Manual Creation: Defining the Structure of an M/s Household [Paperback]

Machele Kindle (Author), Master Fire (Author)

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Publication Date: July 16, 2007

Master Fire has written an intimate and revealing look into her personal life as a Master. She has deliciously chronicled her thoughts and actions on Mastery and consensual slavery. Every aspect of slave management and life is addressed; from finances to protocols.

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About the Author

I am a female-identified, female-bodied Master. I began my public involvement in the leather community in 2001 when I attended my first MAsT meeting. I was a co-founder of Female Artists of Domination (FAD), a North Carolina based group formed in the summer of 2002 to support Female Dominants.

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A Deal Breaker is, basically, a relationship boundary. This means that these are things that you must have in order for the relationship to be valid and emotionally healthy for you. It’s my opinion that slaves do have the right to have boundaries. They also have the right to give up any and all boundaries. It is their choice, as it is for all of us. Only you can decide what is going to be healthy for you. The reason I feel that slaves are entitled to have boundaries is this: setting a boundary isn’t a form of topping from the bottom. In fact, when you set a boundary you are simply saying, “This is what I need. However, if this need is not met, there are consequences.” In doing this, you are allowing the other person the freedom to choose to do as they wish. You are not trying to control “their stuff”. You are stating “your stuff” and giving them the opportunity to meet, or not, your needs. Whether they do or not defines whether you remain in the relationship. This is simply you reacting to “their stuff”. You can love a person, sometimes deeply, and still realize that the relationship is toxic for you, them, or both, and choose to walk away. Many people who are involved with an addict face this dilemma. As a healthy adult, everyone, in my eyes, has the right to state what they need, then to choose their own actions based on the reaction(s) of others. For me, the deal breakers listed here are the bare bone limits that I need to be fulfilled in order to maintain an M/s relationship. Notice that three of the four in my list have, at their core, nothing to do with the M/s relationship dynamics. In actuality, if we left out the bit about obedience, these are the boundaries that I have in any relationship. There are other things that would hurt me deeply (like forgetting my birthday…really…I have issues there), but because I trust that someone would make an effort to respect my boundaries if they really were committed to me, I don’t include specific behaviors here. In actuality, once I made my unhappiness clear about someone’s behavior and they repeated the behavior, I’d probably count that under malicious conduct. Yes, I have ended relationships where the birthday issue was the last straw. When stating your boundaries, try to focus on your emotional/psychological reactions to the action of the other person, not the action of the other person itself. I had to recently reword my boundaries in order to do this, so I know it can be hard.

Product Details

• Paperback: 219 pages
• Publisher: Nazca Plains Corp; 1 edition (July 16, 2007)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 1887895817
• ISBN-13: 978-1887895811
• Product Dimensions: 8.4 x 7.6 x 0.8 inches
• Shipping Weight: 14.9 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 3.2 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (4 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #908,283 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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28 of 33 people found the following review helpful:

1.0 out of 5 stars Extremely bad information from an inexperienced person, September 28, 2008

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Krimson (Seattle, Wa USA) - See all my reviews

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This review is from: Manual Creation: Defining the Structure of an M/s Household (Paperback)

This was written by a person that has less then 5 years of experience, who went to a week-end class and then called herself a Dominant (P.16). Now she is giving bad information about subjects that she has little real knowledge about. For example, she has a chapter on a poly house without having ever had a poly house or any kind of poly experience (P.86). The author's idea of dominance is to domineer rather than to dominate (P.218). She is quoting an "online" dominant that admits to having only one year of online experience let along no real-time experience.

She is extremely inconsistent in what she says, she tries to use psychology to explain behaviors but it is obvious that she has no real understanding of slave psychology (or any other kind of psychology). She has serious personal issues (such as abandonment P.33), pettiness, and other serious control issues that she writes about whereas she should not be giving advise to beginners that are seeking truth. She shows her style of dominance as being manipulative based upon her own insecurities... (P.41). The book is fragmented and rambles on and on.

This is a book that is filled with very bad and misleading information concerning this way of life by an inexperienced person with a lot of personal issues and little real ability to Dominate.

I would not even recommend this book to my cat. It is poorly written and there are other far better books that deal with the same issues and subjects overall. If there was a negative rating this would get a negative 4 stars.

16 of 22 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars A look inside the mind of a conscientious master, March 13, 2007

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TammyJo Eckhart "TammyJo Eckhart" (Bloomington, Indiana United States) - See all my reviews
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This review is from: Manual Creation: Defining the Structure of an M/s Household (Paperback)

In 8 chapters, Machele Kindle, otherwise known as Master Fire, lays out her reasoning and purpose behind her own M/s household's structure. Her approach is purposeful, meant to help her readers consider what they want and how to get it while being grounded in reality. Each section includes three parts: first her reasoning behind each set of expectations, second a set of questions for both wouldbe masters and wouldbe slaves to consider, and finally a copy of the relevant section of her own manual. A good look into one master's mind that does not fall into the common trap of thinking hers is the only way a relationship should function

13 of 18 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Nothing else like this in print, October 18, 2007

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Bill Cunningham (New York) - See all my reviews

This review is from: Manual Creation: Defining the Structure of an M/s Household (Paperback)

This is a very important book in the literature about Master/slave relations and, in particular, about Master/slave Households. This book is both very narrow and very broad. It is narrow because it remains true to discussing the often-complex workings of a Leather Household. It is broad in that it succeeds extremely well in covering the intricacies and give and take of such a Household.

For those of you interested in the Leather Master/slave life, it's a "must read."