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How to Marry the Rich

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Considering how many men want submissive little mail-order brides from developing countries, or large silicon breasted blondes, or mindless ninnies, or whatever, I cannot get too upset about somebody wanting to marry a wealthy person. Having said that, I must admit this book surprised me because it teaches readers a lot about setting high standards in intimate personal relationships. Anyone (male or female) who feels they have ever allowed themselves to be treated less well than they deserve, or who feels they need to raise expectations regarding what is acceptable behavior from their partner, should benefit from this author's lessons in practical psychology. And if you find that you also want to marry rich, GO FOR IT. In any case, it seems a more honourable way to gain wealth than through the sort of vile and back-stabbing political behavior one often sees in the corporate world.

Updated May 1st, 2009

Here are a few of the treats you are in for if you are fortunate to find a copy of this book and serious about making the changes to improve your life it suggests:

1) The 23 confidence and self-esteem builders you must know, cultivate and put into practice to position you among the Rich. (page 19)
2) Seven sure ways to build for yourself a "Rich Self Esteem" (page 27)
3) Learn where to park your car! (Laugh, go ahead - but I still think about it and practice this important step each time I park my Lexus) - (pg. 29)
4) The Six critical changes you can make to thrust your self-image to a new level you never thought possible. (pg. 32)
5) Women: How do you enter a limousine? (page 42)
6) Men: What jewelry is required for you to wear? (page 36)
7) Learn to make introductions effortlessly (page 44)
8) Men: Going into a restaurant with your date as the maitre d' or hostess motions you to follow to your table....do you "lead" by going first, in front of your date to follow the hostess? Or do you allow and motion politely to your date to go first and you follow? (see page 45 - p.s. why didn't someone teach me this in school!!!)
9) Learn the one thing that most ostracizes you from creating friendships at a social event than any other breach of social etiquette. (pg. 52)
10) How to build instant rapport with anyone to whom you want to impress. (pg.53)
11) Men: How to lead a women up and down the stairs (Women...oh, don't you wish men would do this! - pg. 53)
12) Goal reinforcement and Self-evaluation checklist (pg.60 - very, very powerful!)
13) I never take a drink of water at a restaurant without first thinking of and doing this. (pg. 47)
14) How to solve the problem once and for all about being comfortable around the Rich (pg. 63)

END Part I - To Be Continued

In the summer of 2001, I had just been made redundant from a top-flight job that I enjoyed very much in the city of London. In a mood of some despondency I attended Mrs Sayles' lecture the day I collected my final pay-check. Her enthusiasm and sheer good common-sense were wonderful to behold. At the end of it, I emerged positively glowing and convinced that I would succeed and, a few days later, secured another job working in one of the top theatre companies in the world. Apparently, at my interview, the interviewees decided instantly I was "the one" - despite a list of over 150 applicants!! I'm convinced that Mrs Sayles' words helped give me the confidence I was somewhat lacking at the time. Since then, I have purchased this book and find it every bit as inspirational as her lecture, although sadly lacking the magnetism of her actual presence (hence my award of only four stars for the book)! I find, much to my amazement, that I've been following a lot of her suggestions for many years, which probably explains why I often secure jobs which put me in touch with wealthy people and allow me to enjoy a lot of the perks of great wealth. Some of it is, at first read, a bit shocking - it's a bit of a quantum leap to come to terms with her rather hard-headed stance on relationships. However, such an approach is ideal for the business world and for any area of life where one wants to succeed.

I get very irritated with those who see her as nothing more than a gold-digger. I've known too many, usually highly-intelligent, women get involved with absolute losers who have treated them like door-mats and worse! Once the marriage or relationship is over (and it always is, eventually), there is often years of misery fighting over money, especially where children are involved. At least Mrs Sayles suggests to women that they ought to pay attention to getting what they are worth from a relationship, instead of letting their hearts rule their heads. Also, hard though it may be to take, very few people want "the true you". What they want is their vision of "the true you", and Ginie shows one how to package and market that vision - she doesn't suggest that one should believe one's own publicity and become something other than what one truly is. At the end of the day, one has a choice - one can lead one's life bemoaning the fact that one never quite gets the man, the job or the lifestyle of one's dreams, or buy Ginie Sayles' book, follow her advise and go out there and get one's dream!!

