Monster Lies: A Woman's Guide to Controlling Her Destiny [Hardcover]

Sally Franz (Author), Jennifer Webb (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: July 2002

Why aren’t I happy? Why are my Life Goals eluding me? Why don’t my relationships work?

Maybe it’s the way you’re Thinking.

Grab a flashlight and come along with Sally Franz and Jennifer Webb as they take you on a Monster Lies hunt through the darkest corners of your mind. With examples from their own difficult lives and compassion for your problems, these authors will illuminate the secret Lies that keep you from fulfilling your needs, wants and dreams. They’ll turn the spotlight on:

Perfecto: keeps you from doing what you want because you’ll never be "perfect" at it.

Scarcity: forces women to horde–money, time, emotions–because soon there won’t be "enough."

Doomsday: tells you that everything will end badly, nothing you do will change anything.

Satisfaction: insists you accept whatever you have, because you can never expect better.

And eight more Monster Lies that can hijack your life!

Editorial Reviews

From Publishers Weekly

Arguing that many self-help books "promise you the world, but seem short on reality," motivational speakers Sally Franz and Jennifer Webb have written Monster Lies: A Woman's Guide to Controlling Her Destiny, a succinct manual for making immediate life changes. The authors debunk common pitfalls people encounter when they attempt to change their lives (e.g., fearing that no matter how hard one tries, things will end badly; belittling oneself for not being perfect; trusting "experts" rather than going with a gut instinct) and explain how to toss these inhibitions to work toward personal success. Exercises and chapter summaries make this an easy-to-follow, helpful handbook.
Copyright 2002 Cahners Business Information, Inc.

Review

"Wow! Finally a book to help each of us overcome the Monster Lies we’ve... been slave to." -- Mark Victor Hansen, Co-creator, #1 New York Times best-selling series Chicken Soup for the Soul®

"[This]is an amazingly complete self-help book.... The information in this book is timeless... We rate this 4 hearts." -- Heartland Reviews

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Product Details

• Hardcover: 336 pages
• Publisher: Beagle Bay Inc; 1 edition (July 2002)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0967959160
• ISBN-13: 978-0967959160
• Product Dimensions: 7.8 x 5.4 x 1.2 inches
• Shipping Weight: 15.2 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.8 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (13 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #1,756,478 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

More About the Author

Sally Franz is a multi-award winning humor and motivational author. She honed her skills for humor on the stand-up comedy stages in Manhattan, NY. She has produced and hosted hundreds of radio and TV shows as well as appearing on the Today Show 3 times, CNBC, The Maury Povitch Show and the LifeStyle Channel. In public appearances she has shared the stage with stars such as Rosey O'Donnel, Geraldo and Brooke Shields.

Sally has had a successful motivational/speaking career with clients such as Texaco-Chevron, Intel, SONY, and Yahoo! Her claim to fame is her niche in humor. Especially of late in Boomer-Humor. You can catch her regular blogs on being a Baby Boomer at: www.BabyBoomerTalkRadio.com

Check out her books at Amazon: "The Baby Boomers Guide to Menopause...or how to have more fun than 36 hours of labor" and just out, "Scrambled Leggs...a Snarky Tale of Hospital Hooey".

Customer Reviews

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23 of 24 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Free yourself from lies that control your life, February 11, 2003

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This review is from: Monster Lies: A Woman's Guide to Controlling Her Destiny (Hardcover)

"Monster Lies: A Woman's Guide to Controlling Her Destiny" is an excellent guide to finding the "Lies" that control our destiny as well as uncovering ways to regain control. It begins by identifying the twelve most common "lies" that people often come to accept as truth. Each chapter then takes one of those lies and examines it in detail from how to identify it to determining how it affects your life to a pathway to freedom and choice.

Have you come to accept any of the following lies as truth? The Doomesday Lie says that if nothing ever changes then what is the point of trying? The Stressor Lie says that you have no control over what happens to you. The Perfecto Lie says that you have to do things perfectly the first time so don't try anything new. The Scarcity Lie says that you should hoard what you have and never enjoy them because they may not be there tomorrow. The Satisfaction Lie says that you shouldn't ask others for anything but settle for what you can do yourself. The Experteaser Lie says that you should not trust yourself or your opinion but rely on other experts. The Yardstick Lie says that you have to measure up to how other people measure you. The Stuck-in-the-mud Lie says that you should be so busy helping others that you are unable to live your own life. The Clairvoyant Lie says that people should know how you feel and respond appropriately without your telling them. The Assumption Lie says that you can make assumptions about other people even if you don't know them. The Sandman Lie says that you should just relax and accept everything and give up trying to change anything. The Worrywart Lie says that you should worry about every little detail of what might possibly happen no matter how remote the possibility.

If any of those descriptions sound familiar to you, if any of them describe you, then you owe it to yourself to read this book. The authors provide a clear, workable path to free yourself from the power of these lies and put yourself back in control of your life. The format is not only designed for the individual reader but is also excellent for small discussion groups. It is a highly recommended read.

17 of 18 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Like Magic, November 7, 2002

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Kshanti Morris (Houston, Texas) - See all my reviews

This review is from: Monster Lies: A Woman's Guide to Controlling Her Destiny (Hardcover)

This book is simply amazing and a "must read" for anyone who has ever been crippled by the fear of failure. I had the privilege of personally meeting Jennifer Webb while attending a business management seminar, which she instructed. She is real; having personally walked the walk, her triumph and success are among her credentials, and the reason I read her book.

I asked her what clicked in her life to propel her from where she was to where she is now (which I am sure is only somewhere on the way to where she plans on ending up)? Jennifer mentioned that she had read some enlightened books. I was hoping she'd say something like that so that I could go out and buy it! But, recently it came to me that she already had it! And, as soon as she stopped believing what other people said she couldn't do, she did it!

Now I have an enlightened book, yours! This a great book, great story. The techniques can be used by both women and men; personally or professionally. It's like magic, the moment the light comes on. Thanks for the inspiration.

14 of 16 people found the following review helpful:

3.0 out of 5 stars Promising Ideas, November 30, 2002

By A Customer

This review is from: Monster Lies: A Woman's Guide to Controlling Her Destiny (Hardcover)

The authors have promising ideas about self-help for women. Based on the advertising and reviews, maybe my expectations were too high. Maybe its just me, but something about the tone, style, pitch, attitude or whatever you call it, struck me as pushy or arrogant or over-hyped. Perhaps in a superficial way. Other cognitive therapy workbooks seem a bit more realistically helpful to me. The aggressive advertising left me disappointed with the actual book. I find overly optimistic, simplistic hype to be a general problem in psychology today. More time and energy seem to be spent marketing a book than writing it. The result can be de-motivating. Monster Lies is an OK book, just not great in the way the promo proclaims.