How to Marry A Black Man [Paperback]

Monique Jellerette deJongh (Author), Cassandra Marshall Cato-Louis (Author), Barbara Brandon (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: January 1, 1997

Ten of Monique and Cassandra's twenty-five tips...

1.      Get your act togetha, so when you finally do meet Mr. Right, he can't resist you.
2.      Smile and say "hello" to every Black man you see.
3.      Forgive old lovers and make peace with them.
4.      Tell everyone you know that you're looking for a husband.
5.      Go on as may blind dates as possible.
6.      Date men who are not your "type"--you may be pleasantly surprised.
7.      If you ask a man a series of questions within the first five minutes of meeting him, he'll tell you almost anything you want to know.  After that he clams up and won't tell you a thing.
8.      If you realize right away he is someone you don't like but does have an interesting job or hobby, he may have a friend who's perfect for you.
9.      If he's available and you like him, don't hesitate to let him know.
10.     Dress conservatively.  If you attract him with your body, how are you going to keep him with your mind?

About six years ago, on the eve of her thirtieth birthday, Monique Jellerette was desperate to get married, but couldn't seem to find the right man.  A married friend, Cassandra, offered some solid (albeit unsolicited) advice. Monique, determined to do it her own way, suffered through a few more dates from Hell before she realized Cassandra's tips might make sense.  So she started putting Cassandra's suggestions to work, made up a few tricks of her own, and devised a plan of action...Six months later Monique met and married Bob and became Mrs. Monique Jellerette deJongh!  Now, in How to Marry a Black Man, Mrs. Monique Jellerette deJongh and Mrs. Cassandra Marshall Cato-Louis share their secrets with women everywhere.

Based on Monique and Cassandra's proven techniques, and coupled with the results of all-male focus groups on what Black men are really looking for in a prospective mate, How to Marry a Black Man is part manual/journal and part workbook, and delivers the goods on how to master the dating game and find a husband.

Editorial Reviews

From the Publisher

"Black men, get this--the sisters have done it! They got the formula for turning the brothers into husbands. Buy it, read it, and learn how to protect yourself, or don't--just go buy the ring." --Melvin Van Peebles
--This text refers to the Hardcover edition.

From the Inside Flap

Ten of Monique and Cassandra's twenty-five tips...

1.      Get your act togetha, so when you finally do meet Mr. Right, he can't resist you.
2.      Smile and say "hello" to every Black man you see.
3.      Forgive old lovers and make peace with them.
4.      Tell everyone you know that you're looking for a husband.
5.      Go on as may blind dates as possible.
6.      Date men who are not your "type"--you may be pleasantly surprised.
7.      If you ask a man a series of questions within the first five minutes of meeting him, he'll tell you almost anything you         want to know.  After that he clams up and won't tell you a thing.
8.      If you realize right away he is someone you don't like but does have an interesting job or hobby, he may have a friend who's perfect for you.
9.      If he's available and you like him, don't hesitate to let him know.
10.     Dress conservatively.  If you attract him with your body, how are you going to keep him with your mind?

About six years ago, on the eve of her thirtieth birthday, Monique Jellerette was desperate to get married, but couldn't seem to find the right man.  A married friend, Cassandra, offered some solid (albeit unsolicited) advice. Monique, determined to do it her own way, suffered through a few more dates from Hell before she realized Cassandra's tips might make sense.  So she started putting Cassandra's suggestions to work, made up a few tricks of her own, and devised a plan of action...Six months later Monique met and married Bob and became Mrs. Monique Jellerette deJongh!  Now, in How to Marry a Black Man, Mrs. Monique Jellerette deJongh and Mrs. Cassandra Marshall Cato-Louis share their secrets with women everywhere.

Based on Monique and Cassandra's proven techniques, and coupled with the results of all-male focus groups on what Black men are really looking for in a prospective mate, How to Marry a Black Man is part manual/journal and part workbook, and delivers the goods on how to master the dating game and find a husband. --This text refers to the Hardcover edition.

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Product Details

• Paperback: 256 pages
• Publisher: Broadway; 2/1/1997 edition (January 1, 1997)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0385482477
• ISBN-13: 978-0385482479
• Product Dimensions: 5.5 x 0.5 x 7 inches
• Shipping Weight: 7 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.1 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (7 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #212,934 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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16 of 19 people found the following review helpful:

2.0 out of 5 stars Disappointment, July 30, 2000

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This review is from: How to Marry A Black Man (Paperback)

I was already skeptical of this book from reading the title, but decided to try to give the book a fair shot anyhow. Unfortunatly, it lived up to my low expections and proved to be little more than a how-to-guide for trapping a man. With sections like six trix (tricks) this book was little more than a guide to game playing and pulling every trick in the book (no pun intended) to win the grand prize of a husband. One section advises, "go out with anyone who doesn't make you sick," while another advises that "it is better to sleep with a man sooner than later," along with other questionable sexual advice. I also thought the book had too many self-tests, and did not offer enough solid advice on building and maintaining a positive relationships. The author's only advice -- compromise. I did think that the little caricatures of the two authors were kind of cute, but the ebonics throughout the text was not. I do not recommend this book for anyone looking for serious pre-marital advice, but if you are looking for some light, entertaining reading, than this might be the book for you.

5 of 5 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars This is the REAL DEAL!, October 18, 2004

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K. M. O'Connell (Queens, NY) - See all my reviews
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This review is from: How to Marry A Black Man (Paperback)

This is a fun and deceptively easy book to read. But if you follow the advice of the authors you will find yourself getting your act together FOR REAL, and getting your priorities straight when it comes to finding the right guy to marry.

Some of the exercises in the book are just plain fun, like the pink bubble meditation, and some are hard, they really force you to take a good hard look at yourself, no rose colored glasses!

I especially like the "Word from the Brothas" sidebars because they give you a real inside take on the thoughts of men. They are surprising!

I definitely recommend this book to women who are serious about getting hitched.

4 of 4 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Open your mind and your heart will follow, October 5, 2004

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NickiNev "NickiNev" (New York, NY) - See all my reviews

This review is from: How to Marry A Black Man (Paperback)

This book gives great advice on the art of attracting and intriguing the opposite sex. It is not only for Black men but all men. I am happily married now for 2 years and read this book when it first came out.

It helps you as a person get your mind around what you truly are invisioning in a spouse - what your core needs and desires are - so that you can weed out the good ones from the bad.

I hope more people will read this book so they can get a better persepctive of the games we should play versus the games we shouldn't play - namely those with ourselves - delusion.