Mending a Shattered Heart: A Guide for Partners of Sex Addicts [Paperback]

Stefanie Carnes (Editor)

Book Description

Publication Date: February 20, 2008

Where do I go from here? You are not alone. Thousands of unsuspecting people wake up every day to discover their loved one, the one person that they are supposed to trust completely, has been living a life of lies and deceit because they suffer from a disease - a disease called sex addiction. Stefanie Carnes brings together several authors to guide the reader through an assortment of topics like, How Do I Handle This? and, What Do I Tell the Kids?

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About the Author

Dr. Stefanie Carnes, Ph.D., CSAT, is the director of family services, research and intensive workshops at Pine Grove, an inpatient treatment center in Hattiesburg, Mississippi. In this capacity, she supervises and manages the family therapy services for numerous programs, including the drug and alcohol rehabilitation unit, the sexual addiction program and the eating disorders program. In her role as research director, she oversees all research projects at Pine Grove. Dr. Carnes is a licensed marriage and family therapist and an AAMFT-approved supervisor. Dr. Carnes is also a certified sex addiction therapist, with expertise in therapy for couples and families struggling with sexual addiction. She is the author of numerous publications and presents regularly at conferences at both state and national levels.

Product Details

• Paperback: 184 pages
• Publisher: Gentle Path Press; 1st edition (February 20, 2008)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0977440060
• ISBN-13: 978-0977440061
• Product Dimensions: 8.3 x 5.5 x 0.6 inches
• Shipping Weight: 12 ounces
• Average Customer Review: 4.1 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (13 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #278,913 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)
  • #45 in Books > Health, Fitness & Dieting > Recovery > Sexual

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45 of 45 people found the following review helpful:

4.0 out of 5 stars Life saver book!!, February 20, 2010

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W. Shabana (Egypt) - See all my reviews
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When I started reading this book I was totally at a loss and my life was nothing but a great mess. I didn't know what to do, I didn't understand what I am facing, I was like the king in a chess game who has just been checked!! I was standing in one point not able to move one step forwards, backwards or to either of the sides. The whole situation was devastating for me when I discovered after nine years of marriage that my husband was a sex addict.

I am Egyptian and he is British. In Egypt, the culture and the religion are so very different from Europe or The United States. At the beginning I thought it was just a difference in culture and background that was causing the problems. But then things started to get worse by the day. We, in Egypt, specially girls, don't know much about issues like sex addiction or even about sex in general. I took him to three different therapists in three different situations to figure out the problem but none of them could. In a situation like that, where I don't have enough knowledge, and the therapist are not much of a help, this book was a life saver for me.

The book made the picture clear in my mind. Even if it doesn't solve the problem immediately - as this has to come from within each person according to different circumstances of each case - then at least it identifies the problem, tells you what you need to know about the fight you found yourself in, and leads you to mend your heart and soul that were badly hurt and injured. It was a very useful read in the absence of any help in my country including therapy groups. The subject of sex addiction seems to be new to the whole world, and the few therapist who know about it in Egypt were very hard to locate. Therapy groups are only available for other addictions like Alcohol and Narcotics, but not for sex addiction. The importance of this book for me stems from the lack of any other aid methods in my country, and I think I know now what I need to do to fix myself and save it from a destructive relationship.

I hope it helps other people too, and may God bless the Author who helped from all that distance by taking the time to write this important book. I appreciate the quick and professional service that I got from Amazon, without their help I could never have found that book or read it. I also recommend two more books that I bought from Amazon, for people who have my problem: "Don't call it love" and "out of the shadows" by Patrick Carnes. They are very useful and important to read when you have a sex addict at home.

7 of 9 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Mending a Shattered Heart, May 3, 2010

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Edward J. Williams "Pastor Ed" (Downey, CA) - See all my reviews
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Awesome book, it was good for me because it did cover how a man feels when his wife betrays him. Most books only speak of the man as the offender but when a Pastor's wife commits adultery how does the pastor feel?

2 of 2 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Hope and Help Are On the Way, November 22, 2011

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Runner Girl (Los Angeles, CA) - See all my reviews

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A friend suggested I read this book when I told her about my husband's sex addiction. I bought it and threw it in a pile. I literally thought I was going crazy. I didn't know where to turn. I found this book in that pile on my floor and read it cover to cover. The book hooked me right away with the different true to life stories of people going through similar situations like mine. And even better, I liked how it kind of validated that I wasn't crazy, after all, I had just experienced a traumatic event. Because of this book, I've learned that even though none of my husband's betrayal is my fault, I need to carve my own path of recovery so my future relationships don't end like this. I now feel empowered like never before.