Mars and Venus on a Date [Abridged, Audiobook] [Audio Cassette]

John Gray (Author, Reader)

Book Description

Publication Date: June 11, 1997

In Mars and Venus On A Date John Gray blasts off into the exciting new territory of the singles universe, turning his unique expertise to unattached men and women who desire lasting intimacy.

Mars and Venus on a Date is for all those single people who are looking for love, including the newly separated or divorced daunted by the singles scene. With the compassion and understanding that John Gray brings to all of his work, he takes us through the five stages of dating: Attraction, Uncertainty, Exclusivity, Intimacy, and Engagement. Listeners will find creative ideas on how to find their soulmates and thoughts on how to create a loving and mutually fulfilling relationship.

The singles universe can be a frightening place, and the men and women alone in this void have great need for the practical, proven wisdom of John Gray. In the same way that Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus became the ultimate relationship aid for couples, Mars and Venus on a Date is the essential singles' guide.

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The latest tentacle of John Gray's formidable Mars and Venus octopus deals with a topic near to the heart of almost everybody--dating. With a lot of insight and common sense, Gray tackles the hard and often messy business of finding "a soul mate." Without fear or favor, Mars and Venus on a Date dissects the dynamics between men and women and the five stages each relationship must pass through: attraction, uncertainty, exclusivity, intimacy, and, finally, engagement (for marriage, of course). Even though Mars and Venus on a Date isn't The Rules by a long shot, the courtship it describes is surprisingly old-fashioned. It's chock-full of things your mother might say: "Most people find or are found by their soul mates when they are not really looking." "The man should never talk more than the woman." But how to know if the person you're with is your "soul mate?" Gray writes, "When our soul wants to marry our partner, it feels like a promise that we came into this world to keep." Which translates into, "When you know, you know." --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.

From Library Journal

You're from another planet if you don't know who wrote this singles dating guide.
Copyright 1997 Reed Business Information, Inc.

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Product Details

• Audio Cassette
• Publisher: HarperAudio (June 11, 1997)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 069451845X
• ISBN-13: 978-0694518456
• Product Dimensions: 7 x 4.5 x 0.8 inches
• Shipping Weight: 6.7 ounces
• Average Customer Review: 3.9 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (142 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #1,403,044 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)
  • #6 in Books > Books on Cassette > Authors, A-Z > ( G ) > Gray, John
  • #47 in Books > Books on Cassette > Parenting & Families > Family Relationships

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14 of 14 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars From a guy to other guys, read this book!, December 1, 2009

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Chillout fan (Chicago, IL United States) - See all my reviews

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This review is from: Mars and Venus on a Date: A Guide for Navigating the 5 Stages of Dating to Create a Loving and Lasting Relationship (Paperback)

I'm a 50 something divorced guy, I'd never given thought to "stages of dating". I knew I felt different things as a relationship progressed, but had never been tried to pinpoint just what it all was about.

John Gray's 5 stages; attraction, uncertainty, exclusivity etc. and the need to do `em in order was spot on. It helped me label the emotions I feel and recognize when I'm letting my sweet daydreams intrude on reality in a new relationship.

The section on "elasticity" was also revealing. You know how a guy goes hot & cold on a relationship? JG explains that it's a process guys do to test their feelings for someone. We get close, then get unsure if she's the one, so we pull back. The revealing thing for guys is to figure out, after we've pulled back, are we happier with or without her, and then act on that feeling.

Those two thoughts alone are worth the price.

28 of 32 people found the following review helpful:

4.0 out of 5 stars All Stages Are Necessary, August 22, 2003

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Melissa Darnay, author of Dating 101 (Dallas, TX United States) - See all my reviews

This review is from: Mars and Venus on a Date: A Guide for Navigating the 5 Stages of Dating to Create a Loving and Lasting Relationship (Paperback)

The book describes the five stages of courtship: attraction, uncertainty, exclusivity, intimacy, engagement. Although different people have called these stages different things, the second stage is the one that is unique to this book. When a couple begins dating, there is inevitably a period of uncertainty. Even if someone expresses his undying love on Friday night (and really means it), he can change his mind by Saturday morning. This period of uncertainty can really throw the other person off. "How can he possibly not love me today, when he loved me yesterday? What happened? What changed?"

As a dating expert, I know first-hand that people are most confused by this period of uncertainty. And John Gray uncovers another gem-much uncertainty is caused by rushing intimacy. Once you understand this concept that, your next relationship will have a much greater chance of success if you follow the five stages of courtship in the order they were intended.

This book is more like reading Shakespeare than flipping through the pages of Cosmopolitan. John Gray's writing style reflects the fact that he spent many years in school, writing thesis after thesis. Although it may be more fun to watch Sex and the City, reading this book will be a lot cheaper than reclining on a therapist's couch. Plus, you'll be one step closer to a lasting relationship.

24 of 27 people found the following review helpful:

4.0 out of 5 stars A good read, but form your own opinions..., August 10, 2003

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K. Fulton (Colorado) - See all my reviews
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This review is from: Mars and Venus on a Date: A Guide for Navigating the 5 Stages of Dating to Create a Loving and Lasting Relationship (Paperback)

This book has some good points and bad points. Like most relationship guides (i.e. The Rules), if you agree with what the author is saying, it's a good book. If you don't agree with them, it's a bad book. I think the point to take away with this book is that John Gray has talked to a LOT of people about relationships and the suggestions and information in this book is based on what he learned from talking to real people.

For example, he talks about why men don't call after a date. I had no idea that if a man didn't call you, it doesn't necessarily mean he doesn't like you. It's good to know the other reasons why he's not calling, and that not only is it okay for you to call him, but you SHOULD call him because it'll let him know that you're not mad at him for not calling!

He does have some very old fashioned views, such as, the man should always pay for the dates. Nevermind if the man makes $25K a year and the woman makes $70K... now-a-days that kind of thinking is just not practical. He also says some strange things like, if a man opens a car door for you, you should not reach over and unlock his door because that will take away all the pleasure that he got from opening the car door for you.

All in all, it's a good read, has some good information about the five stages of dating, why men and women act the way they do, how to talk to each other, and how to act. Take what you agree with and use it, but form your own opinions. Don't follow it like it's a bible.