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The Mystery Method: How to Get Beautiful Women Into Bed

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In this crowded genre, Mystery's book is the best out there for attracting and influencing women the first time you meet them. It's full of its own jargon, charts, basically everything you need to know on picking up any woman the first time you meet them. Very analytical for the reasons why things work, or fall flat. Some of the techniques are common sense to corny, questionable, and manipulative. Regardless, simply pick and choose what would work best for you. A must own book for smoothing your style with the ladies.

To fully appreciate how it works, buy The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists

For the upper hand with women in relationships, both mentally and financially , you should also get The Professional Bachelor Dating Guide - How to Exploit Her Inner Psycho. Besides dating, it lays out how to creating asset protection if you're planning marriage.

I'll start off saying that this book is worth reading because it will teach you about people, both men and women. Any book that is ranked #27 at amazon that is about THIS topic is obviously special. There are many books that promise guys sex with beautiful women, but few make it in the top 10000, let alone the top 100. What makes this one different?

I think because it explains how mating in human beings works in a progression and from an evolutionary psychology standpoint, while at the same time applying it to the bar/club/party scene.

The idea is this: High quality women look for high quality men. They won't have sex with you until they see you as high quality. This means you either have to actually BE high quality, or you have to give the illusion of being high quality. This book teaches you to mostly do the 2nd, not the 1st.

Peacocking, memorizing canned material, learning palm reading and magic tricks, pretending to have lots of friends and women, telling fictional stories as the truth, these things don't make you higher quality. They only create the illusion. This makes sense, after all, the author is a professional illusionist.

If you want a higher-quality woman LONG TERM, make yourself higher quality. This book mostly teaches you how to fake it long enough to get them into bed.

This method, if followed diligently and practiced A LOT, may get you in bed with some 10s. But it won't last because eventually the real you and the real her will surface and there will be no more game, just an awkward incompatibility.

I would much rather be with a 7 who is a good person, intelligent, and loyal, than a 10 who is spoiled, thinks the world owes her a living because of her beauty, and will soon cheat on you (and how could she not, she has male-10s offering her sex 24/7 - are you THAT great she would turn them all down?).

If you want sex in a relationship that will make you happy, it will probably be with someone who is about as good quality as you are. That is the only way you will both appreciate each other long term and stay loyal to each other.

This short book is about being persuasive and asserting influence. If you peel away the title,though, it could be about marketing and closing any sale: don't be needy; be mentally able to walk away from any deal; understand the value of having a high social proof; invest others in you; develop a process, not a one liner. It has some good stuff about how our brains are wired and why. And, having read Strauss's book, I believe that Mystery and his method works for a PUA but it sounds like a lot of work, which maybe why he claims that there is only 4 to 10 hours between meeting and congress. The book is well written and makes good use of charts, although the bullet points are overdone---like apricot jam spread on toast, a little can go a long way. A book that anyone who persuades for a living should ,well, pick up.

You should read "The Game" by Neil Strauss first - Neil's book is a very entertaining read. This book is a textbook, pure and simple. The information is outstanding, but it's not meant to be entertaining, just informative. The book is not hard to understand at all, if you've read "The Game" first.

For those who say "Act naturally and practice, you don't need advice books", everyone can benefit from coaching. Even Michael Jordan acknowledged how coaches helped his basketball game.

In response to the reviewer that compained about PUA's manipulating females, women have men beat in the manipulation game by a country mile. Women manipulate to obtain money and resources for men, and there are entire industries devoted to it (women's magazines, clothing, makeup, plastic surgery, etc.). The PUA community is only an attempt to level the playing field.

The great flaw in the mystery method is that it assumes that the girl you are hitting on in a club or a bar is actually paying attention to you and is following closely what you are doing or saying. Usually, they're not. Women go to these places for the social atmosphere and are having numerous conversations with multiple people all night. I'll bet numerous guys have tried the mystery method only to be repeatedly frustrated as the targets of their "sets" keep moving on to talk to someone else. If a girl in a club is actually paying close enough attention to you to notice the things Mystery tells you to do, then she already likes you and there is no point in trying mystery's games on her.

Now if you try this stuff outside of the bar scene, say, at work or at a social gathering, people will think you are a tool. When you meet people in casual social situations, they expect you to be putting your best foot forward, so if you start using negs, bait and hook, or "freeze-outs" you are going to sound immature. Neg that hot female co-worker of yours and then use a false time constraint, and she will be glad your rude butt is leaving. Freeze out someone and they will simply find someone else more genial to talk to. Mystery seems to think that being slightly rude or condescending will make strangers fight for your approval, but in reality, they will just avoid talking to you.

Overcoming last minute resistance is covered in the last chapter, and it's a felony. The good news is that if you have followed the advice in the previous eight chapters of this book, then you will be dateless anyway and you will not have to worry about this.

The underlying assumption in this book is that it is possible to replace your current personality (which drives people away) with a new personality that attracts people. This is possible to a certain degree, but books like this are not the way to do it. What you really need to do is confront your own issues and find out what it is that causes you to act in such a negative way to begin with, and then address those issues on your own. There is no need for having game if you learn to be a positive, not all about yourself, emotionally healthy person who is attractive in his own right.

