While Andrew firmly informed Franklin that he considered his mother to be the woman who raised him, a central point of the book is that adoptive families--like many families in a world where divorce and remarriage are common--are flexible, elastic institutions. Franklin, who is the only birth parent on the board of directors of an adoption agency, values her contact with adoptive parents on the board (as well as with Andrew's father and mother) because it helps all of them understand others' perspectives and break through the barriers of fear and ignorance that can isolate members of the "adoption triad." Franklin uses many excerpts from interviews with and writings by birth parents, adoptees, and adoptive parents. Ably assisted by freelance writer Elizabeth Ferber, she organizes these varied voices into a unified narrative that leads readers through each phase of the adoption process, which evolves over the lifetime of all the participants. --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.
Poignant, timeless, and compelling, this book should be required reading for every young woman considering adoption and its likely consequences.Published on December 27, 2003 by Richard Lindberg
A must read for any member of the adoption triad- or anyone who's life has been touched by adoption. Read morePublished on July 23, 2001
As an adoptive mother, I read this book looking for some insight into the mind of a birth mother. I had regular conversation with my child's birth mother before and after he was... Read morePublished on March 27, 2000
The only reason I give this book even two stars is that it's written by a birth mother, which is pretty unusual. Read morePublished on March 22, 2000