"Momfulness" is one of the best books I've ever read. As the subtitle indicates, it is about "mothering with mindfulness, compassion, and grace." And yet it is about so much more. "Momfulness" is a treasure trove of stories, meditations, practices, and wisdom that relate not only to mothering, but also to our relationships with ourselves, our communities, and the world.
Roy describes Momfulness as a spiritual practice, and her book makes reference to a variety of spiritual traditions. I find her approach so open-minded and inclusive that I think it will speak to people of all faiths--or no faith. If you believe in grace or sacredness--or if you're even open to the possibility of such things--I think this book will greatly enrich your life.
"Momfulness" includes six spiritual practices, with several chapters devoted to each. The chapters include stories, reflections, and suggested activities and meditations. Roy is a master storyteller (as you'll know if you've read "My Monastery Is a Minivan"), and I found the stories in this book to be fascinating--sometimes funny, sometimes poignant, always compelling. I found Roy's reflections to be full of insight and wisdom, without ever being preachy. The suggested activities and meditations offer a wealth of ideas for putting Momfulness into practice, and cover a wide range of topics (such as forgiving yourself, recognizing grace, deep listening, and loving touch).
Here are the six spiritual practices, along with what I consider to be a highlight of each: "Presence" includes finding wonder in seemingly ordinary moments. "Attention" includes noticing "with kindness" what is happening within ourselves and our children. "Compassion" includes practicing "unconditional friendliness" toward ourselves. "Embodiment" includes "blessing" ourselves and our families through daily activities like bathing. "The Sacred in All Things" includes opening to "the great love and grace that holds us all." And "Community" includes drawing "the circle of our family" wide enough to include all children, all people, all beings.
"Momfulness" is beautifully written and a delight to read. (I read it in one sitting.) I consider "Momfulness" to be a must-read not only for mothers, but also for others who have a connection with children (fathers, grandparents, teachers, etc.)--and for everyone else who wants to live life with more mindfulness, compassion, and grace.