The personality mystery wants to give you is not a healthy one - it is the personality of a self centered and clueless man who thinks that all the women he meets will be helpless against his stealthy manipulation skills. But true manipulators can only work their craft after they are in a relationship. Beforehand, this sort of stuff will be picked up on in a heartbeat by anyone you are trying to get to know. Everybody looks for "red flags" in their potential dates, and this book is a handbook on how to give off the red flags saying that you've got serious issues and should be passed on.

Mystery sells his techniques by padding them heavily with all kinds of jargon and off base analysis to make them appear scientific and well researched, but what mystery is actually teaching is some very basic a-hole behavior that your potential dates will pick up on and be unimpressed with. The only game mystery is playing is on the men who buy his book.

I was turned toward this book by a buddy that read, "The Game," by Neil Strauss, and told me it "changed his life." A little looking and I found my way to "The Mystery Method," written by Strauss's teacher, a man named Mystery. I was interested in improving my social skills. Who isn't, right? Well, let's cut to the chase.

If you are looking for a book that gives you some perspective on social interactions between men and women, this might not be a bad buy. It's a lot of philosophy mixed with psychology on the topic of how the sexes interact. For this purpose, it can open your eyes a bit, if you've been stumbling around blind. If you weren't in the total dark, however, this book is maybe not for you. Mystery is a man in the center of the "Pick-up Artist" world, and these guys make most of their money off of self-help SEMINARS, and not books. The book is basically the "hook" in getting you to start looking at shelling out a lot more cash to attend one of these seminars, which they call "boot camps." It gives you some good psych lessons on the importance of peaking interest in a manner which doesn't come off as to direct and needy, but it shys away from giving actual advice, instead leaving you only with a vague idea. One of the most important concepts revolves around "Developing Higher Value" (DHV), yet fails to really ever mention what those "values" are, instead leaving the reader to guess at what they might already believe. In my eyes, values are concrete. Why not talk a bit about what those values are, if you are trying to appeal to them?

For a book which is about (I'm guessing) helping the clueless in social interactions, it gives you a peak into a new world, but falls short of ever letting you into that world. You CAN gain entrance, for the low price of one of the "boot camps," assuming you've the time, desire, need, and (oh yeah) $1k+ to do so. It's not a bad read, but don't expect much, and certainly don't expect anything specific. It furthered my thoughts about how and why people act the way they do with one another, but I think it falls short of its intended mark.

Certainly, the neatness & careful order of the pick up is fully explained in the so expected Mystery's book (there are many interesting observations and social dynamics views). However, having experienced it a few years ago by myself, and after coming up with my own way of seducinig women, which is more direct, simpler and more natural, I see this now as a very complex dating manual.

What I mean is that the 'venusian artist' (as Mystery calls) who really wants to improve his skills with the opposite sex will need lots of time, motivation, encouragement and willpower to keep going out 4 times a week to nightclubs as Mystery suggest, and keep approaching and entertaining groups and groups of people until he 'becomes good' (which still doesn't mean he will get laid). And let's be honest, most guys out there don't want to become a pick up entertaining machine. They just want to get their booty call once in a while.

People have been mating for millions of years without these kind of things and many great ladie's men have been enjoying their success without doing these kind of advices, actually by being more direct and persistent. The truth is that there's really no method, only what works for specific guys in specific places and time, with specific types of girls (actually it is called Mystery's for a reason). Obviously any shy and unskilled guy will become good at meeting women by going out a lot and becoming more social, it is no secret! Flirting is no rocket science, but if you still want to enjoy the 'game' as they call it, and want to explore the method for yourself, read the book and try it for yourself.

Just please don't become one of these guys who have spent thousand dollars on workshops, seminars, books and tapes and still don't get laid because they think they still need the 'ultimate secret formula'. There's none. The problem I see in mystery method is that the author has tried to make all this mating thing as a science and people get lost in the process instead of enjoying a normal interaction with the opposite sex ("Give me more routines. I need a new 'opener'. I still need to 'practice' my negs" etc. etc).

Whatever 'method' you use, it will work if you just grab your balls and talk to the women you are really attracted to. Just don't expect miracles of the 'I-Can-Get-Any-Girl' type. Some will want to have sex with you, some others not, no matter what you do. Just find out which ones are the willing ones to share orgasms with you. That's reality. Enjoy.

Hello fellas! Like many of you, I read The Game by Neil Strauss and almost immediately, I was sucked in to the world of PUAs. More than anything it opened my eyes. I became aware of The Matrix. Many months have passed since then, and I just recently picked up a copy of the Mystery Method to try to kick start my stagnant game to the next level. I was blown away by the first three chapters...a powerful introduction, timeless human tendencies that really help you understand social dynamics, and an informative and well written overview of the Mystery Method. I loved where this was going, so much good information already.

I should have stopped there. But I'm glad I didn't, because I learned a much more (unintended) important lesson from this book.

