If The Man You Love Was Abused: A Couple's Guide to Healing [Bargain Price] [Paperback]

Marie H. Browne (Author), Marlene M. Browne (Author)

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Publication Date: January 19, 2007

The scars left on the hearts and souls of childhood abuse survivors run deep. They require time, patience and loving support to heal. Finally, "If the Man You Love Was Abused" offers a lifeline for the men who suffered childhood abuse, and the people who love them. This book will teach readers to: get the support that the survivor needs; make sure loved ones don't neglect their own needs; and, determine when, and how, to seek professional help.

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About the Author

Marie H. Browne, R.N. Ph.D (Westfield, NJ) a licensed marriage and family therapist and professor of psychiatric nursing for thirty-four years, maintains a thriving private practice providing therapy for individuals, couples and families. Her specialities include treating adolescent and adult victims of abuse, as well as their families. --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.

Product Details

• Paperback: 256 pages
• Publisher: Adams Media (January 19, 2007)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 159337643X
• ASIN: B001C46QV0
• Product Dimensions: 8.3 x 5.1 x 0.7 inches
• Shipping Weight: 7.2 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.5 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (10 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #364,386 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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25 of 26 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars If the Man You Love was Abused, January 10, 2009

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This review is from: If The Man You Love Was Abused: A Couple's Guide to Healing (Paperback)

At the point i ordered this book, i was desparate to find understanding in my relationship. My husband was sexually molested repeatedly as a child. This book was absolutely astounding to me. It helped me to understand why he was lashing out at me, why he was angry with his surroundings. He has begun to deal with the abuse, and the dissociative personality disorder that is reference in the book...he has shown signs of this. You may not even know that your partner is doing this behavior though,until you better understand what the book says. As his partner, i was not sure what to do....should i leave him, should i stay in this craziness...and when you are a partner---it feels crazy and your husband begins to work through all these feelings. The book continues to show me that i am not alone, and that my marriage fits the text book, as far as marriages with a person that has been abused. it focuses on all abuses, but highlights sexual abuse victims. If you are feeling alone, and abandoned, and not sure if you have a marriage or not, then you need this book. I cannot tell you how much it has helped me....God---thanks! I have highlighted and marked pages and underlined...my book is a mess with all my notes...but it has become my solace. When i feel confused with the things that my husband is feeling or saying, then i run to the book and reread things that coincide with that days emotions. i didn't read it straight through...i skipped all over the book, but i have read it all. i keep rereading it. We have been married for many years and have several children. He just says he is not happy, doesn't want to be married any more, exhibits anger toward me, seems to not be able to see my hurting, complains that i controlled him all these years, (which is totally explained in the book)...i know that he needs to confront his past, but i know i need to change too. i want to go to counseling, but he has refused, but now he thinks he might do it....he goes back and forth on this topic, and i know he is just so deeply confused. It discussed the need for medication...but my husband has resisted it totally, and i pray to GOD that one day i can help him. i really don't know where my life will take me, but without this book, i could not have moved through the stages of being a partner of someone who has been abused. At first i was clinging to him, begging him, but his book helped me to see that i must stop clinging to him...because it forces him to see that running away is the only choice he has. it gave me communciation tools to use when i talk to him. It told me how to set boundaries on his anger towards me...it gave me instructions about how to find support in others, since he cannot support me during this time in his healing. May God bless you if you are reading this, because He is the only way you will make it through this trial. When i read this book, i crawl into God's lap, and let him hold me through this pain. May you let God do the same as you read this book.

Blessings and peace.

19 of 19 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars A job well done..., March 21, 2007

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This review is from: If The Man You Love Was Abused: A Couple's Guide to Healing (Paperback)

I have just finished reading this book after hearing the author's on a talk show. I never understood what my husband was going through after having been abused as a boy.What I found most helpful was that though the authors are a Ph.D. and a lawyer, I had no trouble understanding the concepts. In fact, I suspect my husband might have a borderline personality disorder, as I understand it from the first part of the book. Anyway, after reading the book, cover to cover, I have been able to tell my husband that I am here for him, that I will help him, and that there is hope. I told him about the other famous abuse victims in the book, and he found it reassuring. He has agreed to see a counselor to address his rage and fears of abandonment and emptiness. I'm hopeful that with help, he will be able to understand that what was done to him does not have to ruin, his life, or our life together.

15 of 15 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars exceptionally inspiring, March 22, 2007

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This review is from: If The Man You Love Was Abused: A Couple's Guide to Healing (Paperback)

The authors of this book made me aware of how many types of abuse my brothers endured during childhood.They helped explain to me the potential consequences of my brothers' abuse and most importantly,helped give me insight on how to help us mend with many suggestions on understanding the consequences of abuse . The clinical studies mentioned in the book were most helpful as well.

Although I am not a PHD., I have passed this wonderful book on to those I do know. Thank you Dr. Browne and Marlene! Molly Jane