Men Like Women Who Like Themselves: (And Other Secrets That the Smartest Women Know) [Paperback]

Steven Carter (Author), Julia Sokol (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: June 9, 1997

Even the smartest women play dumb when it comes to relationships. They make the same mistakes over and over again; they fall for the same kind of guys; and they cry to the same friends when, inevitably, the relationship goes sour. Bestselling authors Steven Carter and Julia Sokol have written the book for every woman who would like to be smarter when it comes to affairs of the heart--Men Like Women Who Like Themselves.



With the candor, compassion, and expert advice that marked their bestseller What Smart Women Know, Carter and Sokol provide the essential insights all women need to know in order to forge healthy, committed relationships. Based on the simple but powerful notion that a lasting relationship means putting yourself first, that true love can only spring from self-love, Men Like Women Who Like Themselves is a trove of relationship wisdom for today's woman.

Editorial Reviews

From Publishers Weekly

Self-help authors Carter and Sokol (What Smart Women Know) provide a handbook for the average woman, revealing secrets the "Smartest Women" know about meeting, dating and, if they can absorb enough Smart-isms, mating. The authors have basically strung together a series of bullet points that hop unnervingly from topic to topic, and they turn the stuff of human emotions into silly and irritating cliches. Thus, the fact that men are plagued by many of the same insecurities as women, and often have difficulty expressing feelings of vulnerability, becomes: "Just because he looks like he has everything wired doesn't mean he won't get strung up." Sound advice on how to recognize a potentially abusive man, when to seek counseling and when and how much to talk about past relationships with a new partner is submerged in a sea of bad puns and thematically unrelated case histories. If the authors' aim was to be lighthearted, their end result is an insultingly reductive look at the infinitely complex, often difficult and sometimes wonderful ways people come together. Author tour.
Copyright 1996 Reed Business Information, Inc. --This text refers to the Hardcover edition.

From Library Journal

In their latest book, best-selling authors, "relationship experts," and lecturers Carter and Sokol counsel women seeking success in male-female relationships. Writing in the humorous, easy-to-understand style of their earlier work, What Smart Women Know (Evans, 1990), the authors offer maxims ("If you think men and women are from different planets, you need a stronger telescope. If you think all men are the same, you need a stronger microscope"), illustrative anecdotes, and down-to-earth advice designed to promote self-esteem. Common myths are exposed (e.g., "Myth: A couple who is in love shares everything. Fact: Real love means being able to say 'I respect your separateness' ") and directives for effective communication given. Given the authors' past popularity, this work is recommended for most popular self-help collections in public libraries.?Lucille M. Boone, San Jose P.L., Cal.
Copyright 1996 Reed Business Information, Inc. --This text refers to the Hardcover edition.

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Product Details

• Paperback: 272 pages
• Publisher: Dell (June 9, 1997)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0440506158
• ISBN-13: 978-0440506157
• Product Dimensions: 5.3 x 0.7 x 8 inches
• Shipping Weight: 8.8 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 3.7 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (11 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #364,380 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

More About the Author

Steven A. Carter (born October 23, 1959) is an American author of non-fiction, self-help and humor.

A distinguished graduate of Cornell University, member of the Quill and Dagger society, past president of the Ho Nun De Kah honorary, and winner of the William K. Kennedy Dean's Prize for extraordinary academic achievement, Steven A. Carter also holds a Master's Degree in Education and a Master's Degree in Psychology.

Steven Carter was born in New York City and raised in New Hyde Park, New York. He is the author of twenty-two books, including the New York Times bestseller Men Who Can't Love (with co-author Julia Sokol) and seven other National Bestsellers. Carter coined the phrase "Commitmentphobia" in 1987. He and Sokol are recognized as two of the foremost authorities on the subjects of commitment, fear of commitment, attachment disorders, and narcissistic personality disorder.

In the winter of 2007 What Smart Women Know was released in Brazil by Editora Sextante, the publishing company founded by brothers Marcos and Tomas Pereira. What Smart Women Know spent 110 weeks on Brazil's top-ten bestseller lists, at one point being the #2 selling book in all of Brazil. Men Like Women Who Like Themselves was released in mid-2008 and spent 45 weeks on Brazil's bestseller lists. The Brazilian edition of Men Who Can't Love was released by Editora Sextante in late 2009, followed by The Secrets of Self-Esteem in May 2010 and This Is How Love Works in September 2011. Editora Sextante has sold over two million copies of these Carter/Sokol titles in Brazil since the first release. Editora Sextante is most well known in Brazil for their books by the Dalai Lama, Augusto Cury, and, most recently, Paulo Coehlo.

Prior to beginning his career as an author, Steven Carter was the Director of Tennis at the world-renowned Little Dix Bay Hotel in Virgin Gorda, British Virgin Islands and Head Tennis Pro at the Dorado Beach Hotel in Dorado Beach, Puerto Rico. It has been suggested that some of his Carter's early insights into relationships were formulated during those years. He has also written extensively about the stages of healing he experienced through almost twenty years of his own deeply personal work.

Steven Carter is the resident Relationship Expert at the popular health site Power-Surge.com

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14 of 14 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Very Good Advice!, August 1, 2000

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This review is from: Men Like Women Who Like Themselves: (And Other Secrets That the Smartest Women Know) (Paperback)

I learned a lot from this book. It explains exactly what to and not to say to a man on a first, second or third date. It also lets women know what scares a man away. There are several scenerios given throughout the book. And I bet if you're having trouble keeping a guy's interest, you WILL see yourself somewhere in this book & find out what mistakes you may making.

16 of 17 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars I opened this book and couldn't put it down, July 30, 1999

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This review is from: Men Like Women Who Like Themselves (Hardcover)

Reading this book gave me not only a lot of insight into how to approach the initial meetings of new possible significant friendships, what to be observant of and what's important, but also showed me situations that I could relate to in my past relationships. I could relate to so many of the "What smart Women don't do" topics as part of my past history. I felt good to see how far I have made progress since reading "What Smart Women Know". This book takes it further into what to do once you have found that special relationship and what is normal relating and what is unacceptable. I feel I've received a lot of valuble lessons from this book and would love to give a copy to every Women friend of mine. I read it in one full evening.

8 of 10 people found the following review helpful:

4.0 out of 5 stars Great Advice, January 9, 2003

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This review is from: Men Like Women Who Like Themselves: (And Other Secrets That the Smartest Women Know) (Paperback)

This a powerful book. I found it to be more influential than most relationship books. Though I was a bit uncomfortable at first with the untraditional layout - the information is not organized into respective chapters and seems to flow from one subject to another continuously - it was that very conversational style that seemed to drive the authors' points home in a most profound way. Some of those points were:

-To get to the end you must start from the beginning; think about connecting with men before you start thinking about marriage/babies
-everyone makes mistakes, so give men a chance
-husband's usually don't resemble magazine models
-abuse is abuse
-behaviors and conversations to avoid on dates

The tone of the book was more practical than spiritual. The authors do not present "following your heart" and "soul mates" as precepts. For a read along those lines I would recommend mystical relationship books by Deepak Chopra.

This book was also quick and easy read without being too wordy and conceptual; great if you're a busy person.