I saw Ginie Polo-Sayles on Oprah and decided to check out her book. She offers a lot of helpful advice on dating & maintaining relationships. I was relieved that she didn't focus on being a gold digger but chose to suggest options for self-improvement, finding the right person to fit your needs (not just financially) and becoming aware of who you are involved with.

Since I come from a upper middle class background & so do most of my friends I have seen what happens to women when they date below their own economic class. People think it's just men who get stuck with financial burdens during divorces but that isn't true! Some of my friends have had horrible settlements paying their husbands during the divorce! One friend in particular had a man use her for money & connections then financially took her to the cleaners in the divorce. (No she didn't have a prenuptial agreement but she should have!) Checking out a man's background before getting married & watching for warning signs would have helped her avoid what happened to her.

In her book Ginie points out how to check out the man you are dating to see if he is for real. She also has a section on pre-nuptial agreements which is useful to make sure you are protected. The key is to know what you want from a relationship & making sure it's mutually beneficial. Despite the title she's not telling you to use men to get what you want. Ginie tells you to figure out your needs & wants then find the right man with whom you can enjoy a lifelong relationship.

Use this book as a resource to find 'Mr. Right' & be ethical about it. Don't let people tell you it's game planning because it's not. No one can't play a game forever and most people will be on their best behavior while dating regardless of whether they read this book or not. Adjusting your habits (especially bad habits), improving your appearance & dating behavior is just common sense when you are trying to find a lifelong partner.

I would recommend this book to anyone who hasn't found the right person yet & wants to find someone to fit into their desired lifestyle.

The book actually changed my self-perception. It was referred to me by a psychiatrist who said the book was good Cognitive psychology for a positive relationship with myself and money and relationships. The message I got from Ginie Sayles in this book is that whether or not I decide to marry somebody with money is not the only point - one point is that if I meet somebody with money, I will feel equal - and now that I have read the book and put it into practice, I finally do feel equal. I really needed this.

I have given away every copy of this book I ever had - to computer security experts! The book explains the range of techniques that one can use to deliberately gain someone's trust by digging up private or semi-private information on them. Spies, private eyes, investigative journalists, etc., can all use the techniques, depending on how much they want to put on the line. Let's face it, most military secrets in the world were "sucked out" of the most trusted military leaders using exactly these methods: manipulation of social trust, deliberate setting-up of "coincidental" situations, small scale lies that exploit people's natural trust, etc..

Oh, yes, they're useful to marry the rich, too! When I was designing an internet dating system (webpersonals.com) i made some of my designers read this book. The women couldn't get enough of it, and it tended to make the men a little paranoid. But if there's even one Ginie Polo Sayles in the world, no one is safe! Better to know...!

There is a proliferation of internet millionaires in Silicon Valley & guess what they aren't looking for Sarah Plain & Tall. So why shouldn't we girls settle for men who require us to "work with them" instead of a man who truly adores us, and has the means to provide well for us? Ginie's book is a classic. She hits the nail on the head. Don't settle for less than what you're worth.

One word. Excellent. Judge the book by it's cover. Gini information is SO relevant...not only for thise wanting a man rich in financial terms but for ANYONE who desires a mate rich in character. Rules to live by...Gini is right on. This is a MUST BUY

The book actually changed my self-perception. It was referred to me by a psychiatrist who said the book was good Cognitive psychology for a positive relationship with myself and money and relationships. The message I got from Ginie Sayles in this book is that whether or not I decide to marry somebody with money is not the only point - one point is that if I meet somebody with money, I will feel equal - and now that I have read the book and put it into practice, I finally do feel equal. I really needed this.

When I first saw the cover of this book, my stomach churned and I was incredulous that such pathetic mercenaries would exist. But then I read it-- and it actually has some really good thought behind it, as well as lots of great ideas and suggestions for those who either want to marry rich or just become rich someday.