miss you. It's time to go home.

How do you end the workday -- or do you?

"As a man who mistook his job for a life, I have coped by remaining aloof, even silent. I have been an emotional isolationist, fleeing a real and imagined ever-present jury -- my coworkers, my peers, my family, my wife, even my children. Sometimes I felt combative and aggressive, but mostly I was lost, unfeeling, unresponsive. And like you, I felt like I didn't have a choice. Downsizing, rightsizing, and just plain career terror had me clinging to my job for dear life. If you've picked up this book, you're probably struggling with the same questions and doubts. Your job has become such a big part of your life that it dwarfs everything else. You've spun a web that defines you but also conceals you. It is your salvation and your damnation -- you're living inside the job and whether it makes you unhappy or fulfilled almost doesn't matter anymore, because 'choice' is not in the vocabulary of the man who mistakes his job for a life. What happened to the dreams that used to keep us going?"
-- From the Introduction


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The Man Who Mistook His Job for a Life is a clever play on the title of an Oliver Sacks book from several years back in which the clinical neurologist and bestselling author poignantly describes 24 astonishing perceptual aberrations that cause victims to experience life in striking ways. Under this apt paraphrase, literary agent Jonathon Lazear describes how American males are increasingly finding their own perceptions altered as they subjugate their personal lives to their professional ones. Lazear candidly discloses how he once let his own work rule his existence, tracing a trajectory from a workaholic father through an early career in the time-demanding publishing industry and an eventual role as head of his own company. He tells how he became "stretched to the limit" while bringing home a seven-figure income--and, as a result, "emotionally distant" from the family he loved. He then offers a series of suggestions (i.e., Acknowledge That You're Not Perfect, Reset Your Work Clock, Start Small, Stay Positive) to help others similarly afflicted develop a more well-rounded presence. This is one of several recent books aimed at slowing society's hectic pace, although it may be the first aimed exclusively at men and the related gender-specific problems they face. --Howard Rothman

From Publishers Weekly

Literary agent Lazear (Meditations for Men Who Do Too Much) addresses men who work too much so they can escape family life: "Work was nothing. What was really stressful was everything but work. Our jobs, as demanding as they were, were actually the safest place to hide from the realities of life." He helps readers assess their workaholic tendencies and learn strategies for change. Despite some standard remedies--leaving work early, scheduling family time--Lazear's anecdotes, especially about slipping back to his old work habits, will hit home.

Copyright 2001 Cahners Business Information, Inc.


Product Details

  • Hardcover: 208 pages
  • Publisher: Crown; 1st edition (May 22, 2001)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0609608460
  • ISBN-13: 978-0609608463
  • Product Dimensions: 7.7 x 5.3 x 0.7 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 12 ounces
  • Average Customer Review: 4.0 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (5 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #365,083 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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9 of 9 people found the following review helpful:
4.0 out of 5 stars Insightful!, September 25, 2002
This review is from: The Man Who Mistook His Job for a Life: A Chronic Overachiever Finds the Way Home (Hardcover)
Jonathon Lazear equates compulsive work with alcoholism - a dependency that amounts to a disease. Carrying on that analogy, Lazear presents a list of workaholism's symptoms, and a 10-step program to overcome the obsession with work. Although passages condemning overachievers and perfectionists will sound like fingernails on a chalkboard to many business men and women, we from getAbstract recommend this book to all executives, who would do well to heed this much of Lazear's advice: Make sure that you are not letting your job crowd out the important things in life.
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12 of 13 people found the following review helpful:
5.0 out of 5 stars Inspiring Memoir of A Workaholic, September 21, 2001
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Linda B. Pierce (Carmel, CA United States) - See all my reviews
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This book is a beautifully written glimpse into the inner life of a workaholic, particulary from a male point of view. I was very impressed with what the author accomplished -- evolving from a man whose self-worth was defined primarily by what he did for a living to a person who broadedned his world and identity to include a full human experience. He provides many helpful healing tips for workaholics. If you have the feeling that your work is your life, read this book!
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4.0 out of 5 stars Clarifies the boundaries between work and home, May 27, 2005
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Lazear focuses on his own experiences while discussing specifically how American males often confuse their personal lives with their professional ones. He attempts to teach his readers to allow for time with their families, friends, and lives outside of the workplace. This book has no comedic tone and yet based on the title and approach one would expect it..
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