Mars and Venus on a Date: A Guide for Navigating the 5 Stages of Dating to Create a Loving and Lasting Relationship (Paperback)

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The latest tentacle of John Gray's formidable Mars and Venus octopus deals with a topic near to the heart of almost everybody--dating. With a lot of insight and common sense, Gray tackles the hard and often messy business of finding "a soul mate." Without fear or favor, Mars and Venus on a Date dissects the dynamics between men and women and the five stages each relationship must pass through: attraction, uncertainty, exclusivity, intimacy, and, finally, engagement (for marriage, of course). Even though Mars and Venus on a Date isn't The Rules by a long shot, the courtship it describes is surprisingly old-fashioned. It's chock-full of things your mother might say: "Most people find or are found by their soul mates when they are not really looking." "The man should never talk more than the woman." But how to know if the person you're with is your "soul mate?" Gray writes, "When our soul wants to marry our partner, it feels like a promise that we came into this world to keep." Which translates into, "When you know, you know." --This text refers to the Hardcover edition.

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Product Details

• Paperback: 400 pages
• Publisher: Harper Paperbacks (June 3, 1999)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 006093221X
• ISBN-13: 978-0060932213
• Product Dimensions: 7.9 x 5.3 x 1.1 inches
• Shipping Weight: 10.4 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 3.9 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (129 customer reviews)
• Amazon.com Sales Rank: #15,406 in Books (See Bestsellers in Books)

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14 of 14 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Insightful., July 22, 2009

By	D. Blakely - See all my reviews (REAL NAME)

I do agree that this book is a bit old fashioned. However, what used to work in the good old days worked for a reason and for that, this is a book that I think many women should read. It's hard to always be frustrated by circumstance and when men don't respond in the way you wish, it can be downright frustrating. Overall, this is a book that may seen flash in the pan, but isn't. It's got some good insight and for that I recommend it, along with Man Magnet: How to Be the Best Woman You Can Be in Order to Get the Best Man-A Guide To Dating (Revised Edition).

22 of 27 people found the following review helpful:

3.0 out of 5 stars If you want marriage but keep getting stuck on the way there, January 12, 2000

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This review is from: Mars and Venus on a Date: A Guide for Navigating the 5 Stages of Dating to Create a Loving & Lasting Relationship (Hardcover)

Some of us have known for some time that we want to find our soul mate and make a committment, but the path isn't so clear cut. For me, and for several friends in that situation, this book has been very helpful. John Gray has gotten through my internal block, allowing me a perspective shift. Learning dating rituals and taking them on had seemed false to me; afterall, why shouldn't I open my date's door for him, or pick up the tab on every other date or so? If he doesn't call me when I expect it, why shouldn't I either call him or dump him? If we feel close to each other and want to share some new level of intimacy, what's the harm in two consenting adults doing so? Shouldn't my approach to all relationships of equality in life carry through here as well? By coming at the problem through an understanding of gender differences, Gray shows why behaviors that work in other parts of life might not be applicable here.

I'm not exaggerating in saying that I saw an overnight change in my dating style and success based on what I gleaned from this book.

My only issue with the book is that it is written to such a general audience that I found I had to really sift through it to find the kernels of wisdom. It can be very repetative. Sometimes I did find his advice clashed with my own values and life experience. Still, it was worth reading it with a grain of salt. Anyway, shouldn't we be critical of anything we read?

12 of 14 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars A MUST for everyone!, September 6, 2005

By	Angela Mathis (Iowa City, IA) - See all my reviews (REAL NAME)

Talk about a wake-up call. I'm 30 years-old and feel like this book taught me more about relationships (men vs. women mentality) in 1 hour than I've learned in all that time. While reading it, you will have light-bulb after light-bulb type moments. Heck, you may even smack yourself square in the forehead with a resounding, "D'oh!" John Gray knows men and he knows women, and the biggest lesson he contiues to teach is that we are NOT the same. We do NOT think the same. This book does a fantastic job of not only explaining that, but also giving us advice on how we go about having a successful relationship in spite of our differences. A must read. For women...AND men!