23 of 25 people found the following review helpful:
2.0 out of 5 stars
Hysterical, December 7, 2004
The book is written in such a hysterical style that I couldn't wait to put it down. It has a certain tone you may encounter when watching commercials - fast paced yelling (like a banshee), in desperate attempt to hold your attention, yet a style that made reading a book a torment - as did her adjectives related to men. (OK, it must be me - I don't appreciate disparaging comments or putting people down, especially not those I'd consider worthwhile sharing my time with). Makes me wonder, how good about herself a person genuinely feels if she (or he) has to refer to others with derrogatory adjectives.
A good deal of this book is dedicated to promoting the author's online dating website. At times it seems that it was the author's main intent behind writing this book. Nothing wrong with promoting her website or suggesting online dating as yet another avenue of possibly finding the man of your choice, but as you begin reading her book and every few pages you encounter "join my online dating service" - you begin to feel as if you're reading commercial after commercial after commercial. One commercial break every few pages - just as if you were watching a TV (and one of the reasons, I don't watch TV).
The premise behind getting a man in 6 weeks is that it only takes 30 seconds for a man to decide whether he would be interested in a woman or not - therefore, ultimately it only takes you 30 seconds to give the man the impression that you are the one and he's yours - at least for another 30 seconds, few hours or one-night stand. As to whether he would be your dream man and whether you'd be together more than than sharing a spicy weekend or two is debatable.
It takes much more than 30 seconds for people to discover what they have in common, how valuable they are to each other, how compatible they are and whether they share their lives to any greater extent.
From that perspective, the book is truly shallow. What you will find in this book is how to get a man's attention and possibly create that initial "click" - how to act so that a man finds you desirable and perhaps becomes intrigued to get to know better - at least until he gets what he's after.
The author does list numerous places where you may go hunting for possible candidates. Yes, it is a common sense that if you desire to find a man, you go to places which are frequented mostly by men - such as sports events, in which case I hope you truly enjoy the particular sport and are not attending the event because you are truly desperate or afraid of being alone.
One of her "wise" suggestions is dressing sexy and walking into a man's washroom. Good luck to you!
There are many other places and if you are a woman who has a rich life with many interests, your best bet would be meeting someone who shares some of those interests you are passionate about. If you have a fulfilling life, then you won't be needy, so you won't have to play the games and pretend that you're not lonely and desperate for having a man. If you are desperate, no matter what you do on the outside, and how well you think you can fake it, sooner or later, that desperation will show.
If you are happy with your life, with or without a man, then you'll be able to focus on sharing the time together because both of you enjoy it and have something valuable to share with each other, so you'll want to be together again and again, after that initial click is long gone.
As the previous reviewer noted - there are many other books with much better suggestions and of much higher quality.
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11 of 12 people found the following review helpful:
2.0 out of 5 stars
Fun but not productive, January 8, 2004
By A Customer
E. Jean is a fun and sometimes funny writer. But I was looking for serious advice: I want to find the right mate, not curl up with a book about it. I read a review in the New Yorker last month of a similar book called "Find a husband after 35", so I bought that too, which had a lot of practical tips and really changed the way I approached the search for a mate. Most of these dating books have some similar advice, but I think this other book I mentioned will get results faster.
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8 of 9 people found the following review helpful:
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True, True but Unrelated, September 7, 2004
I am not sure which one is the greatest waste of money: buying her book or joining her website. Let's scratch "joining the website" because if you "recommend" you can be in for free. Everything in the book is probably true (ie how to catch the man) but keeping him it's just a totally different story, This book is great if you want to land many dates, but don't count on it to get married. The mere fact that you "click" with a man does not make him good marriage material. And for Goodness sake, do you really want to date a guy you met while opening a store door, just because you clicked? What about his background, character, income, and moral values? After wasting four months with their "strategies" and website, I took their best advice (where to find men) and went on my own with other book's advices and most of all with an open heart, and landed the man of my life in 4 weeks and married him within 3 months. Good luck to y'all single ladies.
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