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Meeting Your Half-Orange: An Utterly Upbeat Guide to Using Dating Optimism to Find Your Perfect Match Hardcover – January 12, 2010

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Product Details

  • Hardcover: 240 pages
  • Publisher: Running Press; First Edition edition (January 12, 2010)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 076243774X
  • ISBN-13: 978-0762437740
  • Product Dimensions: 5.5 x 0.8 x 8.3 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 12 ounces
  • Average Customer Review: 4.5 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (49 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #128,491 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

Editorial Reviews


Harville Hendrix, Ph.D., author of Keeping the Love You Find: A Personal Guide and Getting the Love You Want
"This is a book of hope helping those looking for their other half move from pessimism to hope and from fantasy to reality. A must read for singles looking for love.”

Jillian Michaels, fitness trainer on NBC’s The Biggest Loser and bestselling author of
Master Your Metabolism
“IF YOU’RE SINGLE, drop everything and read this book. It will completely change dating for you as you know it. I can work out your body, but Amy will get your love life in shape!”

Harper’s Bazaar
, February 2010
"Disillusioned by dating? Meeting Your Half-Orange is the ultimate pep talk.”

, March 2010
“Tear up your old list for your ideal mate, says Amy Spencer, author of the new book Meeting Your Half-Orange. Forget the superficial musts . . . and focus on how you want to feel in the relationship.”

Cosmopolitan U.K. , February 2010

"Meeting Your Half-Orange by Amy Spencer is a dating guide with a difference.”

Laurie Sandell, author of The Impostor’s Daughter
“I could not put this book down. Amy Spencer cuts through the scrap heap of self-help literature with a guide to life that is so joyful—so utterly helpful—you can consolidate that library into one. Women and men looking for love, meet your new guru.”

Star magazine, February 8, 2010
“Just in time for Valentine’s Day comes this upbeat book from relationship expert Amy Spencer. She thinks there’s a Mr. Right, or half-orange, for everyone, and the only way to find him is by being yourself. Sounds tasty!”

Actress Diane Farr, Californication and Rescue Me
“Where the heck was this book when I was single? It would have saved me years of frustration! I’ll be recommending Meeting Your Half-Orange to every ‘single’ person I know.”

Joanna Bober, magazine editor

“I feel like Amy is absolutely hitting on every issue that spins around in the brain of a single woman, even the ones that I couldn’t explain to myself. This book is a gift to women.”

BookPage, February 2010
“In Meeting Your Half-Orange, Amy Spencer helps singles harness the power of optimism to find their other halves. If your glass is empty . . . you may be the person who needs it most.”

Skirt! Boston
, January 21, 2010
“If you're constantly looking for love, stop the search, and pick up Amy Spencer's new dating guide Meeting Your Half-Orange. This optimistic and unique take on relationships and what we truly want in our other-halves is unlike your typical "go seek our Mr. Right" self-help book. Instead, Spencer advocates for establishing yourself as an individual and learning to accept yourself for who you are, rather than transforming to cater to the needs of a potential boyfriend.”

magazine, February 16, 2010
“Snaps to Spencer for putting ‘upbeat’ right there in the title. Nearly every other dating book screams at women with phrases such as ‘find love now!’ or ‘stop making dumb mistakes!’ This text—half memoir, half advice book—takes the perspective of an honest, encouraging friend who’s been there.”

About the Author

Amy Spencer is a relationship expert who writes for Glamour, Harper’s Bazaar, Page Six Magazine, Cosmopolitan,, and others, and the former host of the relationship call-in advice show Sex Files on Sirius Satellite Radio’s Maxim channel. She lives in Venice, CA, with her own “half-orange.”

More About the Author

Amy Spencer grew up in Sea Cliff, New York, spent a decade in Manhattan and now resides in Venice, California with her half-orange, her husband.

Amy is the author of BRIGHT SIDE UP: 100 Ways to Be Happier Right Now (Perigee, 2012) and MEETING YOUR HALF-ORANGE: An Utterly Upbeat Guide to Using Dating Optimism to Find Your Perfect Match (Running Press, 2010). Read more about the books at and

Amy provides doses of life and love positivity on her site, offers "Assignment Optimism" tips on Twitter ( and creates the happiest email you'll get all week, VITAMIN OPTIMISM, which offers an small optimism practice you can try each week--you can sign up for it on Amy's website,

Amy's a magazine journalist who has written for Glamour, Harper's Bazaar, New York magazine,, Redbook, Health and others. Prior to writing full-time, she was an editor at MAXIM, GLAMOUR and STAR magazines. She was a radio host on Sirius XM radio and has appeared on NBC, CBS, VH1 and the E! channel and more. She created Half-Orange Optimisms for the iPhone, which appeared in the "Featured Apps" section of the App store, made the App store's "What's Hot" list and was featured in New York's The Daily News. And when she's not writing, Amy loves biking, taking photographs, watching television cooking shows and she absolutely lives for popcorn.

