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Mistakes Were Made (But Not by Me): Why We Justify Foolish Beliefs, Bad Decisions, and Hurtful Acts [Paperback]

Carol Tavris (Author), Elliot Aronson (Author)
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March 2008
Why do people dodge responsibility when things fall apart? Why the parade of public figures unable to own up when they screw up? Why the endless marital quarrels over who is right? Why can we see hypocrisy in others but not in ourselves? Are we all liars? Or do we really believe the stories we tell?

Backed by years of research and delivered in lively, energetic prose, Mistakes Were Made (But Not by Me) offers a fascinating explanation of self-deception—how it works, the harm it can cause, and how we can overcome it.


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"Thanks, in part, to the scientific evidence it provides and the charm of its down-to-earth, commonsensical tone, Mistakes Were Made is convincing. Reading it, we recognize the behavior of our leaders, our loved ones, and—if we're honest—ourselves, and some of the more perplexing mysteries of human nature begin to seem a little clearer."—Francine Prose, O, The Oprah Magazine

"By turns entertaining, illuminating and—when you recognize yourself in the stories it tells—mortifying."—The Wall Street Journal

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"By turns entertaining, illuminating and - when you recognise yourself in the stories it tells - mortifying." The Wall Street Journal --This text refers to an alternate Paperback edition.

Product Details

  • Paperback: 304 pages
  • Publisher: Mariner Books; Reprint edition (March 2008)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0156033909
  • ISBN-13: 978-0156033909
  • Product Dimensions: 8 x 5.3 x 0.8 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 10.4 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
  • Average Customer Review: 4.5 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (141 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #6,436 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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192 of 201 people found the following review helpful
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Or so say Tavis and Aronson on how we lose our ethical grip---we make a small slip, say to ourselves it is not that bad, and our minds rationalize the next slip. From lunch with a lobbyist to a golf outing in Europe is not---when the mind puts its mind to it---that big a leap. Their discussion of confirmation bias, one of the worst breeders of bad decisions is outstanding and undertandable. And the chapter on how the police get the innocent to confess is chilling. There are all sorts of useful tips.Want to co-op an enemy? Get her to do a favor for you; her mind will say, "I do not do favors for jerks,and because I do not, he must not be that big a jerk." The mind can not hold two thoughts at once, so it bridges the dissonance. At 236 pages, the book is long enough to be worthwhile, but short enough to read on a vacation. Anyone interested in persuasion and how our minds work will find the read a useful one.
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192 of 202 people found the following review helpful
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Why do people refuse to admit mistakes - so deeply that they transform their own brains? They're not kidding themselves: they really believe what they have to believe to justify their original thought.

There are some pretty scary examples in this book. Psychologists who refuse to admit they'd bought into the false memory theories, causing enormous pain. Politicians. Authors. Doctors. Therapists. Alien abduction victims.

Most terrifying: The justice system operates this way. Once someone is accused of a crime - even under the most bizarre circumstances - the police believe he's guilty of something. Even when the DNA shows someone is innocent, or new evidence reveals the true perpetrator, they hesitate to let the accused person go free.

This book provides an enjoyable, accurate guide through contemporary social psychology. So many "obvious" myths are debunked as we learn the way memory really works and why revenge doesn't end long-term conflict.

Readers should pay special attention to the authors' discussion of the role of science in psychology, as compared to psychiatry, which is a branch of medicine. I must admit I was shocked to realize how few psychiatrists understand the concept of control groups and disconfirmation. Psychoanalysis in particular is not scientific. The authors stop short of comparing it to astrology or new age.

This book should be required reading for everyone, especially anyone who's in a position to make policy or influence the lives of others. But after reading Mistakes were Made, I suspect it won't do any good. Once we hold a position, say the authors, it's almost impossible to make a change.
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22 of 24 people found the following review helpful
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This page-turning read takes you through the myriad ways in which a human urge toward self-justification warps personal lives and contaminates public discourse. The authors ask: "Why do people dodge responsibility when things fall apart?" They explain, with abundant examples. Even more important, they draw readers painlessly through the evidence about self-justification, much of it based on research into the contours of memory distortion.

No one escapes the authors' withering gaze: political leaders who lie to cover up, bosses who kick downward and kiss upward, marriage partners who whine.

A book about the defenses that people erect for bad decisions and hurtful acts might easily turn into an exercise in "bubba psychology", or giving folk wisdom the patina of scholarship. But Tavris and Aronson are much better than that. They are serious, renowned psychologists with a knack for telling arresting stories. They have an eye for counter-intuitive and revealing details. Each chapter tells you things you didn't know, or illuminates experiences you thought you understood, but come to see in a fresh light.

In short, you'll see a bit of yourself as well as others in Mistakes Were Made. You'll be thankful for its insights.
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Most Recent Customer Reviews
An insightful, if sometimes uncomfortable, read
As you progress through the book you will begin to recognize and understand some of the more difficult to fathom behaviors in others and ourselves.
Published 15 days ago by Alison
Makes You Think
Love it when a book really makes me think, or re-think how I see the world. This is one of those books.
Published 23 days ago by Dewey Square
Good Read
This was a book worth getting - good read - very thought provoking. Great experience with seller. Gives a lot of good examples and includes politicians and celebs alike.
Published 2 months ago by Hattie Hedrick
Excellent book about human nature.
I'm still half-way through reading this book, but I'm impressed with the discussion about human nature regarding self-justification. Very good book.
Published 3 months ago by John A. Phillips
Great Voyeuristic Gossip about One's Own Behavior
I found this book to not only be illuminating and disturbing but also a pleasant read. Tilt.

It is very hard to see ourselves and our behavior through anything but a... Read more
Published 3 months ago by Jeff Bennett
An illuminating (if occasionally uncomfortable) read
Carol Tavris and Elliot Aronson draw on numerous examples from politics, education, marriage, psychotherapy, the judicial system, and the workplace to illustrate how and why people... Read more
Published 4 months ago by Claudia Greer
Interesting but biased book
I love the Title of this book, but the authors must have had their togues in their cheeks. They made plenty of mistakes themselves. Read more
Published 4 months ago by Bonnie B. Matheson
A Great Book To Give Someone as a Gift
This is a great book. I think that almost anyone who was unfamiliar with social psychology (which is most educated thinking people) would get a huge amount of important thinking... Read more
Published 4 months ago by Christopher Ammons
Great book!
Clearly written, easy to read and well-researched. I highly recommend this book to anyone, especially anyone interested in human nature - what makes us tick, why we do what we do.
Published 4 months ago by gardencat
An insightful read
I heard about this on a Brain Science podcast interview with Dr. Ginger Campbell. The book goes into more detail than the interview, of course. Read more
Published 6 months ago by Dr. T
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