Mom I Need to be a Girl [Paperback]

Just Evelyn (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: December 19, 2007

This book, written by the single mother of a Transsexual teen-ager, is a true account of their experiences wending their way through the morass of roadblocks and confusion in seeking approval for the son to become the daughter she had always been meant to be. It describes clearly the troubles that the "system" deliver to maintain the status-quo, and the overwhelming drive needed by both the child and the parent in overcoming these burdens and achieving success. This should be required reading for any parent of a Transgendered person. The writing style is easy and familiar and will make for a "quick read" ; one you won't want to put down

Product Details

• Paperback: 140 pages
• Publisher: BookSurge Publishing; 2 edition (December 19, 2007)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 1419684388
• ISBN-13: 978-1419684388
• Product Dimensions: 8.3 x 5.4 x 0.5 inches
• Shipping Weight: 7.2 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.8 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (6 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #658,435 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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6 of 6 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Highly recommended, February 19, 2008

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David N. Parker "pflagtnet" (Colfax, NC USA) - See all my reviews
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This review is from: Mom I Need to be a Girl (Paperback)

Mom, I Need to be a Girl
by
Just Evelyn
Reviewed by Dave Parker
This heartwarming story describes the transition of Daniel to Danielle as a teenager with the incredible support of her courageous mother. Unlike many transition stories, it is told from the mother's viewpoint.
What do you say when your 15 year old son states "I need to be a girl?" How can a parent cope? Is love enough?
Daniel's dad and mother split when he was 5. With three boys to raise, Evelyn worked 2 jobs while the oldest took care of his younger brothers. Eventually she started her own business. The two older boys moved out and shared an apartment when the oldest started college, leaving Daniel and Evelyn to work through Daniel's transition together.
The book follows the usual steps of a parent confronted with a transsexual child - anguish and confusion; learning about transgender; acceptance; and finally, joy. Danielle transitioned during high school, with great help from both her mother and her school administration.
A single mother with no child support, Evelyn learned electrolysis in order to save money on treatments for Danielle and to earn money for doctors, medication, and sexual reassignment surgery. Evelyn relocated in order to put Danielle in a school willing to accommodate her transitioning daughter. When Danielle was 17, they traveled together to Wisconsin for surgery. Evelyn was her recovery nurse afterward.
The book discusses their journey together as they freed and welcomed Danielle as a new young girl. Both positive and negative experiences with medical professionals, school administrators, and family are reviewed. Suggestions for those following the same path are offered.
This book is the story of a very loving and dedicated mother helping her unhappy son become her outgoing, joyous daughter. There are important lessons here for all parents of transsexuals, but especially for parents of very young transgender children. The entire story exemplifies unconditional love for one's child.

3 of 3 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars I wish to God I could have given this book to my folks in 1968!, September 20, 2010

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Laura E. Olacy "usmclass" (Anchorage, Alaska United States) - See all my reviews
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This review is from: Mom I Need to be a Girl (Paperback)

The title about says it! Mom caught me when I was 12 and took me in private to ask me, "whats with this dressing? do you really want to BE a girl?" and instead of the truth I told her what I was sure she wanted to hear.( Daddy was a Marine Drill Instructor cor cats sakes!) Of course, in 1968 the standard "treatment" was to give the girl some p0retty clothes.... after attaching a wire to her ankle and scrotum and a crank-generator from an old crank telephone... and when she got excited by the feel of the pretties they ZAPPED her repeatedly until she puked. This made her stop dressing, but begin other self-destructive habits... cutting, drugs, alcohol, sadism...
Keeping it hidden didnt change things, it just made me miserable until I was 35 and too damaged by testosterone to ever really manage to be pretty. I live as ME now, but I am in now way as pretty on the outside as I am on the inside.....but nobody really notices the insides at a job interview (even if you are a Nam-Era Vet and have a Masters degree!)

3 of 3 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Great book about unconditional love, January 5, 2008

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Karen (Littleton, CO USA) - See all my reviews
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This review is from: Mom I Need to be a Girl (Paperback)

This amazing book tells the story of one courageous mother who walks a difficult path with her child. The sacrifices she makes along the way for her daughter demonstrate her unconditional love. Every transgender child should be so lucky as to have Evelyn for their mother!