The Medical Marriage: Sustaining Healthy Relationships for Physicians and Their Families [Paperback]

Wayne M. Sotile (Author), Mary O. Sotile (Author)

Book Description

ISBN-10: 1579470750 | ISBN-13: 978-1579470753 | Publication Date: May 15, 2000 | Edition: Rev Sub

The Medical Marriage helps physicians families take a proactive approach to making medical marriage and family relationships work successfully. It identifies and explains the key issues, potential difficulties, and tensions that can characterize marriages and family relationships in which one or both partners are physicians. The book offers self-as sessment tools and case narratives to help readers indentify traits that are common to physician families and that can cause strain and tension in a marriage.

Product Details

• Paperback: 284 pages
• Publisher: American Medical Association Press; Rev Sub edition (May 15, 2000)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 1579470750
• ISBN-13: 978-1579470753
• Product Dimensions: 9 x 6 x 0.7 inches
• Shipping Weight: 14.4 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.8 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (5 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #91,596 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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36 of 36 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars you are not alone, July 19, 2001

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"taymjcase" (Atlanta, Georgia) - See all my reviews

This review is from: The Medical Marriage: Sustaining Healthy Relationships for Physicians and Their Families (Paperback)

As the spouse to a physician, I have always wondered if our relationship was unique. After reading this book, I realized the answer is yes and no. Yes, it is unique in that I am married to a physician which has its own set of characteristics. And No, it isn't unique among other medical marriages. We are not alone when it comes to spouses who are driven, perfectionists, and OCD to name a few. This book lays out the various types of physician relationships, their personality traits and characteristics and examples of good and bad relationships. An added benefit is the quotes from real life couples and also the steps successful couples have followed. This book really saved my sanity and gave me perspective I greatly needed at a tough time. I realized I had to have a different understanding of my relationship as it was unique to the profession. A wonderful book for anyone about to enter a relationship with a physician, anyone already in a relationship and for the physician themselves! ( My husband read it and said, 'Hmm, that does sound like me!" )

12 of 12 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars An excellent book, July 2, 2006

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M. L. MacInerney (Kansas City) - See all my reviews
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This review is from: The Medical Marriage: Sustaining Healthy Relationships for Physicians and Their Families (Paperback)

I wish I'd come across this book years ago. Medical schools should have a mandatory class built around this book. Reading it I constantly found myself amazed at how similar the accounts of other medical marriage were to my own. I'd find my physician husband's behaviors, opinions, attitudes, etc. common to many other physicians in the book and my own frustrations, worries, behaviors mirrored by many of the physician wives in the book as well. The book classifies medical marriages into 8 categories (male physician married to at-home wife, female physician married to non-physician, two married physicians, etc.) I was surprised at how closely our category tagged our relationship's problems, strengths, needs. I do wish they'd gone into more detail on how to handle the various problems, ways to avoid the common pitfalls, etc. I plan on lending it to a friend where both husband and wife are physicians.

11 of 12 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Relief, May 12, 2006

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Arbela "Amazon Woman" - See all my reviews

This review is from: The Medical Marriage: Sustaining Healthy Relationships for Physicians and Their Families (Paperback)

No doubt ~ it was a relief to read we weren't the only ones. Medical marriages are without question wound together tightly by stress, partly due to the job, and partly due to the type of personality the job attracts (the best docs out there seem to have a degree of OCD, which interestingly often contributes to their success).

I did not find this book to be helpful in moving forward however. For that, I turned to the marriage topic in general and discovered "All You Need Is Love and Other Lies About Marriage." Between these two titles, I feel we've gotten past some bumps in the road and hopefully *fingers crossed* are educated enough to head future trouble off at the pass.

If you're drowning in a medical marriage, use these two books as your life saver. And know that you aren't alone! Much luck and happiness to you. :o)