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Linda Albi (Author), Deborah Johnson (Author), Debra Catlin (Author), Donna Florien Deurloo (Author), Sheryll Greatwood (Author)
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August 4, 1993
Invaluable real-life advice and emotional support for mothers of multiples.

Meeting the double challenge and reaping the double rewards of having twins can be both exhilarating and exhausting. In this comprehensive guide to twin pregnancy, birth, and early childhood, five mothers, with six sets of twins among them, share their experiences from the first thrill of seeing two heads on the ultrasound screen to coping with two toddlers determined to go in two directions at once. They offer a variety of "it worked for me" solutions to the many situations unique to caring for twins, whether it's dealing with the complications of a high-risk pregnancy, creating effective support systems, or simply trying to find time for their husbands and themselves.

Emphasizing individuality and adaptability, the authors of Mothering Twins encourage each mother to develop her own parenting approach, based on what's best for her and her children.


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Patricia Malrnstrom Executive Director, Twin Services and the Twinline A wonderful book, full of practical tips and thoughtful insights. Mothering Twins is the best book about the experience of rearing twins that I've read in my fifteen years as director of national services for parents of multiples.

Excerpt. © Reprinted by permission. All rights reserved.

Chapter 1

"You're having twins"

Finding Out

Whether you find out months ahead of time or at the delivery, the news that "you're having twins" has to rate as one of life's more stressful events. The reactions we had when were presented with this news varies as much within each one of us as they did among us. A lot of plans go down the drain, leaving you with many questions and mixed emotions.

Learning about twins and the feelings that newly expectant mothers of twins can experience may help you to sort out your own feelings.

Twin Facts

There are two types of twins: fraternal or dyzygotic (literally meaning two cells) and identical or monozygotic (one cell). Each is the result of a unique set of biological circumstances.

Fraternal Twins: Fraternal twins outnumber identical twins by more than 2 to 1. They occur when two separate eggs are fertilized by two different sperm. As a result, they are genetically no more alike than any set of siblings and can be two boys, two girls, or a boy and a girl.

During pregnancy, each fraternal twin grows within its own double-membraned bag of waters, the amniotic sac, and has his or her own placenta, although as pregnancy progresses, the placentas often grow together and appear to be one.

Identical Twins: Identical twins make up only about 30 percent of all twins. They are formed when one fertilized egg divides into two, resulting in two babies with identical genetic material; they are always the same sex and look alike. Developing in the uterus, each twin may have his or her own placenta and amniotic sac, just as fraternal twins do; but more often, they will share the placenta and the outer (chorion) membrane of the amniotic sac while still having their own inner (amnion) membrane. Very rarely, identical twins will share a placenta, chorion, and amnion. In this very unique situation, the developing twins lie skin-to-skin in the same oversized amniotic sac.

Predisposition to Having Twins: The occurrence of identical twinning is not well understood; it is considered to be a fluke of nature rather than the result of genetic predisposition or environmental factors. However, several factors are known to predispose women to having fraternal twins. The most common ones are: conceiving children after the age of thirty; conceiving with the help of fertility enhancing hormones or treatments such as in vitro fertilization (IVF); having a history of fraternal twins in the extended family; and having previously given birth to several other children, especially other sets of fraternal twins.

Those of us who gave birth to fraternal twins did fit at least one of the patterns of predisposition. Linda conceived both sets of her twins when she was over thirty. After having her first set of fraternals, she had an increased chance of having twins again, which she did three years later. Debra had three predisposing factors when she gave birth to her fraternal twins: She was over thirty years old, she had a history of twins in her family, and she had given birth to two other children before she got pregnant with her twins. For Debbie, who had another child and was also over thirty when she gave birth to her twins, the deciding factor was that she had conceived through IVF: Four fertilized eggs were implanted in her uterus.

Other Interesting Facts About Twins: Other factors may affect twinning. A woman's diet, quality of health, level of sexual activity, and timing of pregnancy following the cessation of birth control pill usage may influence the likelihood of her having fraternal twins.

Black women have the highest fraternal twin birth rate, followed next by Caucasian women, with Asian women having the lowest rate. On the other hand, identical twins are represented in equal percentages among all races and cultures.

