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Military Divorce Tips: Health Care CHCBP, Uniformed Services Former Spouses Protection Act USFSPA, Survivor Benefit Plan SBP, Retirement Benefits and Law Answers for Service Members and Former Spouses

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The military and its benefits bring a whole new level of annoyance to divorce. "Military Divorce Tips" is a guide to the problems surrounding divorce and the challenges that come when you blend in military benefits and the privileges spouses receive. A complete and comprehensive advisory to the legal precedents and dilemmas that lie along with it, "Military Divorce Tips" is a must for any military individual who has met one of the worst outcomes for their marriage.

WELL, I guess YOU would consider me as one of those so-called "opportunistic greedy spouses". I wish this book had been around in 2009. I had to learn the excruciating way--by going through a Military divorce. I met my (sadly former) husband in 1982. We were happily & blissfully in love, and were married in 1985. He had already done 1 hitch & got out before I met him. Who thinks about getting divorced??? He became increasingly verbally & emotionally abusive. But, I loved him & Military Life. I didn't want to lose either. I felt genuinely part of a large extended family. EVERY Base we went to felt like home. I truly believed (as I was told)that I was a valued part of the Family. He served his 20+ and retired 1999. That's when we finally purchased our very first home--a small home on 20 acres of heaven and things went downhill from there.
I understand how SOME women are--believe me--I heard more than one leave while their husbands were deployed, and take literally everything in the house with them. I was not one of them. I did NOT want the divorce--I wanted counseling--but apparently that doesn't matter. I was (& still am) crushed.

It seems that 24 years of marriage means nothing. Since we were married "ONLY" 14 of his 20 years served and the rest was after his retirement, I GOT NO--LET ME REPEAT--NO--BENEFITS. I receive a little over $400 each month from his RET pay. I now have to pay damn near $4000 a year for CHCBP--as opposed to the $400-something for TriCare Prime as a FAMILY. And getting a job just keeps getting harder & harder. The only thing keeping me alive is that I moved in with my elderly mother. ...how embarrassing.

And you lump us all together as "opportunistic greedy spouses"...