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No More Drama: Nine Simple Steps to Transforming a Breakdown into a Breakthrough

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I first read NMD a year ago, and I really liked the book. Even though I have not experienced the many hardships the the author faced, I can appreciated her honesty and her strength to climb out of her negative circumstances. This book can help a lot of women who are facing self-esteem issues, and issues with self-love. So, if you read the book, don't keep it to yourself. Buy a copy for a young lady...it may really help her in the long run.

I really enjoyed reading this book. It gives hope that people can overcome the worst of circumstances and not just settle for an excuse to stay miserable. I admit, a whole lot of people can make you feel sorry for them because of what happened to them in life, but Sil Lai is not letting anyone get away with that. She is imploring everyone, with the worst thing that have happened in their life, to get over it and move on in a positive direction. The 9 steps she lays out there are worth taking to heart and putting it into practice.

I first read No More Drama Several years ago. I had just survived a breakdown and was determined to gain control of my life. A friend gave me a copy of the book and recommended I read it before I ended up in another toxic relationship. My friend promised I would relate to Sil Lai's story, she was right. The title attracted me but the book spoke to me. Sil Lai's words inspired and empowered me. The SEPIA principles guided me to a break through. I now have the inner peace and harmony she passionately speaks about. Mahatma Gandhi said, "Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony" ... I have found happiness through the SEPIA process. I'm no longer a survivor, I'm a contender! If you are struggling or surviving or pretending or searching, STOP, look no further, this book is for you.

Bravo for this unpretentious, heart to heart , manual for well deserved self love! This is told by a real woman , just like me.... single....kids, hectic , life, has had her moments of glory... ok my life is not that dramatic, but i have to admit I can get over the top sometimes. My relationships have not been perfect ( failed marriage.. to an alcoholic)... I keep on going back to the same pattern over and over with my family relationship, my work habits and ethic, and my self-absorbed lifetyle. I read a lot of self help books and it seems to be so much work all the time. For once,I discovered that the simple tools to my unanswered questions...I had practiced each steps of the Book thruout the various stages of my existence.....sporadically, erradically, but never kept up because I did not have consciousness of my actions.
Most of all I suffered ( still suffer) from a big lack of discipline (Oh yeah... and I never finish what I start!). Sil Lai in her heart to heart conversation, confession, laid out her nine steps, in a very plain way, no threat, no big words... She makes us dig a little in our spirituality, our humanity, and most of all she heps us unveil our own Truth, our life's fuel. Letting us unveil the possibilities we all have to finally enjoy the plenitude of a well balance life, in tune with our innerself and aware of our surroundings, accepting and loving who we are, just the way we are!
.... and no, it does not feel like a self pitying trip after a sceance at a support group!

Any woman struggling with self-esteem issues or disempowerment will benfeit from reading No More Drama. The honesty and truth will resonate and Abrams' step by step help will transform your life.

This book is absolutely phenomenal. Sil Lai's story touched me on many levels and reminded me just how similar we all really are. Even though our life experiences differ greatly, we share many of the same emotional struggles triggered by our individual journeys. NO MORE DRAMA is a very poignant book that calls upon the humanity in all of us. There is something in this book for all of us, not matter what challenge we may face.

Sil Lai Abrams, a young woman of questionable heritage, grew up not really knowing who she was. She always had a feelilng she didn't quite fit into her family. Her hair was curly, her skin was darker and she just looked a bit different. It wasn't until she was almost a teen, she found out the truth. As a result, she started early into alcoholism, running away and other means of acting out her frustration. She has written a book, NO MORE DRAMA, which explains her early behavior, how long it went on, and what she did to control it later in life. She divides people into two categories: survivors and contenders. Survivors are merely trying to get through life; contenders are enjoying life without all the day to day drama and stress. She has nine steps, Self Empowerment Principles in Action (SEPIA), that will help make anyone's life better. The steps are Truth, Acceptance, Action, Commitment, Focus, Faith, Love, Humility and Charity. There is a chapter to cover each one and she uses her own life to show why you want to do it and how to accomplish it. She suggests that you write each one down, explore your feelings; it will cover the truth. In the case of Acceptance, write down those things which you know to be true and it will help you accept them as truth. Or Charity - the giving of yourself, while Love is used to generate emotional and spiritual growth within yourself and others.

The book is well-written, and because she uses the errors of her own life to show what can happen if you only seek to survive, it makes it very real and something easily understood. Especially when you are honest and realize that you have done some of the very same things without knowing why you were doing it. While Abrams gives us her life story, never is there a feeling that it is a pity party but more an example of how far astray we can go. Even for those who feel their lives are on the right track, this is a good book to read and to perhaps help you stay on track.

Reviewed by Alice Holman
of The RAWSISTAZ Reviewers

I didn't realize how much I allowed fear to control my reactions and decisions. Tagging how my intergenerational style of relating has controlled my life in the past, gives me daily awareness to what makes me tick. This awareness is disheartening and motivates me to become a more self-empowered woman. I have to keep my stuff in the forefront of my mind, recognize my default reactions and make a concerted effort to respond differently.

You said in No More Drama "A self-empowered woman is one who has made a conscious choice to evaluate her life and restructure it to best suit her personal needs" and "Our moral code is only as effective as the actions we take to live by it. Staying committed to it is not always easy but it's ultimately the only thing to do if we want to be self-empowered."

I am a God-fearing, self-empowered woman who makes decisions based on Facts and Truths not Fears and Feelings! God bless you.

Andrea D. Brown
"To have a renewed body, you must be willing to have new perceptions that give rise to new solutions." - Deepak Chopra
"My soul waits silently for God alone, for my expectation is from Him." - Psalms 62:5

This book was introduced to me last year in Chicago at the Women's Black Expo. I have always wanted to help and reach out to women that were ready to make their transformation. Since then I have started a free conferencing call featuring the Nine SEPIA principles by Sai Lai Abrams. She has been a true supporter and a real down to earth person even though we're many miles apart. The book is broken down to have a conversation about the things we can do right now, without spending so mcuh money on therapists and coaches. All you have to do is pick up the book and apply it to your everyday life.

Sincerely,
Audrey Woodley
Changing Oasis

I bought this book for a family friend, and was reading through the first couple of pages. I ended up keeping the book and buying another for her. I was really drawn in by the open honesty of the author, she writes from the heart, talking about situations that I find most would be uncomfortable with, but many of us have experienced. This is a great book for the troubled person in your life, as it gives a step by step guide of self empowerment and the situations the author found herself in which led her these conclusions. It is easy to read, especially for someone going through a difficult time and who just needs a little hope and guidance.