Suspicions

Regardless of how twins are created, the discovery of a multiple pregnancy can come about in many different ways. Some signs and symptoms suggest the occurrence of twins, but an accurate medical diagnosis is needed to rule out other possibilities.

Florien had a history of twins in her family and because of this, she always believed that she would have twins: "I had every reason in the world to think it would happen to me. My mother is a fraternal twin. My father had fraternal twin sisters, and I am a Gemini, the astrological sign of the twins. As a child, I drew pictures of a mommy, a daddy, and twins, sometimes two sets!"

During her pregnancy, Debra also had an inkling that she was carrying twins. "In my previous pregnancies, I had been able to tap into some inner knowledge and know that each child was a boy. So far in this pregnancy I had been unable to get a fix on this baby, until one night, a thought bubbled to the surface. 'Maybe I was having a boy and a girl!'"

Perhaps these experiences seem a bit unusual, but when a pregnant woman has premonitions and dreams about having twins, she should not quickly dismiss them, especially if she has other symptoms of a twin pregnancy. Some common symptoms are: rapid weight gain not associated with overeating or retained water, uterus size which is larger than expected for the stage of pregnancy, and the awareness by the pregnant woman of fetal movement in several areas of her abdomen at the same time.

All of us had symptoms such as these. Debbie, who conceived by in vitro fertilization, was suspicious of a twin pregnancy early in her first trimester. "I got much bigger so much faster than I had in my first pregnancy that I just knew I must be pregnant with twins! By eight weeks, I already needed to wear loose-fitting skirts and maternity pants."

For the rest of us, our suspicions grew over a longer period of time. Linda remembers her first pregnancy: "After three months of morning sickness and weight loss, my waistline began to expand at an incredible rate and I gained weight rapidly. My doctor mentioned that twins were one explanation for these rapid changes, but he was also concerned that he had miscalculated my due date or that a medical condition was complicating my pregnancy. He scheduled an ultrasound during my fourth month to check on the condition of my 'baby.'"

When Florien was about five months pregnant, her midwife scheduled an ultrasound because Florien was feeling flutters of movement all over her abdomen and her uterus was consistently measuring 4 to 5 centimeters larger than expected. With similar symptoms at six and a half months into her pregnancy, Debra's midwife grew suspicious. During the examination, the midwife believed that she heard two heartbeats and that she felt two babies. To be sure, she scheduled Debra for an ultrasound.

Twins, however, were not on Sheri's mind when she went to her prenatal appointments. So, even though her uterus measured larger than was expected, she didn't think much of it. It was the alpha fetal protein (AFP) test that eventually led to the discovery of her twins.

The AFP is a simple blood test done on the mother in the sixteenth to eighteenth week of pregnancy. It measures levels of alpha fetal protein, which is produced by the developing baby. Levels that fall above and below a specific range may indicate a problem with the pregnancy. The most common reason for very high levels of the protein is simply that the pregnancy is beyond the eighteenth week. But not to be overlooked is the possibility that the mother is carrying twins or that her baby has particular medical problems. Sheri recalls her reaction when she got news that her AFP level was high: "It was late on a Friday. The receptionist at my doctor's office tried to reassure me by saying that I was probably just farther along than we had thought. Or maybe I was having twins. She wanted to schedule an ultrasound to be sure the baby was okay, but it couldn't be done until Monday. That was the longest weekend of my life!"

Confirmation

The most common method of confirming suspicions of a twin pregnancy is an ultrasound exam. Not too many years ago, obstetrical ultrasound procedures were used only in the most advanced medical practices to manage the most difficult pregnancies. Now they are routinely offered with many obstetrical services.

Ultrasound allows for early, noninvasive, accurate monitoring of the baby during pregnancy; to date no risk to the baby or mother has been detected. Although an accurate diagnostic tool, it is not foolproof: There are occasions of a baby's misdiagnosed sex, or the later discovery of a twin that wasn't seen on the first ultrasound.

