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A Man Worth Waiting For: How to Avoid a Bozo

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Generally speaking, I don't enjoy reading "singles" books because a lot of them tend to be dopey but this book is incredible! I read it a few months ago and within the first few pages, I knew that the words in this book would have a major impact on my life. I was reading about Boaz and Jackie (the author) says that Boaz's are out there, but I was having a hard time believing that. So I kept reading and one day while I was driving I prayed, "Lord, she says that there is a Boaz out there but you have to show him to me because I don't know any!" Almost immediately He impressed upon me, "Why don't you think that I want this for you also? You must be patient and wait on Me." Again that night it was so clear..., "Don't you know that I want this for too? We're on the same team! Trust Me."
God has used this book to change me and to help solidify that I'm worth waiting for, that's it's worth waiting for my Boaz and that God and I are on the same side! Can I get an AMEN??? :)

All of my single gal-pal's have this book! It's a must read!

Are you single and looking? You need this book!

Most women have had experience with dating losers--or Bozos, as the author calls them--before they finally meet their Mr. Right--or Boaz, as the author calls him. When we date Bozos we all pay the price of the broken hearts, etc.

Author Kendall tells us in A Man Worth Waiting For, how the biblical account of Ruth taught her everything she needed to know about what to look for in a mate. She also shares successful stories from other women who have found their Mr. Right and not Mr. Right Now.

I wish I would have had this book to read when I was single, wanting to be married. It probably would have saved my family and me a lot of heartache, when I "fell in love" with a Bozo. I'm thankful that relationship ended and God brought a Boaz in my life.

This book includes a lot of valuable information about what a young lady should look for in a potential boyfriend/mate. A Man Worth Waiting For is a follow up to Kendall's bestseller Lady in Waiting, which I didn't have the fortune of reading. However, this book is definitely worth reading and is one that I will be saving for my teen daughter--and sons--to read.

"Let God write your love story," is wise advice that the author shares. If you or someone you know are looking, and maybe dating Bozo after Bozo, encourage them to get a copy of this book.

Discussion questions are included in between chapters, making this ideal for discussion groups.

Armchair Interviews says: Males would benefit from reading this book too, so they can learn how to be a Boaz.

I should note that I haven't read the book too deeply, and I read it about 2 month ago, so my opinion might be distorted.

It has lots of good points, especially the last chapter where the author gives a piece of advice for the girls in waiting, which I, being one myself, personally found very useful. Parts referring to describing Bozos are somewhat informative too, and might be useful to prevent many mistakes.

But the reason I didn't read the book too deep and do not want to re-read it again for the details is that I really didn't like the judgmental tone it uses (this review is pretty judgmental too, but well, it is a review, not a book). I'm not a native English speaker, so again, my judgment might be distorted, but calling a whole category of men, who might be drastically changed by God any moment now, a Bozo, or "what a looser!" kind of expressions are not appealing to me in any way.

Neither is, by the way, the expression "I bet this girl is a P-31", that Jackie's son (classified as a Boaz by the author) used when he first met his wife-to-be at a singles' meeting. Apparently, the expression is a code for a "Proverbs 31 woman" (don't know why, but that kind of identifying a "breed" only reminds me of a pet shop or a slave market). How he knew? Because the girl was nodding when the speaker made deeper remarks, which lead the guy to a conclusion "she was tracking with him and really had hunger for the truth". Oh, c'mon! I nod to my professors and to my pastor and to my girlfriends all the time, does that make me a wife that would put up with her husband sitting near the gate while she's running his house hold and is a successful businesswoman at the same time? Don't use Bible language to make your attraction to someone look holier than it actually is.
And don't call your advice "to guard one's heart" an "eleventh commandment". Yes, the advice is biblical, but God didn't call it a commandment, so why should Jackie or me?

Jackie lists multiple qualities of a "true Boaz" and insists that the girls are to look for such a man. But the thing is, she uses a multitude of men to illustrate those qualities; not even Boaz, as we know him, has them all (plus, wasn't he quite old? Judging from the fact he, not his parents, was in charge of his fields, I assume he was, not to mention Ruth was probably not his 1st wife. Am I supposed to wait for someone much older than me then?). The "MWWF"(=man worth waiting for) she describes is a collective image, and I am sure that every single men (both biblical and living ones) used as illustrations had and still have "Bozo moments" on their own from time to time. There are no 100% Boazes out there - for the mere reason we are all fallen humans, including the author and the readers, who might settle for the idea of demanding a Boaz without actually becoming a Ruth.

Yet, while reading the book, I got the idea that I am to look for one perfect man and not to settle down for anything else. Being anything but perfect myself I find that idea unfair and selfish. Plus, if I get something perfect already, where is that person supposed to grow from there for several decades we are hopefully supposed to spend together? Where's the fun of gardening?

The MWWF parts can be useful for guys though, as a kind of a role model, something to walk towards to. I think we ladies are supposed to leave reaching up to biblical standards for men to, well, men, and concentrate more on how to reach the standards prescribed for us.

I loved this book. A great follow up to Lady in Waiting. i wish I would have read it before my first marriage and I could have avoided a very sad divorce. I loved the comments from the different men quoted in the book. It's a must read for all single women who really want to do it God's way.

Jackie's book uplifted me so mcuh and gave hope that there are still Boazes out there. I love her contrast between a Bozo and a Boaz. She makes it clear, because as women we can be deceived easily. She writes about how a man's walk needs to line up with his talk, and encourages women to keep their standards high, and don't settle for anything less. She writes about how a man needs to love you as Christ loves the church- sacrificially! Its an amazing read and I would encourage you to buy this amazing book. Its really eye opening.

To begin with I should say that I'm not the typical reader in that I'm a guy, still I found this book to be a true blessing to me personally. I actually bought the book for a friend at work and got curious about it. Before I knew it I had a highlighter out marking it up. It was encouraging to me because Jackie says many things in this book that I have told my single friends (both men and women) and it is great to have a more mature source then myself to refer back to. I also found this book convicting in that it revealed areas of my life that I need to work on while at the same time giving me some new ideas.

I also enjoyed the book because Jackie is very practical in her approach. She accurately articulates high standards and gives practical criteria for evaluating whether or not they have been met. She also makes the point that all humans have flaws and the point is not to find perfection but rather a man with a progressive relationship with God.

I would strongly recommend this book to both men and women alike.

Blessings!

I recently purchased the book A MWWF and have since given away several.
Everytime I see copies, I buy them all and give them to my girlfriends
or pass on to single women.

I now know why my first two marriages failed; I chose the men. After
reading the book, I realized at one time I lacked the qualities of
godly female characters like Ruth. How could I expect a Boaz when I
was Ruth-less myself? Now that I have acquired and adapted godly
principles, it's time to quit wasting my time with Ruth-less men! I
now can get up in the morning and praise God that He gives me the
strength to wait for the real Boaz!

I love this book and wish I read it sooner and younger, before I started dating. It was really great that the author provided a biblical example of a man worth waiting for as well as qualities to look for in a suitable partner for today's generation. I will recommend this book to others who are thinking of starting to date, that way they can know how to avoid a bozo!!

This book is a must read for all girls/women who are thinking about or actively dating. So many women settle for any man who will take them rather than a man who will respect, protect and love them. This will shed light on those areas of character and belief that shape our dating disasters.

This is such a wonderful book. Jackie hits it right on the nail when it comes to explaining a woman's weakness for men, but gives encouraging biblical advice on how to find a Godly man. This gives me so much hope that God's on my side along with a wonderful man He molded just for me!