Customer Reviews

Mom I Need to be a Girl

5 star:		(5)
4 star:		(1)
3 star:		(0)
2 star:		(0)
1 star:		(0)

 

 

Mom, I Need to be a Girl
by
Just Evelyn
Reviewed by Dave Parker
This heartwarming story describes the transition of Daniel to Danielle as a teenager with the incredible support of her courageous mother. Unlike many transition stories, it is told from the mother's viewpoint.
What do you say when your 15 year old son states "I need to be a girl?" How can a parent cope? Is love enough?
Daniel's dad and mother split when he was 5. With three boys to raise, Evelyn worked 2 jobs while the oldest took care of his younger brothers. Eventually she started her own business. The two older boys moved out and shared an apartment when the oldest started college, leaving Daniel and Evelyn to work through Daniel's transition together.
The book follows the usual steps of a parent confronted with a transsexual child - anguish and confusion; learning about transgender; acceptance; and finally, joy. Danielle transitioned during high school, with great help from both her mother and her school administration.
A single mother with no child support, Evelyn learned electrolysis in order to save money on treatments for Danielle and to earn money for doctors, medication, and sexual reassignment surgery. Evelyn relocated in order to put Danielle in a school willing to accommodate her transitioning daughter. When Danielle was 17, they traveled together to Wisconsin for surgery. Evelyn was her recovery nurse afterward.
The book discusses their journey together as they freed and welcomed Danielle as a new young girl. Both positive and negative experiences with medical professionals, school administrators, and family are reviewed. Suggestions for those following the same path are offered.
This book is the story of a very loving and dedicated mother helping her unhappy son become her outgoing, joyous daughter. There are important lessons here for all parents of transsexuals, but especially for parents of very young transgender children. The entire story exemplifies unconditional love for one's child.

The title about says it! Mom caught me when I was 12 and took me in private to ask me, "whats with this dressing? do you really want to BE a girl?" and instead of the truth I told her what I was sure she wanted to hear.( Daddy was a Marine Drill Instructor cor cats sakes!) Of course, in 1968 the standard "treatment" was to give the girl some p0retty clothes.... after attaching a wire to her ankle and scrotum and a crank-generator from an old crank telephone... and when she got excited by the feel of the pretties they ZAPPED her repeatedly until she puked. This made her stop dressing, but begin other self-destructive habits... cutting, drugs, alcohol, sadism...
Keeping it hidden didnt change things, it just made me miserable until I was 35 and too damaged by testosterone to ever really manage to be pretty. I live as ME now, but I am in now way as pretty on the outside as I am on the inside.....but nobody really notices the insides at a job interview (even if you are a Nam-Era Vet and have a Masters degree!)

This amazing book tells the story of one courageous mother who walks a difficult path with her child. The sacrifices she makes along the way for her daughter demonstrate her unconditional love. Every transgender child should be so lucky as to have Evelyn for their mother!

if you're TS this is a good read. if youre not TS you should read it anyway but you probably wont. from the title you can pretty much tell there is going to be a happy ending.ISN'T THAT NICE FOR A CHANGE. for people like me that are TS but were somehow born into a time and an enviornment that was forbidding at least and very scary at best the story is bittersweet. the thing of this book is that moms' and young people need to know there is such a thing. god how i wish i did. im going to die with a penis. how is that for a happy ending for a TS.

The story is about a very fortunate young lady who has the support of her Mother, siblings and others. Being able to transition at a early age she is able to overcome a lot of issues. Half of our happiness is just being ourselves and being who we are. I cried at times and I cheered at times as I read this book. It is a very well written book by a Mother who loved her child and lived up to the fact to do what is best for that child's need. Not what society thought was best with it's cookie cutter approach of what is "Normal". The Mother met the needs of all her children and gave them the support that each one needed. She did not "baby" them instead raised them to be productive citizens and be responsible for themselves. A most read for all parents of TG children.

I read through this book placing myself in the spot of her Daughter because I have felt like this most of my life

thank you so much for such a great book, I'm gonna order another copy for my mother

Jenna