After the first section, the book really takes a sharp turn in a different direction. An extremely scientific, not romantic, direction. Mystery breaks down every aspect of social interaction to the T. And when I say to the T, I mean deeper than some stuff you'd learn in a college sociology/psychology class. You learn how to bend and influence social situations to your benefit...these tactics dive deep into the subconscious building blocks of socialization within all of us, including me and you (maybe there's a good reason why these brain processes are left alone in the subconscious by 99% of the population?...more on this very soon). You're bombarded with technical information on all fronts, and sometimes feel like an 80 year old trying to learn how to use Microsoft Word by studying advanced computer programming.

You're basically learning the social code (like a computer code) of how to become a social programmer. You're also being programmed yourself to, in a sense, become a social robot who strictly follows the social scientific method. Mystery has said it himself... social interactions will become nothing more than "math equations". You'll start seeing the patterns, the equations, friends will become "pivots", nice girls you meet will become "obstacles". The nightclub will become your computer game, and you will become the programmer.

Is this really courtship?

More importantly to some AFCs, will it work? I'm sure it will with devoted practice. But at what cost? This stuff with inevitability trickle down into your relationships with your family and friends. The FUN spontaneity of going out won't be FUN anymore once you truly get this method down, human interaction will simply become patterns, equations, science. Interaction will be the equivalent of solving a calculus problem, with your theories, routines, ability to see past the variables. If you master this material, I think you'll be left very empty inside. You'll cross a dangerous point of no return as a person, incapable of genuine social functioning.

This isn't learning how to TRULY be a romantic and increase your sex appeal.
This isn't courtship, the very thing you got into The Game to TRULY learn.
This isn't making you a better person. Its ONLY positive may be allowing you to obtain more self-confidence, albeit through a misguided way.

Think back to Day 1.....is this really what you got into The Game for?

No. You didn't have it marked down on your to-do list to become a mad professor of psychology and sociology, like a misguided psychiatrist who uses his knowledge of the human mind to sexually attract his patients. Wake up guys: This is one way to get the girl, but deep down this isn't the way you ever wanted to do it and after a while this stuff won't make you happy. You aren't working on deep, internal self-improvement. You're just plugging in the numbers to solve the equation, and correcting one flaw in your life by replacing it with an even deeper, more dangerous flaw.

MY ADVICE: There are good "big picture" points made in this book, and by PUAs in general. Read the first 3 chapters, then maybe the bullet point chapter summaries from there. More than anything else, you just need to be a truly confident man who believes he is worth the girl. You can learn and apply the basics from the PUAs, but from there the ball truly needs to be put back in your court in your own way.

I don't need any more advice from the PUAs, even though they could utterly destroy me in a pick-up contest. We didn't get into The Game to become a mad scientist using the nightclub as our laboratory. Mystery isn't happy, evidenced by his depression and near suicide attempts in Strauss's novel. He went from one end of the spectrum of social ineptness (AFC style), to the complete opposite end (oversocialized...every word, sentence, body movement by anyone or by yourself is just a predictable, programmed response). Sure, he can get girls now. Is that worth everything else that he doesn't even realize he's lost?

In certain areas of life, too much information can be more harmful towards your well-being than not enough information. Don't let this become you! Get the basics down, then strive to become a genuinely better person by just getting out there and trying things out.

Believe it or not, as a woman, I thought this book was excellent, both as a general read and as a touchstone. I've been able to see through most men's pick up attempts throughout my life (and yes, I've accepted propositions even though I knew what was going on). However, even though I'm now in my early 50s, I still occasionally wonder why men behave the way they do; what is really behind the smile? Much of what Mystery talks about is in keeping with my general observations. It's the specifics that made me nod and think, "Oh, THAT'S what the guy meant last night in the lounge!" Overall, I'd like WOMEN to read this book, not as a way of defense against the PUA, but rather to understand how PUAs look at us.

I've never seen his show, but as a single male/amateure psych student, I was very impressed with this book.

The blurb "how to get beautiful women in bed" is somewhat misleading - while many of Mystery's techniques could be misused, he asserts that it's not about "scoring one-night stands" or "becoming a cookie-cutter pickup artist." His emphasis is on learning to initiate a RELATIONSHIP with the woman of your choice, and while this may always be a competitive game among us males, he largely avoids resorting to duplicity.

Mystery spells out in clear terms what women gauge a man's "value" by, including health, financial independence, confidence, persona, and social skill; and offers his own advice on how to SUBSTANTIALLY improve yourself in these areas. He does NOT offer a "quick fix."

He goes on to explain the dynamics of social interaction; how to read a woman's otherwise mysterious cues; what the specific phases of courtship are, and how to handle each of them WITHOUT CUTTING CORNERS; and how to circumvent the learned defensiveness of women who have become innured to an excess of attention. If some take offense at his ideas, bear in mind that Mystery emphasizes practicality over sentimentality.

The fact is that men - including otherwise decent guys who suffer from social anxiety - are not born into the world knowing these things.

I think that overrall, this book will do more good than harm.