I Never Held You validates the grief experienced after miscarriage and assures you that although your baby was never held, your baby was loved. Find miscarriage support in this touching, helpful book.
--Ellen M. DuBois, Author
"I found this book to be excellent for those who are struggling with their own losses and are looking for a book that will comfort them and give them a glimpse of that light in the tunnel no matter how little it may be."
Saturday, January 28th, 2011: I Never Held You (Createspace) was recommended by nationally syndicated columnist Amy Dickinson, "Ask Amy" (Chicago Tribune), to a writer needing advice on coping after miscarriage. "Ask Amy" is published in over 100 newspapers. chicagotribune.com/features/tribu/askamy/ct-ae-0128-amy-20120128,0,1032340.column
From the Author
I know what it feels like to suffer a miscarriage and have your world turned upsidedown. I know that terrible, surreal feeling as you look at your ultra sound and hear the doctor's voice say there's no heartbeat- your baby has 'expired'. And I know that feeling- the one where you're 'detached' from yourself, almost numb, as you walk out the door knowing your baby is no longer alive.
You want to cry, scream, run...be anywhere but in that moment.
When I miscarried some twenty-years ago, it was horrible. I felt like my world caved in and although my family and friends were very supportive, I felt so alone. I cried, suffered anxiety attacks, missed my baby more than anything and wondered if I'd ever pull out of the dark place was in.
My entire world seemed to have a fog over it. Nothing looked or felt right.
Years later, something told me to take my experiences after miscarrying my beloved son, Alex, and write about them in the hope of reaching out to others who were living the same. I found very little support- in bookstores, etc. Other than a pamphlet or two I'd been given from my doctor, there was nothing. The Internet was in its infancy. Where was I to go?
That's what drove me to write I Never Held You, and it continues to drive me in my outreach to all women and their families who have suffered the pains of miscarriage, or sadly, more than one. I want to do my part in making sure no woman feels as alone as I did after my miscarriage. Since 2006, when I Never Held You was first published in paperback, I've been blessed with not only being published, but also in creating and hosting the companion support site. It has been and continues to be an honor to provide a platform for women and their families to share, connect, and find the support I so needed all those years ago.
The support I know many, many women need today.
I Never Held You was born out of one of the darkest times of my life. However, adversity transformed into something positive- support after miscarriage, which you'll find within the pages of my book.
I am deeply sorry for your loss and please know you are in my thoughts and prayers.
Love and Light,