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i am surprised there aren't heaps of other reviews for this book as it truly is excellent.
The book is packed with information so you may want to take your time and read it in bits. This conversational reframing is much more effective, for me at least, than the normal NLP exercises I have tried in the past. Things like the swish pattern, autobiography, ideal self were good visualisation exercises but I found that even with daily repetition I wasn't really achieving what I wanted with them. They helped to a small degree but ultimately, were not successful. Which was disappointing considering I had heard such rave reviews about those techniques which would almost lead one to believe that the swish pattern is a silver bullet cure all, with authors claiming to have stopped a smoker from touching a cigarette ever again with one swish pattern.
Conversational reframing, which the book is entirely about, was MUCH more effective for me because it really seems like you are reprogramming your brain and the way you think. Whereas, normal NLP is more about visualising and adjusting submodalities, etc conversational reframing is like holding a political debate in your head to beat limiting beliefs.
I think the authors assume that the reader will do the mind lines (ie exercises) with another person but I have found it to be quite effective doing it on my own. There are 26 types of mind lines and i write out a variety of questions for each then go through the lot (usually 5-6 A4 pages worth) and reframe myself.
It is really helping me change some limiting beliefs i have, but this something you must do repeatedly to get the full effects.Read more ›
The quality of your life is a reflection of the beliefs you have running around in your brain.
Mind Lines is the best book I have read that describes the magic of NLP and the profound impact reframing limiting beliefs can have on one's life.
Limiting beliefs are toxic ideas that hold us back from being who we truly are. They distort a person's map of reality one uses to navigate through life. Brains make meanings and associations very quickly at an unconscious level. Once the belief has been formed it drops into your unconscious and runs your life. Some beliefs are good, others can derail your life.
Because of the powerfully pervasive nature of beliefs, we need to step in and 'undo' beliefs that don't serve us well.
I read this book at a stressful time in my life. I had just had a relationship fail on me that was important to me, my life wasn't going anywhere except where it was programmed to go - nowhere.
Mind Lines helped me pull apart the limiting beliefs quickly and easily. No visulisation exercises, no repeating of affirmations for weeks (although there's nothing wrong with those exercises). Some of the reframe shifts are so freeing that I began to reassess my entire life in light of the new way of looking at things I had gained.
I'm not fantasticlally rich or married to a supermodel (yet!) but I sure do feel like I have more control over my life.
The short synopsis: get this book!
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I have come away from this book with a profoundly different perspective on life. We are all meaning making machines. Most of us are not aware of all the meanings that we are creating and this book gets into the nitty-gritty of it with great detail. I found the author's formula of a Meaning; "External Behavior = Internal State" or "External Behavior causes Internal State" to be utterly mind blowing. For those reading who have no idea what this is, here is an example. We see or hear something (this is the External Behavior) and we make that external behavior equal or lead to some idea or feeling (the Internal State). "Your being late makes me sick" is a meaning where "Your being late" is External Behavior and " makes me sick" is Internal State. The premise of this book is that when we create meanings for ourselves, they create the frame of reference for how we see the world. Those who experience a lot of pain growing up create meanings (or frames) that have them see the world as a scary place even if there is no danger in the moment, while those who experience mostly joy growing up create meanings (or frames) that have them see the world as a safe place. How we frame the external events creates our experience of those events. This book is about examining the meanings you have created (your frames) and re-working the ones that do not serve you. This can be a lot of work as I found myself often having to re-read pages over and over to see where it applies in my life and how I can use this. But doing the work provides a BIG payoff of feeling lighter and more in control of your experience and the experience of others.
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I first heard of this book from an audio cd. Seminar leader David DeAngelo, demonstrated how to use Mind Lines to shatter limiting beliefs, and strengthen inner game, and how it worked for him.
Later an nlp student asked me to install the idea from this book, EXTERNAL BEHAVIOR = INTERNAL STATE. He waxed so lyrically about Michael Hall and Mindlines, I determined to read it.
Ostensibly it's about the art of reframing conversations using the 26 techniques in this book.
What happens though, as you read, and apply the Mind-lines to yourself, you come up with new ones and you may notice your own mind starts to open up, you look at things in new ways, and you can find inspiring answers, and shifts in perception.
Here is an example with reframes:
"Your being late means you don't care." External behavior (lateness)= Internal State (don't care).
Reflect back: Have you ever been late for something, and did it mean you didn't care?
Counter example: If I was on time would that mean that I did care?
Contrast: Just because someone is on time doesn't mean they care. Just because someone's late doesn't mean they don't care, does it?
Meta Model, Chunking down: How specifically, does my being late mean I don't care?
Mind Reading: How do you know I don't care? Are you able to read my mind?
Authority frame: According to who? Where is it written that lateness means not caring?
Value: What's more important, my being here, or my being late?
Allness: What would it be like if everyone was always late? Would it mean that no one cares, ever? What kind of world would that be?
You do need to have good rapport with some reframes. And there are 18 more than this.Read more ›