Money Advice for Your Successful Remarriage: Handling Delicate Financial Issues With Love and Understanding [Paperback]

Patricia Schiff Estess (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: March 1996

People who are remarried--or about to be--will learn how to meet the monetary aspects head on. Estess writes from experience--her own and that of nearly 100 remarried couples. Readers will learn how to talk meaningfully about money, what to to consider when deciding where to live, 10 ways to stretch a dollar, how to prepare for the monetary impact of an "ours" baby, and more.

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With financial problems the leading cause of divorce, this is certainly a much-needed title. Estess, who is the founding editor of Sylvia Porter's Personal Finance magazine and author of Kids, Money & Values (Betterway, 1991), shares the stories of nearly 100 remarried couples and her own personal experience to talk about the financial aspects of remarriage. She takes into consideration all possible scenarios of remarriage, e.g., how to deal with child support and alimony responsibilities from previous marriages; financial obligations to children and stepchildren living and not living with the new couple; and buying a home in the new marriage and selling home(s) from previous marriages. Estess also includes a very helpful consideration of prenuptial agreements and the importance of discussing financial issues before the marriage, even if a prenuptial agreement is not used. Recommended for public libraries.?Joel Jones, Kansas City P.L., Mo.
Copyright 1996 Reed Business Information, Inc.

Product Details

• Paperback: 240 pages
• Publisher: Betterway Books; 2 edition (March 1996)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 1558704132
• ISBN-13: 978-1558704138
• Product Dimensions: 8.8 x 5.9 x 0.7 inches
• Shipping Weight: 11.2 ounces
• Average Customer Review: 4.0 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (1 customer review)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #1,733,724 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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4.0 out of 5 stars comprehensive, readable, useful - and omits key points, September 6, 2004

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Peter Gerlach (Portland, OR) - See all my reviews

This review is from: Money Advice for Your Successful Remarriage: Handling Delicate Financial Issues With Love and Understanding (Paperback)

I have specialized in providing professional education and therapy to divorced, courting, and re/wedded couples since 1981. I am (a) 66, (b) a stepgrandson, stepson, and ex-stepfather and stepbrother, (c) an invited Board member of the Stepfamily Association of America, (d) a contributing editor to 'Your Stepfamily Online,' and (e) the author of six personal-growth and family-relations books. I am not a financial expert, as author Patricia Estess is.

I recommend this book to readers who want (a) a well-researched, readable, practical introduction to money management in stepfamilies, starting in courtship. The single reservation I have about this book is that the author makes no mention of several factors that will hinder typical readers from following her practical advice. Like most authors in this genre, she omits:

1) why and how to assess and reduce co-parents' psychological wounds from childhood (vs. divorce). Most divorced and stepfamily adults appear to be significantly wounded - and don't (want to) know it;

2) the origin and impacts of blocked grief in adults and kids, and how to spot and reduce it;

3) co-parent unawareness of - and indifference to - five key topics: (a) normal personality formation, composition, and function; (b) keys to high-nurturance families and relationships, (c) effective communication skills, (d) healthy 3-level grief, and (e) stepfamily realities, norms, implications, and hazards. And...

4) the implications of little effective re/marital and co-parenting help (i.e. courtship coaching, classes, informed counseling, co-parent support groups) available in most communities and the media.

In my clinical experience, these factors will often promote needy, love-dazed courting co-parents to commit to the wrong people (mate, stepkids, and "other parent/s"), for the wrong reasons, at the wrong time. Then the factors inhibit co-parents from identifying and resolving these core personal, role, and relationship problems, including those related to money and asset-management:

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Nontheless, this is a genuinely helpful book for most divorced-family and stepfamily adults and professional financial advisors. For specific suggestions on how to choose practical, useful books on stepfamily co-parenting and re/marriage, see this:

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