Debbie describes her experience: "I was nine weeks pregnant when I had my first ultrasound. I was instructed to drink a quart of water one hour before the ultrasound and I was told not to urinate, so that I would have a full bladder for the test. I took my husband, Dale, and my seven-year-old son, Chris, with me when I went to have the ultrasound because I wanted them to be there to 'meet' our babies for the very first time. I remember how uncomfortable it was to lie on my back with a full bladder while the technician got me ready for the scan. She squirted a few teaspoons of gooey conducting jelly on my abdomen. The technician skidded a rodlike device, called a transducer, across my abdomen and pictures of my uterus were flashed onto the monitor. Everything looked gray-black and blotchy to me, but soon she pointed out a small shrimplike form surrounded by a dark gray circle. That was one of our babies in its amniotic sac! She showed us the heartbeat, which at this stage just looked like small pulsations coming from the center of the baby. Moments later, she pointed out another baby. That heartbeat looked good, too. After continued searching, she found a third sac. Triplets? Looking from various angles, she could find no baby; the sac was empty, an 'almost' baby that never developed. She could find no evidence of the fourth egg that had been implanted. I was relieved and sad at the same time, but soon refocused on the fact that I was having twins! We all left t...


Product Details

  • Paperback: 416 pages
  • Publisher: Touchstone; 1 edition (August 4, 1993)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 067172357X
  • ISBN-13: 978-0671723576
  • Product Dimensions: 8.4 x 5.6 x 1 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 12.8 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
  • Average Customer Review: 3.5 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (14 customer reviews)
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31 of 33 people found the following review helpful:
1.0 out of 5 stars This is a very negative portrayal of caring for twins., August 20, 1999
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This review is from: Mothering Twins: From Hearing the News to Beyond the Terrible Twos (Paperback)
I was so depressed by this book that I stopped reading it halfway through for about a week. I also told my husband that after the babies arrive we will never have any fun again ever. Since I know several families with twins, I know that this is not the case. But it sure feels like it while reading this book.

While I feel that it is useful to have eyewitness accounts of the reality of caring for twins, I felt this book was pretty much a summary of the worst of everything most of us know already, that it is a lot of work, a lot of sleeplessness, a lot of demands, etc.

I also felt that there was not a whole lot of useful information about the specifics of caring for twin babies. The most useful info seemed to me to apply to handling the relationships between the twins when they are older, as well as relationships with older siblings.

None of the contributors returned to work full time while their children were very young. The sections on finding childcare were therefore of limited value.

Finally, since 2 of the contributors were mothers of identical twins, some discussion of special issues related to identical twins would have been useful.

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9 of 9 people found the following review helpful:
5.0 out of 5 stars It was MY security blanket, December 28, 2000
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This review is from: Mothering Twins: From Hearing the News to Beyond the Terrible Twos (Paperback)
For what this book proports to do: tell anecdotes of what it is like to be pregnant with twins, bring them into the world, and mother them for the first couple of years...it succeeds.

I stumbled upon this book mid-pregnancy with my fraternal twin boys, our only kids, in the summer of 1993 when it was first published. Because no one else I knew had twins, I depended upon these women's stories to guide me along. I found it very reassuring and reaffirming. I wish I had one now that my boys are about to turn seven and I have questions about schools and socialization. Let's face it..it isn't a clinical resource, it's a support group in book form for the sometimes isolating and ever-challenging adventure of mothering twins.

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5 of 5 people found the following review helpful:
4.0 out of 5 stars Worth getting for the "confessions", January 5, 1999
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This review is from: Mothering Twins: From Hearing the News to Beyond the Terrible Twos (Paperback)
If you want to find out what women really think about having twins, this is the book to get. You can only read so much about how many little shirts to get before you scream and want to read about someone who's really been through it.

Yes, twins are exciting and fun, and the experience of a lifetime (I can say this now that mine are five). Yet to ignore the hardship and risks involved would be criminal. I wish someone had scared me MORE into getting help through the first few critical weeks. It can be very difficult, and I understand the women who want to read positive, uplifting things about a multiple-birth pregnancy--but there's a time to face facts and arm yourself with the truth.

My main critism of the book is that I thought it needed more emphasis on the fathers. Maybe sections throughout the book rather than one chapter--I kind of felt like they got off the hook.

Also great was the emphasis on being in a support group-- mothers of multiples clubs are indispensable.

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