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Money, Power, Respect: What Brothers Think, What Sistahs Know

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Denene and Nick, a happily married couple, decided that the way they do things and their collective experiences would be a good tool with which others could navigate their own relationships, and for the most part, they do have stimulating observations/scenarios/suggestions. However, the constant over-use of "ebonics" will become tedious and work your last nerve: it almost undermines the seriousness of the points that they're trying to get across, since, as a general rule, we don't all use that type of slang 24/7 in everyday conversation (at least I and other Blacks I know don't): maybe they thought people could relate better and/or consider them more "down"...either way, it's distracting and unnecessary. Furthermore, unlike the title states, they don't delve fully into the serious "money power and respect" issues that we all have had experience with, from how some brothers decide to be "scrubs" and/or don't want to take the necessary weight in the relationship/household, why some sisters put up with that tired mess (and perpetuate it by the way they raise the daughters and spoil the sons), why some men think it's cool for them to be constantly "in-between jobs" while their women are automatic "gold-diggers" if they don't work for any extended period (even Mr. Chiles really didn't have any illuminating responses to that point), etc. I bought the book looking for insight into that sort of thinking, and got nothing but opinions/banter/ebonics. In conclusion, if you like their style and think that their marriage is the blueprint you want to copy, then I guess this would be a good book for you. But for those who want deeper understanding in a more "adult" format, hard-hitting facts and lessons that put your new-found knowledge into practice, please run and get any book by Audrey B. Chapman: she has mind-blowing exercises and perspectives on our relationships that point out the issues and give us the road map on how to get there BY PROMOTING DEEPER UNDERSTANDING OF SELF, not cutesy slang or straight opinion that simply slap a band-aid on the festering wounds that kill Black relationships today.

Although I haven't finished reading the entire book yet, its excellent and pretty much truthful. I like the way Denene and Nick ask and answer each other's questions just like a man or woman would. If you need to know what the other gender is thinking, check this book out. Might stop a lot of arguements over something petty. Some people might not approve of the slang used or profanity but it kept me laughing and I'm learning a lot from a female's point of view. Thanks Nick and Denene!