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Navigating the Land of If: Understanding Infertility and Exploring Your Options [Paperback]

Melissa Ford
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Book Description

May 5, 2009
Author of the extremely successful blog Stirrup Queens and Sperm Palace Jesters, Melissa Ford presents readers with a guide for navigating the complex world of infertility. The Land of If got its name not only because “IF” is the abbreviation for “infertility” in the online world, but also because there are so many “ifs” inherent in being here. No stranger to the Land of If herself, Ford shares her hard-earned knowledge and insights, helping couples struggling with infertility understand the lingo, learn the details doctors tend to leave out, and keep their emotional sanity despite seemingly insurmountable obstacles. Navigating the Land of If gives the nitty-gritty on injections, rejections, biting your tongue during happy parent-to-be conversations, and trying not to cry over baby shower invitations. With chapters that include how-to’s for same-sex couples, and present adoption or remaining child-free as plausible alternatives, Ford tells you exactly what you need to know, from one infertile to another.

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Editorial Reviews

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"[Navigating the Land of If] aims to help couples understand fertility lingo and stay sane while going through the process. Ford writes a blog, Stirrup Queens. She lives with her husband and twins, a boy and girl, born after fertility treatments."
Newsday

"Solutions [covered in Navigating the Land of If] range from having fertility treatment, using donor gametes, surrogacy, adoption and living child-free. The "IF" in the title of the book not only is connected to the online definition for infertility, but also refers to the notion that there are so many ifs involved in the problem, [Ford] writes in her book. “There are what ifs and if onlys and if this, then thats. …Being here is all about living in uncertainty and doubt and wonder and hope… "
Jewish Weekly

Product Details

  • Paperback: 336 pages
  • Publisher: Seal Press; Original edition (May 5, 2009)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 1580052622
  • ISBN-13: 978-1580052627
  • Product Dimensions: 5.5 x 1 x 8.3 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 12 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
  • Average Customer Review: 4.9 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (30 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #909,280 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

More About the Author

Melissa Ford is the author of the blog, Stirrup Queens (http://stirrup-queens.com). She is also a contributing editor at BlogHer. She received her MFA in creative writing from the University of Massachusetts--Amherst. You can find her on Facebook (http://www.facebook.com/MelissaFordAuthor). She lives with her twins and writer husband, Josh.

Melissa's books are Navigating the Land of If (Seal Press, 2009), Life from Scratch (Bell Bridge, December 2010), Measure of Love (Bell Bridge, April 2013), and Apart at the Seams (Bell Bridge, coming 2014). She is also the author of Nidah, a short story on Amazon. She curses her common name and apologizes for any confusion with the other Melissa Fords on Amazon.

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16 of 17 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars I wish I had this book 10 years ago July 3, 2009
Format:Paperback
I probably brought a slightly different perspective to reading this book than many readers. My infertility journey ended several years ago when my husband & I made the painful decision to abandon infertility treatments & live childless/free. It's been a long time since I cracked open a guide to infertility, and in fact, I have given away most of the ones I had in my collection.

However -- the shadow of infertility & loss continue to hover over my life, which is why, even after all these years, I continue to read books, articles & blogs about it -- including Mel's blog, Stirrup Queens, which I love. She is a great support for those of us in the ALI (adoption, loss & infertility) community, and so I was keen to read her book.

Even though I found some sections more interesting/applicable than others (as I'm sure most readers did, or will), I loved the book, and I wish it had been around when I was going through treatment. Most infertility guides that I've read tend to be a tad clinical. Not this book. The tone is that of a slightly older/wiser girlfriend who'd already been there/done that and is filling you in on what to expect when you're NOT expecting and trying to do something about it.

It's a book I would definitely recommend to anyone going through infertility. It would also be fabulous to read if you're a fertile person hoping to gain some insight into what a friend or family member is going through and how you can best support them.

Because my husband & I wound up living without children, I was particularly interested in what Melissa would have to say on the subject, and went straight for the chapter on childfree living first. Very few books on infertility say much about the childless/free option beyond a few paragraphs -- so I'm always interested to see how the subject is covered in any new IF book that I come across.

I'm happy to say she more than did the subject justice. The whole concept of "choosing" to live childless/free is one that many women in my shoes struggle with, but Melissa makes the valid point that, rather than accepting the childfree option as a "default," you have to take an active role in carving out your future.

