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Mixed Matches: How to Create Successful Interracial, Interethnic, and Interfaith Relationships

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Crohn's book gets you started thinking about the issues that are amplified even more in a inter-ethnic, interracial, inter-religious marriage: dealing with in-laws, hidden expectations, raising children in a cross cultural environment and instilling a sense of identity in them. I recomend it highly. The sooner you read the book, the more time you have to deal with these issues. Besides, it is comforting to know you are not the only couple dealing with these issues :)

If you're looking for quick practical advice on meeting your partner's parents or what to wear to an Indian wedding, try the "Complete Idiot's Guide to Interfaith Relationships." But if you're looking for a deeper, more thoughtful discussion of the complexities of "mixed matches," especially their impact on the family and children, this book is for you. It delves into a very astute exploration of the motivations and attractions behind interfaith/interethnic/interracial relationships, and it thoroughly explores the difficulties involved in negotiating differences as they impact the partnership and the family. The discussion on raising children in "mixed" households is particularly enlightening. This book is heavy on the pyschology, which might be a turn-off to some, but it definitely gets the reader thinking about complex underlying issues.

The author considers many aspects of "Mixed Matches" covering how we feel about and deal with ourselves, our partners, family, friends, strangers and finally our children.

The approach is mostly to quote annecdotal material from situations that illustrate the point the the author wishes to make. These are then followed by his personal, rather "folksy" advice.

The style will not appeal to all readers and especially, it may not be so effective at helping a relationship once problems have become entrenched.

However, as a book to read before this happens, it is very useful. I'd stronlgy recommend it to anyone in the early stages of a mixed relationship. It will prepare you for some of the trials ahead and you will be much better equipped to deal with them.

I am an American in a relationship with a Kenyan man. I've read several books on the subject of intercultural relationships, as there is no one in my life to advise me in this area. This book was the toughest to get through because it is written on a much higher reading level than the other books were. However, it has been the most helpful. At the end of every chapter, there are worksheet-type pages. This book is more like counseling than simply reading. He introduces different issues in each chapter, and then he guides you through exploring how this issue is affecting you and your culture, your partner and their culture, and your relationship together.

I bought this book early on in a mixed relationship, and I'm really glad I did. It definitely helped me shape my thoughts around the differences in origin with my boyfriend (we've been together a year and a half now). I didn't use it as a "fix" for a problem, just as a way to help me think things through. To believe that everything's going to be fine just because you're in love is a recipe for disaster, and this book will help to walk you through that. Plus, like someone else said, sometimes just hearing that you're not the only one going through it is the best help.

I bought this not only because I had to return the library one but I know I will need this on my bookshelf for later.
The language and the advicing in this book are awesome for mixed matches.
Shipping was very fast and the book is in excelent condition!!

I'm the product of a mixed match. My mother is Jewish, my father isn't, I wasn't raised anything.

The book really helped me understand my own identity, and my own issues, plus the issues that led each of my parents to choosing a partner with a different background.

This book is OK, however I feel that at times it is a little pessimistic. I would have liked to see more case studies.