Customer Reviews

I just finished the book today, and I plan on reading it again.
Thanks, Amy, for making me a fan of the theory of dating optimism and the idea that my half-orange is out there waiting for me!!
Amazon Customer
It will do wonders for the way you think and feel, not just for your love life, but for your life as a whole.
A. Rodriguez

Most Helpful Customer Reviews

17 of 18 people found the following review helpful By Preyanka on February 1, 2011
Format: Hardcover Verified Purchase
A friend of mine gave me some good advice that is line with the ideas in this book. It's so simple, but so logical. So far, it's worked for me in terms of friendships, and I am confident it will work for me in all my relationships:

Make a list, and make it detailed, of all the qualities you want in your soul-mate. Add all the qualities you definitely DON'T want in your soul-mate. Focus on how badly you want that person. Now, spend the next few days, weeks, months, or years BECOMING that person you have written down. That is the ONLY way you are ever going to truly love and respect yourself, and that is the only way you are ever going to find him or her. And no, you're not SO unique that there's no one out there who matches you. In fact, there are LOTS of people out there who do, and once you become the person you seek, those people are going to start walking into your life like magic. If you seem to attract negative people or unhealthy relationships, this will NEVER change unless you work on yourself. Like attracts like.

This is a beautiful book that may seem dreamy but is actually pretty rational. Unless you're actively trying not to get involved with anyone or living in a cave, relationships are pretty much inevitable. And relationships are ALWAYS mirrors. They reflect you exactly. And if you're not living your best life and being your best self, then you're going to attract people you don't truly want to spend your life with, even though you might think you do; that's why you spend so much time agonizing over the way they DON'T measure up. If you wanted to spend your life with them, you'd be happy with them just the way they are. So why can't you just walk away when you know they are not what you want just the way they are?
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8 of 9 people found the following review helpful By A. Rodriguez on March 22, 2010
Format: Hardcover
I stumbled upon Amy Spencer's blog a few months ago. I was in a sad, grey place. I was coming up on a year after I broke-up with my boyfriend of 5 years. It's the typical thing: I thought I was going to get married, I thought he was "the one", I thought...but I knew something was off so we ended it on good terms. We both felt we weren't quite right for each other. Even though it was true, it left me disillusioned in the world of dating. I've never been very good at it do begin with, so I suppose that's part of the reason I clung on.
I kept wondering as the months trickled by, "what is wrong with me, why not me" all the things most single gals ask themselves at one point or another. But my friends said "nothing is wrong with you, you just haven't met the right guy", then comes Amy's book that basically echoed there sentiment: Nothing is wrong with you. Just be your fabulous, awesome unique self, and he'll come to you. I though this was bolonga. Then I realized that a HUGE component to my dating, and well life, outlook was missing. Optimism. I'm a highly optimistic person...but just not for myself. I'll cheerleader for my friends up and down "you can do it, I believe in you!" but yet I couldn't get around to saying those things to myself. Right around valentine's day is when I was feeling my lowest. I was feeling bitter, cynical, frustrated and angry and its a suit I don't like to wear because well, it doesn't "suit" me. Plus, two days after valentine's day was the one year anniversary so I cut myself some slack. I told myself "ok, I'm giving you this week to be mopey, cynical, bitter and mad after that, you're done and you're reading this book!" And that I did.
I began to read it slowly...a few pages every night so that it could sink in and I could think of what I read as I fell asleep.
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34 of 45 people found the following review helpful By Joe Kindle on June 1, 2010
Format: Kindle Edition Verified Purchase
Having heard so much positive buzz about this book I thought it might be good for me to read it since I'm back in the dating world again. While this book may have great ideas, and I have to assume it does from all of the 5 star reviews, it isn't a book that men can use to get help with their dating. Before buying the book, I read reviews on this site and on others to try and determine if the book was meant for both female and male readers. I couldn't find anywhere that said the book was intended only for women, and actually did find a couple of editor reviews that said both men and women could benefit from it. I bought the book and started reading it with an open attitude, assuming that the primary target was women but it would still be a good read. Unfortunately, I couldn't get more than 10% of the way through it, even after three attempts. I finally had to give up on it. All of the references to dating prospects were to "handsome guys", "Mr Right", etc.. All examples of positives, negatives, dating situations, etc. were targeted towards females. I tried to substitute male examples but it completely broke the thought flow of the book. I just couldn't get through it. It's obvious why they don't but I think the marketing should indicate the book is intended for females.
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4 of 4 people found the following review helpful By gleannfia on May 14, 2012
Format: Hardcover
Having read so many dating gurus' books which blame the woman for being too picky, ambitious,fat, busy, feminist, nauseum.....I found Ms. Spencer's book a refreshing treasure. I totally agree with being happy wth the gifts you are given. With so many in the world dealing with under- or un-employment, or dysfunctional/abusive relationship situations, I feel truly blessed.

However, I was troubled by the fact that there was not *one* example of an over-40 woman finding love. Not one. I even emailed Ms. Spencer about this. With no answer. The message I get, as with so many of these tomes, is that those of us over 40 are not worthy of love. But perhaps the younger ones feel more desperation as they still want children. Then again, Ms. Spencer appears to be in her 30s, which may explain her focus.
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