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Mean Girls: Facing Your Beauty Turned Beast

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This book looks gorgeous and its effect on my daughter has been AMAZING! She loved "Dateable" (by Hayley) so this book was an easy purchase for me.

First off, this book is not for dealing with physical bullying, rather, for verbal meanness. This is not a book to help prevent (or even understand Columbine.) Hayley DiMarco tackles the all too common "everyday mean", mean that is just written off as being ingrained into the catty female culture. Hayley gives refreshing counter-culture advice, one that potentially makes peace and wins over enemies while teaching a valuable lesson that the world doesn't revolve around "me" and my "rights".

While a few people might have a pessimistic view of Hayley's out of mainstream methods (she discourages confrontations and the whole "how did that make you feel?" encounter and encourages girls to not take themselves so seriously and focus on higher things), I found the advice highly insightful coming from a woman who was scarred by mean girls in high school all the way through through corporate America. She talks about having all guy friends as a result and rediscovering how she had to "relearn" how to be friends with women.

The last thing you feel like after reading the book is that of a victim. This book gives plenty of practical advice for teen girls dealing with mean, and a bigger spiritual perspective to grow on.

Highly recommended for the teen girl in your life that is open to the concept that life is bigger than just her. If she needs the world to revolve around her, she's probably going to come up empty and still searching for someone else to blame after reading this book (unless she has an epiphany!)

Every teen girl should have a chance to read it. Some of the greatest spiritual figures in history have lived by a similar walk that how you treat people matters more than how they treat you. This message is lost on the cynical. My teen daughter read this book hoping to find help with her mean girl problem and discovered the ways she was encouraging or even being mean. The changes in her have been simply amazing! A must read!!

Mean Girls by DiMarco has some great points to offer and she helps spell out what different kinds of mean look like. Unfortunately, she repeats a lot of the same information in different formats and the book becomes redundant. I have been using this book for a junior high small group and it became difficult to really get into any meat after the first 3-4 weeks. For an individual girl, I think it can be helpful to label the subtle ways girls can be mean and ways they can move beyond mean to live a life committed to God first. I appreciate the way she calls it what it is and challenges teens to raise the bar in how they are living. I think watching the movie, Mean Girls, adds more to the book, even though the two are unrelated. Overall, it is a decent book.

This book is totally awesome! I sure do wish I had it when I was in high school. I was one who did the tormenting and was also on the flip side as well. DiMarco's style of standing up and being the bigger person - ignoring the bully - is exactly what's needed! You bully someone because it's fun, because it provokes a response. If it doesn't, you move on to something else.

Teaching teens to turn the other cheek is the best lesson one can learn these days. If we are truly striving to be like Jesus, why are we trying to get even, trying to tattle, or trying not to befriend those who aren't 'cool'. Man - I'm sure that Jesus doesn't think I'm the coolest person in the world when I'm not living at my best. But I'm glad He loves me and wants to be my best friend no matter what.

There are MANY valuable lessons to be learned through this book. Girls just need to be receptive to them and remember we are supposed to be Christlike in our behaviors - not like the world. And that's not always easy.

I think I came across this book because GOd knew I needed to read this amazing book..All of my life ive struggle with mean girls till this day I still do..Ive read this book and I couldnt put it down..yes it has a lot of repitions but its only to remind us whats important to keep in mind..Im really glad I came across this book..I just wish I could have read it when I was younger..I highly recommend it!!

To be fair, I only read up to page 65. By then, I knew that this book would hold no useful advice for me. I am a Christian teenage girl. I bought this book, having only read the summary/blurb and first page or so. The first chapters just talk about the author's life. They were vaugley interesting, but held no advice. After a quick pop quiz, the tone of the book changes drastically. The "life lesson" that it pushes in each pages is along the lines of "Shut up and take it". Not only that, but the pages become peppered with bible references and quotes, as well as the author's own ideas, such as what Jesus thinks of the bully, and five things you can do to please him. In all, the book turns into a evangelist tract. There are even suggestions of prayers frequently.

Quick quotes-

"Your Mean Girl might just be your opportunity to die to self".
"Let's look deeper into God's word to find out why she {The mean girl} is in your life."
"Telling will only add fuel to her fire"
"Make sure that your motives are pure and that you are only doing what God's word, not your emotion, calls you to do."

This book is exactly the opposite of what I (And many other self-help books I have read to deal with bullying) believe. I think that if someone is mean, you have the right to tell her where to get off, and get a teacher to enforce that she does. "Mean Girls" seems to encourage young girls to mix their friendship problems with God. I don't think so.

I thought it was really interesting to read about why girls act mean and what you can do against it. What Hayley DiMarco writes about this topic is REALLY true and so I recommend the book to everyone who is interested in "mean girls" and their behaviour and wants to know why it's "so NOT easy to be a female".

If you want to know more about "mean girls" watch the movie "MEAN GIRLS - watch your back" and let me tell you: this is not just another teen movie!

This is by far the best book I've read on the subject. Hayley DiMarco presents the subject from all angles, with a solid biblical perspective, in a way that girls can relate to. She asks the hard questions like "Why might I be the victim?" challenging girls to look at themselves and what they might be doing to provoke the aggression. She discusses what to do when girls do find themselves under attack, as well as presenting a life-changing perspective on how God can use this to develop their spiritual walk. If you only buy one book on the subject, this is the one to get!

This short book is a valuable tool in fighting the 6th grade meanies....no matter how sweet the girl, these meanies attack at this age.
Parents, particularly mothers, can be of so much help if they are on top of this to begin with and work through the issues with not only their own daughter, but their friends. This book is a wonderful basis for a girls'group bible study, with different moms helping lead if possible. We ALL need help in this area and everyone benefits from confronting the issue and dealing with it in this comprehensive way as presented by the author.

Highly recommended to read about what the BIBLE says about how girls and women should respond to and interact with one another! Great insight!

I thought it was really interesting to read about why girls act mean and what you can do against it. What Hayley DiMarco writes about that topic is REALLY true and so I recommend the book to everyone who is interested in "mean girls" and their behaviour and wants to know why it's "so NOT easy to be a female".

If you want to know more about "mean girls" watch the movie "MEAN GIRLS - watch your back" and let me tell you: this is not just another teen movie!