Melissa covered many aspects of living childfree. She makes a point of distinguishing between living childfree by choice and childfree after infertility, and also between taking a break and actually choosing to live childfree. She suggests a trial period (something an infertility counsellor recommended to my husband & me). She talks about how the childfree are frequently made to justify their choice (so true), and what happens when one partner wants to live childfree and the other doesn't.

I also learned a lot about other aspects of the infertility journey. And oh, to have had Melissa's list of comebacks to unthinking friends & relatives 10 years ago...!
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8 of 8 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Informative and heartfelt May 3, 2009
Format:Paperback
Where to begin? Medically, this book is painstakingly accurate. Emotionally, Ms. Ford took such care in covering the many emotional pitfalls of dealing with infertility. Reading this book sometimes felt like sitting with a close friend whose shoulder you could cry on, and she would ALWAYS say the right thing. If you're dealing with infertility, one thing I can promise you is that this book will make you feel less alone.

A big thank you to the ultimate Stirrup Queen!
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11 of 12 people found the following review helpful
3.0 out of 5 stars Good, not great for unexplained repeat miscarriage January 4, 2010
Format:Paperback|Amazon Verified Purchase
I'm a long-time blog reader of a number of infertility blogs. I happily bought this book for my sister, who was undergoing treatment for repeat miscarriage (RM). Perhaps the hype from the blogosphere built it up too much.

The pluses- it is a handy overview if you're new to the world of infertility, better for those who have trouble getting pregnant than those who struggle to stay pregnant.

The minuses- Her advice about generally trying not to worry when you do get pregnant is at best insensitive for those with RM. And also inaccurate. If you've had 3 miscarriages, and you're over 30, - your chances of another miscarriage are pretty high. She also repeats some irritating misinformation commonly thrown around in the popular press. There is nothing magic about age 35 where fertility suddenly drops off and risk of downs syndrome spikes. Its a steady change over time.

While these issues may seem petty, i'd posit they are no more petty than a number of the issues she is very sensitive and thorough about.
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Most Recent Customer Reviews
5.0 out of 5 stars Thank you for writing this!
I'll keep it short, but I needed this book. I'm so appreciative that the author wrote it. She hit the nail on the head: infertility is a whole different world and it's impossible... Read more
Published 16 months ago by The Rekindled Reader
3.0 out of 5 stars Good book for someone starting the ivf Journey
This book would have been very helpful at the beginning of the infertility journey. Not for people that have already sot help with an AWESOME RE or done an IVF cycle
Published 22 months ago by kangirl
5.0 out of 5 stars Perfect!
There were times when it felt like this book was written specifically for me! Even though I know that's crazy because my situation is unique, just like all of the people that will... Read more
Published on August 26, 2010 by Donna
5.0 out of 5 stars Great IF book!
I really enjoyed this book. It was very helpful and articulated a lot of difficult feelings about 'infertility' that are hard to explain often.. Read more
Published on March 23, 2010 by A. General
5.0 out of 5 stars An excellent emotional support book
I have read enough books to have a decent grasp on what is involved in the various treatments offered for fertility. Read more
Published on February 15, 2010 by Ska Fan
5.0 out of 5 stars Witty, Informative and Well Written!
I've not experienced infertility issues myself, but I'm a reader of Melissa Ford's blog and really enjoy her honest and earthy writing style. Read more
Published on January 27, 2010 by Monica
5.0 out of 5 stars This is THE go to book for Iffers.
I just finished this book, and I LOVED it. Its real. Like, its not some fancy medical journal, written by someone who has never experienced infertility. Read more
Published on January 7, 2010 by Sarah
5.0 out of 5 stars Humorous but straight forward
Firstly I haven't read this book from front to back, only because some things don't relate to our IF journey, but I have read parts that have been relevant to me and our procedures... Read more
Published on August 10, 2009 by Vee
5.0 out of 5 stars Well Worth Reading!
This was the best book on this topic that I have ever read. I really enjoyed it and want to buy it for everyone I know. Read more
Published on July 30, 2009 by Jennifer Gabriel
5.0 out of 5 stars Excellent blow-by-blow reference guide for someone struggling with...
This is just a fantastic book. Really! It is!
If you are looking for a blow-by-blow on any and all procedures relating to Assisted Reproductive technology this book is for... Read more
Published on July 29, 2009 by M. Brock
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