Mister Gumbo: Down and Dirty with Black Men on Life, Sex, and Relationships [Paperback]

Ursula Inga Kindred (Author), Mirranda Guerin-Williams (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: July 14, 2005 | ISBN-10: 0312326815 | ISBN-13: 978-0312326814 | Edition: 1st

In Sister Gumbo, black women shared what they had to say about life and love. Now, in Mister Gumbo, ladies hear what black men have to say about sex, women, lust, love, and relationships.

What black men really think about
· One-night stands
· Living life on the “down-low”
· Baby Mamas
· “Milk in my coffee” (dating white women)
· Marriage
· Finding a relationship with God
· And much, much more. . .

Editorial Reviews

From Publishers Weekly

In Sister Gumbo, black women spoke honestly about black men. Now the men get their turn in Kindred and Guerin-Williams's new collection of frank comments. And frank they are: sometimes coarse (one man talks about a "trifling-ass" woman's "good pussy"), more often respectful (indeed, Ken is almost awed by one woman who "didn't fall for me like every other woman did"). The men range in age from 20s to early 40s; they are single, married, divorced; and they have a wide range of opinions and experiences. But one message that comes through clearly is that the men aren't in a hurry to fall in love and commit to a relationship, and they're turned off by a woman who asks, after one or two months of dating, where the relationship is going and whether the man loves her. A lot of these men seem to have a lot of women running after them (even Dante, who's married).But they say sex is not the most important part of a relationship, and sexual fidelity counts: one says, "If the woman is doing her best to please her man, then it's easy for him not to cheat." Black women who want to know what men will never tell them directly will learn a lot from this sometimes startlingly honest book.
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Praise for Sister Gumbo

“Where Shere Hite’s The Hite Report and ABC’s The View have gone before, two sisters from Fort Worth have followed---into the world of girl talk. Frank girl talk.”
---Dallas Morning News

“The writing is outstanding and the authors really went out of their way to bring these stories to life. I could imagine myself talking with the [women], it is so down-to-earth.”
---Fort Worth Star-Telegram

“Not to be missed.”
---Francis Ray, national bestselling author


“Sister Gumbo is emotional, touching, and powerful! With a cast of characters we can all relate to, this book is a must-read for every woman.”
---Brenda Jackson, national bestselling author of The Savvy Sistahs


“Gives the reader a trip into the joys, pains, and life lessons of the female.”
---The Southern Digest

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Product Details

• Paperback: 352 pages
• Publisher: St. Martin's Griffin; 1st edition (July 14, 2005)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0312326815
• ISBN-13: 978-0312326814
• Product Dimensions: 8.1 x 5.2 x 1 inches
• Shipping Weight: 10.4 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.3 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (3 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #1,764,333 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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2 of 2 people found the following review helpful:

4.0 out of 5 stars Informative, November 10, 2006

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This review is from: Mister Gumbo: Down and Dirty with Black Men on Life, Sex, and Relationships (Paperback)

I enjoyed reading this book, it gave an inside look at how men feel about ceratin life situations. I recommend this book to all women. Not necessarily to understand men, each one is different; but it gives you an interesting perspective.

5.0 out of 5 stars Men telling the TRUTH!, April 14, 2007

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This review is from: Mister Gumbo: Down and Dirty with Black Men on Life, Sex, and Relationships (Paperback)

I enjoyed this book just as much as I enjoyed Sister Gumbo. It was very good idea for the sisters to get together and create a different book where they interview men on different situations..love, marriage, sex, affairs, what turns them and off. This was a good book and for once, men telling the truth!

You'll be surprised at some of the things these men have to say!

2 of 4 people found the following review helpful:

4.0 out of 5 stars (RAW Rating: 4.5) - Sex, Lies, and Mouths Agape, August 12, 2005

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This review is from: Mister Gumbo: Down and Dirty with Black Men on Life, Sex, and Relationships (Paperback)

Ladies, did you know some men think that if they tell us what we want to hear we will do whatever they want? Did it ever dawn on you that many times a man isn't really looking for sex? Rather, he just wants to know he can have it? These and other startling tidbits are revealed in the latest collection of interviews by Ursula Inga Kindred and Mirranda Guerin-Williams in their follow-up to Sister Gumbo. Women all over the planet will be stunned at the things revealed in this veritable handbook for getting and keeping a man.

The authors interviewed several men of different ages, different backgrounds, and different marital experiences, providing readers with a wide range of answers. Though the subjects were primarily African-American, it seemed that many of the concepts could be applied to all men, regardless of race. Topics included commitment, pet peeves, sex, fatherhood, eroticism, dating, marriage, and everything in between. The interviewees were extremely candid, as some of the things they said were a shock and awe campaign on my senses.

I must say that these ladies are a joy to read. They knew just the questions to ask and just how to ask them to provide us with the lowdown on how men really think. While the beginning introductions to the interviewees were a bit long, it was nice to have them there to refer to later in the book. I would suggest that if you get anxious, skim them in the beginning and go straight to the good part. Every woman should read this book; it will be more eye-opening than you can imagine.

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