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Men, Women and Relationships

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I read this book while my boyfriend (now my fiance) and I were taking some time apart. Not only did this book help me to understand and interpret his behavior; it helped me to understand my OWN behavior in relationships. I realized how so often we try to give so much to the other person, but our efforts fall on deaf ears because men and women DO NOT want the same things. This book served as a true epiphany, and I use John's tips everyday in my happy, successful relationship.

This book really opened my eyes not only to my unconscious part I took in destroying my relationships before they even started, but every reader should pay close attention to the chapter on Masculine/feminine confusion which is so prevelant in our society and we all have been affected by it in some way even if we aren't aware of it! This is not to be confused with gender, that's another whole subject within itself. As a studier of Adler, this is an exceptional reference guide to those looking to either repair a broken relationship or to discover their own tendency to misplace blame, or to create the "domino effect" in their relationships.

My wife and I divorced in 1995. We were apart for two years. Situations in our life kept bringing us back together to deal with children. Eventually we decided to try to put our marriage back together so we went to Christian counseling. Our counselor had us read this book. Time after time my jaw would drop open while reading. My wife said the same thing. I remember saying, "She isn't crazy afterall. Our differences are normal." Both our eyes were opened allowing us to accept our differences without feeling the other one did not care of love the other. This book along with our desire to do God's will was the basis for our putting our marriage back together. We remarried after 2-1/2 years apart. That was six years ago. I buy this book regularly to give to couples old and young alike. It is a Godsend for a society too quick to divorce and too misunderstanding of one another.

I am not an avid reader, but after what appeared to be the end of a great relationship, I needed somewhere to turn. I read through titles of hundreds of books looking for just the right one; the one that could help me understand what was happening in my relationship and why. As with most women, I was somewhat familiar with Men are from Mars; Women are from Venus, but never read it. I took my time and read the preface to so many books, but this book seemed like it might be "the one". As I began reading, I didn't want to put the book down!! I finished the book within a week (again, not an avid reader, but it was a very easy read) and walked away with an amazing comprehension of my boyfriend and our relationship. I could identify with SO MANY THINGS from this book and relate them to my situation. A month before reading this, my boyfriend became distant and seemed to withdraw from our regular conversations. Since we were so close, I didn't understand what was going on and could only conclude he was no longer interested in me -- he must have found someone else. As I read -- there it was -- the exact situation I was going through explained in black and white with no emotional attachments -- he was having (big) problems at work and as such was focusing his full attention on work.
READ THIS -- MEN AND WOMEN -- to get a better understanding of each other, even if you believe you are exactly the same -- YOU AREN'T! I understand now!!!! THANK YOU!!!

Here is THE BOOK for a couple experiencing problems communicating and expressing their feelings to one another. My lady and I have recently experienced a painful breakup. I then purchased this book and immediately saw some of the reasons why we saw things differently and suffered a communication breakdown. I wish I had read this book a year ago!

I could not put it down and read it rapidly. Now, I plan to reread it again slowly. You will get more out of this book than Dr. Grays "Mars/Venus" books and the 100's of other books on relationships between men and women.

If you are having problems with your mate SHARE THIS BOOK! Read it yourself first, than read it together. It will open your eyes as to how to give and receive unconditional love. Wish you good luck and good love.

My summary says it all. I found myself becoming angry about every little thing my boyfriend did, and through this book, came to understand a) why he did the things he did, b)why I reacted the way I did, and c) how those two factors relate. Now, I've learned to change the way I react, and as a result, he's gradually changing the way he acts. He's not even concious that there's been a huge change in the way we relate to each other, but what he does know is that he's happier (and so am I).

My wife and I divorced. After a year and a half we decided to put it back together with counseling. We found many of the same old issues came up. Our counselor had us purchase this book and read it. The wall between us started crumbling. The book along with a deep desire to put our marriage back together has made us both happier with one another than ever. I am in love with my wife. She is in love with me.

If you, or you and your mate, want to get the best out of a relationship, then you should get this book. It not only lets you in on the secrets of the opposite sex, but gives you pratical ways that you can improve your relationships now and in the future. I find it amazing that a man, Dr. John Gray, has such insight into the female mind and isn't afraid to talk freely about male behavior. This is definitely what we all have been looking for to understand the opposite sex and better our relationships

As a class assignment, we were to read a specific John Gray book and present it to the class. I started off by reading "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus", the orginal book. I must say that I found it very educational and it has helped in my relationship. After reading the first of the series, I was looking forward to reading the "Men, Women, and Relationships" book. The book overall was a letdown. I did find some information helpful but I also found that same information repeated throughout the book. John Gray could've made the book one-third of its length and it would have included all the same lessons in male-female relationships.

My wife and I divorced in 1995. We were apart for two years. Situations in our life kept bringing us back together to deal with children. Eventually we decided to try to put our marriage back together so we went to Christian counseling. Our counselor had us read this book. Time after time my jaw would drop open while reading. My wife said the same thing. I remember saying, "She isn't crazy afterall. Our differences are normal." Both our eyes were opened allowing us to accept our differences without feeling the other one did not care of love the other. This book along with our desire to do God's will was the basis for our putting our marriage back together. We remarried after 2-1/2 years apart. That was six years ago. I buy this book regularly to give to couples old and young alike. It is a Godsend for a society too quick to divorce and too misunderstanding of one another.