In Mean Girls Grown Up, Cheryl Dellasega explores why women are often their own worst enemies, offering practical advice for a variety of situations. She introduces you to the "bees" of grade school who, as adults, are still involved in the same harmful dynamic: the Queen Bee, a bully who buzzes from place to place undermining and manipulating others; the Middle Bee, a go-between who spreads gossip or stands by as others do so; and the Afraid-to-Bee who retreats into passivity and is a target for aggression.
Drawing upon extensive research and interviews, Dellasega shares stories from women who have encountered these bees as well as the knowledge of experts who have helped women overcome the negative effects of aggression. You'll hear how adult women can be just as competitive and callous as their younger counterparts, using backstabbing, betrayal, harassment, misrepresentation, and exclusion to wound others.
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Dellasega outlines how women can change their behavior successfully by shifting away from aggression and embracing a spirit of cooperation in interactions with others. Even if bee-type behaviors have plagued you since adolescence, Mean Girls Grown Up will help you let go of aggression or passivity, move on, and create relationships that are healthier and happier for you and the women around you. --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.
This book helped me understand and identify the co-bully, Middle Bee, and what her function was in the scheme of things.
Dr. Dellasega makes a very reputable explanation of Relational Aggression (RA) and how women use it in personal and professional settings.
I found it quite educational, very easy to read, although it contained very deep research into female relational psychology.
I followed most of the techniques listed in the book just by instinct in dealing with my Queen Bee at work. Read morePublished 1 month ago by onetimebookreviewer
Good read for anyone dealing with adult children probably still living in their parents basement. Still bullies at 45 c'mon get real and grow up. Read morePublished 2 months ago by JGLoo
The book is spot on. Discussed all the important issues surrounding the topic. I highly recommend this book to all that want to better understand the problem.Published 6 months ago by Debra Gilchrist
Having read 4 other books on the topic of woman's abuse of women, all ordered from Amazon, I have to say that this one lends yet more information on the topic. Read morePublished 9 months ago by Spunk!
I didn't particularly care for the format of the book--mostly a compilation of stories by women who have suffered from relational aggression. Read morePublished 16 months ago by Stephanie
Women would ban this book if they could. Its very helpful in understanding women and staying out of the minefields that professional relationships can become.Published 19 months ago by J. Broughton
I have been the victim of a bully all my life. She was my sister and I never really realized until the last ten years because IT WAS ALL BEHIND MY BACK! Read morePublished 20 months ago by Valerie J Sills
A friend recommended this book to me. I am going to do a women's bible study and use this book also.Published 20 months ago by Ryan Grabill
This book only provides stories on what RA is. If you are a student of RA, this book is suitable. However, if you are looking for solutions, look elsewhere. Read morePublished on February 12, 2012 by Myra_C