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Men Made Easy : How to Get What You Want from Your Man

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This book is admittedly old, and perhaps a lot has changes culturally since it was published. I am in my early 20's, so that might make a difference.

My first gripe is that about half of each chapter is written as a story, and the other half is straight to the point. The book could have been half as long if the story was left out.

Secret 1: Use feminine grace. Essentially she tells you to dress so you feel pretty, be nice, never be "ugly" (both physically and in behavior). Always wear pretty/sexy underwear. I totally agree with being nice to people in general, and overall have no complaints with this one, except she suggests using kissing as a reward system.

Secret 2:Men need to be understood and accepted for who they are. Basically don't try to change men, don't try to fix them, etc. Good advice

Secret 3: You are his only source of intimacy. This chapter is based on the broad generalization that all women are social creatures with at least one close friends and wide circles of friendships while men have only acquaintances and no close friends. It completely discounts anyone who is outside of this norm. We, as women, must then make ourselves completely available for our men to be their best friend, in all circumstances.

Secret 4: Sex is the only way men know how to be intimate:says to understand that men are socialized to not feel emotions or connect with people, so they can only express intimacy through sex. They can't possibly say and mean "I love you", so they say it through sex. I think this discounts human variation too much, and really doesn't give men enough credit.

Secret 5: Men have high hopes for monogamy. Great news, right? Yeah, until she gets to the point where if a woman looses interest in sex, he has no option but to follow is nature and seek out someone else. It seems to be a recurring theme that it is the woman's job to be very very interested in sex, all the time, to keep her man. Not only interested, but keep the sex exciting and fun for him. SHE should buy fresh undergarments that will arouse him, dress up, push HER boundaries, etc.

Secret 6:For a man, failure is like death. Basically she says it is a woman's job to always make her man feel like a success at home. What if he isn't? What if he doesn't do anything around the house, ignores the kids and you, etc? Reward him for doing little things, like putting his glass in the kitchen, with a sexy long kiss. Explain to the kids how important he is, and how hard he works, and tell them they shouldn't bother him. Accept that he needs his alone time at home. What crap! So he gets a free pass, and the woman (80% of whom also work these days) has to do everything?

Secret 7: If you're not happy, hes a failure. But, don't depend on him for happiness. Nope, be happy all by yourself through feminine grace. Live happy so he can be happy too.

Secret 8: Men show their love through action. If he washes your car, its his way of saying he loves you, because he can't express it in other ways. Again, nothing wrong with this except it doesn't take into account human variation. I am a woman, and I best express my caring through practical actions. I dated a man who was great at romance and poetry and love songs. Its all about the people, not the gender.

Secret 9:Men take risks to survive. But they hate being rejected. Once again, this pretty much boils down to doing what he wants, especially when it comes to sex. She says that unless you have a good reason not to, why in the world would you want to risk hurting him by saying no. SO you should almost always say yes. Oh, and it can't just be "yeah, ok" sex, it has to be fun and exciting for him. If you don't desire him, its your fault and you should take steps to admire him again so you will desire him. If he doesn't desire you, its probably because you have gained weight, let yourself go, and are acting ugly, so you better diet, hit the gym, pretty yourself up, and be nicer. Nice, huh?

Secret 10: Men loose when they commit. By getting married, men have to give up their dreams, make compromises, in order to support their families. Women, however, dream of having a husband and kids, so she gets to live her dream (sound like something out of the 1800's anyone?). Additionally, men want their wives to stay exactly the same as when they marry them. So what do we need to do? Tell him often how much you appreciate how hard he works to support you. Give him his privacy and time alone for his hobbies. Keep yourself beautiful and feminine. And of course, make sure you are offering lots of sex.

Secret 11: To be heard, you must speak his language. This one is actually a good tip. Don't assume he knows what you are thinking or feeling, spell everything out. Have a conversation about communication, listening, etc, and work together to improve your communication.

Secret 12: Men want to be with women who make them feel like men. Ask him to do "manly" stuff like opening jars. Tell him how strong and handsome he is, what a hard worker he is, how much you appreciate him supporting you, etc. Nothing wrong with this either, but I really get the feeling that the author sees a woman's job as her man's "ego booster" and sex object.

Overall, I didn't like the book, and am glad I got it from the library. There are so many books out there that focus on the team aspect of relationships, and how each person must be happy and healthy on their own in order to have a healthy relationship, etc. Pick one of those instead.

