Fleming, a child psychotherapist, explains the meaning behind the terrible, often hurtful, and sometimes embarrassing remarks that come out of children's mouths. What parents often interpret as defiant and disrespectful comments are a necessary part of development, according to Fleming. He offers advice on how to decode what children are saying and how to react in productive ways rather than getting angry and escalating the war of words. Beginning with the truculent and emphatic no
uttered by very young children through the more provocative and sassy comments and behavior of adolescents, Fleming explains the emotions behind the temperamental speech and behavior. Using vignettes and case histories, Fleming illustrates the typical behavior of children and their parents' reactions, explains the underlying issues, and offers alternative scenarios for how parents can react to everything from preschool hitting to sibling rivalry. He also examines how the media affects children's behavior and how parents can monitor and limit negative influences. A good title for the parenting shelf. Vanessa BushCopyright © American Library Association. All rights reserved
From the Inside Flap
?You Can?t Make Me!? ?You?re Stupid!? ?I Wish You Were Dead.?
From embarrassing public displays of defiance and snide remarks at the dinner table to shocking outbursts of hate and anger, children often communicate in ways that push the notion of freedom of expression way beyond acceptable boundaries. In Mom, I Hate You!
, respected psychotherapist Don Fleming demonstrates that such behavior is a natural, necessary part of growing up and offers parents effective strategies for responding to provocative statements and establishing meaningful, mutually satisfying parent-child communications.
Dr. Fleming takes parents through these tactics step by step, including:
? Decoding the meaning behind children?s words
? Responding to the meaning, not the words
? Strategies for change?incentives and consequences
? Provocative communication and sibling rivalry
? Line-by-line examples
Dr. Fleming explains how to decode the emotional message behind a child?s seemingly rude, mean-spirited, or disrespectful words and helps parents evaluate their own habitual, often counterproductive reactions to specific situations and behavior patterns. Using realistic examples, he shows that parents can reduce antagonizing and aggressive confrontations while teaching their kids to express their emotions freely and honestly.