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Product Details

  • Hardcover: 320 pages
  • Publisher: Dutton Adult; First Edition edition (August 22, 2005)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0525948848
  • ISBN-13: 978-0525948841
  • Product Dimensions: 9.5 x 6.4 x 1.1 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 1.2 pounds
  • Average Customer Review: 4.5 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (27 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #2,200,366 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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From Publishers Weekly

Rabbi's daughter Ellenson's wide-ranging and thought-provoking collection touches on familiar-mothers, marriage and bacon-as well as less obvious, but equally potent, sources of guilt. In one of the strongest essays, Susan Shapiro explains how she's done what most women only fantasize about: declined social engagements and cut back on granting favors so she can do what she wants. It's selfish, she admits, but she's happier. Binnie Kirshenbaum manages to retain a sense of humor despite being greeted with "When are you going to grow up and have a family?" whenever talk turns to her childlessness. Humor is a staple for many of Ellenson's writers, among them Lori Gottlieb, whose "loving but lethal" mother seems to have been pulled from central casting. But Gottlieb captures the right tone, and the result is fresh and funny. As is Sharon Brous' recollection of being reprimanded by a religious Jew for placing an unopened bottle of salad dressing on a kitchen counter. "I was mortified and guilt-ridden-as much by my stupid mistake as by the fact that I didn't understand half the words she was shouting at me." Her solution: she is now a rabbi. That won't work for everyone, but given the variety of approaches offered here, most readers will find something to help assuage their guilty consciences.
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A humorous exploration... of strong and moving stories about what it means... to be a Jewish woman in today's world -- Los Angeles Times

A lively and intelligent gathering. -- Seattle Times

Brilliantly observed... The angst-filled situations are funny and poignant and have a fresh, frank, Sex and the City tone. -- New Jersey Jewish News

Entertaining with emotional depth. -- New Jersey Home News Tribune

Funny, thoughtful and frequently moving... A fine job of articulating the crises of identity that beset modern Jewish women. -- JBooks.com

Humorous and poignant.... explores in a nuanced way the different kinds of guilt experienced by modern American Jewish women. -- Fort Worth Star-Telegram

Trust me, you'll feel guilty if you don't read this hilarious and poignant collection. Move over, Woody Allen. -- St. Petersburg Times

Twenty-eight essays by some of America's most prominent Jewish female writers... a kid-in-the-candy-store experience for the angst-ridden Jew. -- Jewish Journal of Los Angeles

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It's a thoughtfully collected book- very engaging.
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As a little bit of additional heresy, I kept this book as bathtub reading, since each essay was about as long as a short story.
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These true stories were written beautifully; honest, personal, heartfelt, and with lots of personality.
Sarah Banner

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37 of 38 people found the following review helpful By Rebecca N TOP 500 REVIEWER on October 23, 2005
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The essays in this book were consistently excellent, with few exceptions. I was raised in an ultra-orthodox household, rebelled to modern orthodoxy in my teen years, and am generally non-practicing as an adult -- with the exception of making a kickin' matzoh ball soup when the urge hits me. In reading these essays, I laughed frequently, and felt that the writers (who span the complete spectrum) really expressed the jewish culture, while, at the same time, had unique stories to tell. I couldn't believe how well I related to so many of these women. If you are a jewish women of any bent, I think you will as well. Some essays assume specific knowledge of judaism without explanation (i.e. using the word "shadchan" instead of "matchmaker") but even those without this knowledge could probably pick up what they don't know because of context. I think some of my catholic friends would also enjoy this "guilt" book.

As a little bit of additional heresy, I kept this book as bathtub reading, since each essay was about as long as a short story. Full of laughs! I highly recommend.
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31 of 33 people found the following review helpful By Scott H. Smith on November 2, 2005
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Though I am a man, I know from guilt, and Ellenson and her authors nail the topic. This isn't what you expect; it's not a typical treatment of a broad topic, with the typical cliches. Instead, it's a sensitive, creative treatment of an intriguing and complicated human phenomenon. One does not need to be either Jewish or a girl to fully enjoy this book.
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21 of 23 people found the following review helpful By Jewessy J. on November 4, 2005
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Molly Jong Fast, daughter of Erica Jong who wrote Fear of Flying, wrote one of the funniest esays I've ever read in my life for this book. She writes about how all of her therapists become obsessed with her mother writing sexual novels and how they try to get her to talk about how much her mom traumatized her. Instead of feeling guilt about it, she decides to only agree with her shrinks if they give her candy. Freakin' hysterical.

The other essay I LOVED was by Aimee Bender (who wrote "The Girl in the Flammable Skirt"). As a Highly Assimilated Jew myself I completely 100% saw myself in her story. I don't feel particularly religious, but always feel a spooky air of superstition around me, a fear of an "evil eye" if things are going too well--if I'm too happy, I'm screwed.

I read the book over several lunch breaks at work and found it a fun way to take myself out of my day.
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15 of 16 people found the following review helpful By Sarah Banner on November 3, 2005
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Being a Modern Jewish girl, I sure do know guilt. I have felt a lot of it and after this book I don't feel so alone.

This wonderful book made me feel less guilty. My Grandfather has been a Cantor for over 50 years. I also attended a Jewish Day school and Jewish Summer camp. I felt guilty for wanting more; breaking away from that environment.

I identified with a lot of these stories. Some had me laughing hysterically and I cried at times too.

These true stories were written beautifully; honest, personal, heartfelt, and with lots of personality.

It's not just for women to read either! My husband loved it and identified with a it a lot! It's so nice to know that we are not alone out there and that we are finding our place in this world individually and as a whole. "The Modern Jewish Girl's Guide To Guilt," is a book long overdue. I feel less guilty now!
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10 of 10 people found the following review helpful By L. Hanson on November 27, 2005
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I saw the editor and three of the writers speak in San Francisco earlier this month. The panel was so interesting that I chose the book for my book group and we just met to discuss the book and it was one of the most thought provoking discussions we've had. We had 12 people at our meeting ranging in age from 27-63 and what was interesting was that each member had different favorite stories (the stories were all good, but we each related to different ones). If you are part of a book club, I enthusiastically reccomend this book for a great evening of discussion. It really stirs things up.
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12 of 13 people found the following review helpful By JewGirl on August 24, 2005
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I was kind of amazed that an anthology could have so many essays which were all so good--all of them really made me think. As cliched as it sounds, I often found myself laughing through my tears. My favorites were Rachel Kadish on the Holocaust and Lauren Grodstein on Monica Lewinsky and Ayelet Waldman's on Israel. A great read!
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8 of 8 people found the following review helpful By Orit Harpaz on October 6, 2006
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This book has a story for everyone. Touching, inspiring, funny, insightful. I

highly recommend it to all my friends, jewish or not!
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10 of 11 people found the following review helpful By Judy Klein on August 26, 2005
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This is a great book for a book club. There's so much to discuss. I found two of the book's sections, Our Bubbes, Ourselves and Chai Anxiety to be the best, but they were all very readable. As a woman in my 40's, far from a girl, I found much I related to and enjoyed in this excellent anthology.
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