Men Who Can't Love [Hardcover]

Steven Carter (Author), Julia Sokol (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: July 1997

An examination of the dynamics of male-female communication examines male-commitment phobia and explains how women can recognize early warning signs, determine a man's willingness to change, and avoid unnecessary heartache. Reissue.

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About the Author

Steven Carter and Julia Sokol are considered to be the leading authorities on the topic of commitment fear. They appear regularly on national talk shows such as Oprah and Sally Jesse Raphael. They have also appeared on The Today Show, Good Morning America, CBS This Morning, CNN, CNBC, and MSNBC. Carter and Sokol's work is featured in such magazines as Cosmopolitan, Glamour, New Woman, and Mademoiselle, and they periodically lecture and run workshops throughout the country. --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.

Product Details

• Hardcover: 242 pages
• Publisher: Fine Communications (July 1997)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 1567310478
• ISBN-13: 978-1567310474
• Product Dimensions: 8.3 x 5.7 x 1 inches
• Shipping Weight: 14.1 ounces
• Average Customer Review: 4.6 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (148 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #177,411 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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58 of 59 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Helps Heal and Keeps You Strong, January 31, 2000

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This review is from: Men Who Can't Love (Paperback)

I have read this book three times. Each time I find more information and it further explains my ex-boyfriend as he has through the years let out more of his Commitmentphobic tendencies. This book really hits the nail on the head with this problem. It's like the authors monitored your whole relationship and are now writing about your whole crazy situation! Which helps because reading this lets you know you aren't crazy and to stop beating yourself up over all of the issues the Commitmentphobic person has created. Depending on where you are in your life these relationships could destroy you and everything you have worked for personally and this book could be your saving grace. It doesn't place a lot of nasty blame or finger pointing on the man, it explains Commitmentphobia; it is a real problem! Believe me after he promised counseling and made super romantic attempts to be with me I went back to him each time, after two years we are apart again. Hence this is the third time I have read this book and hopefully the last. It all takes time to sink in I think, no matter how strong you are. Read it whenever you need it to keep your head out of the haze they create and to keep your self-esteem in tact. While reading through the book you will find yourself highlighting nearly the whole book, checking off every sign in the different stages as they are explained. The best money you will ever spend if this is your situation!

57 of 59 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars after the fairy tale beginning........, March 22, 2000

By A Customer

This review is from: Men Who Can't Love (Paperback)

This is an important book for anyone who is suffering the fallout of a fairy tale beginning of a relationship. I recently found myself engaged after only 4 months of dating (and I am someone that ALL my friends call overly-cautious where men are concerned). He was everything I ever wanted in a man....or so I thought. Things were great until a ring was purchased. All of a sudden, nothing I wanted or needed in life mattered to this man, nothing I did was right and I began to feel like I had no business breathing. It was like being hit by a bus head on. I walked around shell-shocked for days..pleading with him to please talk to me....what happened? Thank goodness for this book. I started reading this book with the hope that things would work out between us but by the end I no longer WANTED things to 'work out' with this man. When I read the line "would you let a friend treat you like this?" I thought....NO WAY. If a friend did to me what he's done, that person would be written off my list. I do think that one should not read this book and believe that all the commitment problems are his. NOTHING happens in our lives by accident. If you are in a world of hurt because of a relationship THIS IS THE BOOK TO READ!

40 of 40 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Amazing true but painful to read, January 21, 2003

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This review is from: Men Who Can't Love (Paperback)

The minute I started reading this book, I couldn't believe how accurate it all was and yet how a person like me could fall into this kind of relationship. I thought he cared, I believed things he did and said, until it came crashing down and continued to disappoint me and let me down. It's been the hardest thing to let go and move on because of the memories and the feelings that felt so real. But getting away from these men who can't commit, will never change, and can't love is the best, most self-respecting thing you can do for yourself. I could never have made it through the pain without this book. I read it every morning to make it through the day and remind myself of answers to my questions: why doesn't he love me anymore? how could he do this? how could he forget about us? how could abandon what we had together?