After hearing the author on a radio show I hoped this book would be the answer I'd been searching for. After 11 years of marriage things were at a stand still and I was beginning to feel like maybe I should cut my losses. I can't even put into words what a gift this book has been. It's like Tinkerbell came into our lives and sprinkled her fairy dust all over my husband and I. We're actually in love again.

I've read other relationship books but this was so simple to put into practice. It came naturally and has made a huge difference. I don't see how any woman can be without this information. And, like the author says, we women already know what's in the book but it's like we've forgotten it. What a great feeling to get reacquainted with it.

The twelve secrets are easy to understand and the newfound understanding I have for my husband has made my love for him come alive again. I've passed the book to two friends and they loved it too. It's like we have this special shared thing. It's nice. I think every woman who reads it will want to share it with her friends.

Dear Amazon.com readers, I recently stumbled upon a book my wife has been reading. I saw the title, MEN MADE EASY and thought, what the heck? Well, as I glanced through it I realized it was the reason my wife has seemed so much more interesting to me lately. Ladies, what the book says is true, take its advice to heart and your man will definitely be more interested in pleasing you. And guys, if you want things to get a whole lot better at home, buy her this book. Neither of you will be sorry. Good luck! carl

This book reminded me of Venus and Mars in a good way. Whenever I see agreement from one author to the next, it instills confidence that the writer is on the right track.

Ms. Oh provides pointers on how to appeal to the man in your beau. When you know how to push the right buttons, your man will be more gratified and eager to please, and you will reap the benefits of working with the male-female contrasts instead of against them.

I believe this author knows of what she speaks. I have picked up additional pointers from her e-mail newsletters. Mastering the concepts in this book would be worth any woman's while.

So often I've purchased self-help books but was all-too-often disappointed. kara Oh is not trying to impress us with mountains of information. The book is written in a light and breezy manner and very accessable to any reader. I loved having the fictional characters teach us the information instead of a dry treatise. Lots of fun information that any woman can apply to her relationship and enjoy immediate benefits.

I was looking for a book for my 24 year old niece for the holidays. After breezing through the beginning of the book I kept it for myself. I love the format on how it is written and presented. Though I was a bit negative toward the suggestions in the beginning - I thought I would give them a try. The ideas worked. Sticking with the concepts is a bit hard since I have spent many years going through "the settling". Another plus from my direction - busy mom, special needs child, managing and running my own firm - it is short and an easy read - entertaining.

As for my niece, who is frustrated with finding that "perfect mate" - she may still get her copy.

The book was really Good. Most of what she talks about are things that I already knew but didnt realize how important they were and how much of a diference they make. I think the most important thing that I learned was how to get my boyfriend to talk to me more about his past and how he feels about things in life. This book kida drug itself out a little but I still enjoyed it and deffiniatly think it was worth reading. I got alot of good out of it.

This is a wonderful book. I wish I had read it 27 years ago. I am celebrating my 27 wedding anniversary today and my marriage has been a rocky one, but it is now stronger than it has ever been. This book lets a woman look at what is going on inside a man and helps you see them for what they are. I can't say enough positive things about this book, every woman needs to read it. I know I will be re-reading it for years to come. It even as a short section in the back for the man in your life to read about women. Kara really hits the nail on the head with book. It is GREAT!!!!

I've read a lot of relationship books, but this one definitely works. I do have to tell you that you'll need to overlook the sorta cheesy girl group/convo pretext for the truly worthwhile concepts in the book. I always thought my man was "different" and that most books didn't apply to his life/lifestyle, but this book helped me see him differently, not merely as someone different. Read it, apply it truthfully (this will require some adjustment on your part), and watch what it can do for you. I've recommended this book to several friends, and it is currently out on loan with one of them.....geez I hope I get it back so I can re-read it as a refresher.

This book offers extremely helpful tips and guidelines that could make ANY relationship work. It has a multitude of essential information that will finally allow you to step back out of that hole in your marriage, or back out into the dating world.

You will never be confused or at a loss with your partner again! (unless he's bonkers)

Every word of this book will take you to a higher underatanding of men, and your impact on them, as you follow three other women who discuss their problems and solutions with you. If you've ever been in a relationship, you will be able to identify with one or more of these women, and finally, FINALLY know what it was that split you and your lover(s) apart.

Once you buy this, you may as well not waste your money on another book like it. I also bought Make Every Man Want You, and 101 Ways to Get and Keep His Attention, both of which were dwarfed by this astounding book.

Happy reading!