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Never, Never, Never Will She Stop Loving You

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Several months ago a dear friend gave me this book as a gift. As another birthmom I am sure that she knew the impact that this beautifully written book would have on me. I felt totally validated for a decision that I reluctantly made 32 years ago. I placed my first order for this book and sent it to my birthdaughter. Even though she was then 31 she stated that she loved the book and it had been the best gift that she had ever received. One of the last illustrations in the books shows Annie sitting in a rocking chair with a contemplative look on her face...the next and last page of the book shows the rocking chair empty. This empty chair represented the emptiness that I felt after placement, but also the hope that I had done what was best for my child. Yes, it is very true....I never,never,never stopped loving my baby. Since that time I have obtained many copies of this lovely book and have shared it with other birthmothers, adult adoptees and adoptive parents. All have been touched by this book. Jolene has touched the heart and souls of many of us touched by adoption. I recommend this book to all involved in adoption.

The title of the book beautifully reflects the love the author instills in the reader, young and old, for birthmothers. The idea to have the name of the birthmother written in the paragraphs is a wonderful way to tell her story to the child. The author not only honors birthmothers but emphasizes what a caring and unselfish decision they had made, and that they love their absent children every day of their lives. We have met our birthmother after 29 years (she found us) and know that all this applies to her. She never stopped loving her child. We too always loved our birthmother during all these years and now that we've met, we have a loving relationship.

Gisela Gasper Fitzgerald, author of ADOPTION: An Open, Semi-Open or Closed Practice?

I am a clinical counselor with 27 years experience and I recommend this book pretty consistently in my work with both birth mothers and adoptive children. The spirit and tone of both the drawings and wording seems to impact them in just the right way to bring about some new clarification and healing. I believe that the book gives a message that goodness can be found in almost all situations/people if that is what we are tuned to look for. The basic principle of reframing (looking for the noble intention in a behavior)is espoused in the message of the book, and that is something that is often very helpful and healing. I know that some local adoption agencies and adoption specialists are using the book and are very pleased with the impact on their clients. A gem of a book. . . lots of heart in this one.

Jolene's book touches on the truth of adoption--from every angle. Almost all of us know someone who has been adopted or has given up a child for adoption. This is the only book I know of that deals with the beauty and strength of a young mother's supreme sacrifice. As the wife of an adopted child, I have felt gratitude every day for the young mother who had the ultimate courage to give her son to the family in which he truly belongs. Without her nobility, I would not have the wonderful husband, nor would my children have the outstanding father, they now have. Jolene's book makes it clear that a birth mother loves her child so much--so supremely much--she will do whatever she can to give her baby the best possible chance, both before and after birth. Whoever you are, read this book. Someone you know needs to know about it.

Dear readers,
I highly recommend this book if you placed your baby for adoption. It is one of the most diffacult things to endure, but this book shows and tells how amazing we birthmothers are. I am a birthmother of a little boy named Alexander. I was having a diffacult time in the beginning, then my mother gave me this book. In the book, your name (birthmother's) is placed in the paragraphs, so it's telling the story to your child about you. I love this book because it's written with all regards to the birthmother. It helps with reminding what a caring and unselfish decision we have made. It's a perfect gift to give to a birthmother. She will love and appreciate it! It is something that I will treasure forever.

This new edition is awesome! The author has added more ideas and information and insights at even a lower price!!! The book is a MUST for anyone involved in the adoption circle. As a foster parent, I've seen the pain and the healing that can occur, and this book can definitely be a tool for healing all involved. In this new edition, there's more about the author, ideas of helpful things to say to a birth mom, and suggestions to help adoptive parents in many situations. Adopted children would enjoy this book to help answer important questions. Adoptive parents can receive the help they need to teach their child about the love their birth mom has for them. It will enrich the lives of ALL who read it. Thank you, Jolene, for your gift to the world!

I work for a crisis pregnancy center and am also a birth mother myself. I feel that your book truly portrays what a birth mother's reasoning is for placing, but in a wonderful simple way for kids to understand. It also shows what a wonderful alternative adoption is to abortion! I almost aborted my son and am so thankful that I chose the opposite for him and your book helps show the happiness adoption can bring. I have an open adoption so I plan to send my son a copy. Even though he is only one I hope that the book will help him understand that it was hard and I still love him and will never stop!

The overall concept of this book is excellent, however, there's one or two pages that are too specific and make it not necessarily the perfect book for everyone. I purchased based on several rave reviews.

The overall concept is that the bio mom does love her child and always will. For the bio moms of our 2 children, this is absolutely appropriate and applicable - the reason my children are mine thru adoption is BECAUSE their bio moms loved them, despite their inability to properly care for them. However, there's a page that states how the bio mom ate right and avoided medicine as soon as she knew she was pregnant. My children were adopted via children & youth - their mom's did not eat right and avoid "medicine" if you know what I mean. I kept the book because the overall concept - that my children are loved not only by me, but by their bio mom too, is the message to take home.

Our son was adopted, and we bought a copy for him and for his birthmom. We knew her and found many of the same traits in her that are in Annie (the birthmom in the book). It does portray a very idealistic situation, but the point of the book is that adoption is a very loving decision.

In this day and age, when abortion and single teen parenting are more socially acceptable than adoption, I am very happy to see books that promote this choice, which blesses the lives of everyone involved.

This book portrays the birthmother as a self-sacrificing, totally devoted, unselfish person. Everything was done only for the good of the baby. Those children who were born addicted, with poor prenatal care may feel rejected yet again as in the story the birthmother is a complete angel. The problem with painting birthmothers as saints is that it does not allow for the reality that her choices were made for both of them, her and her child, and they did not always agree. The end of the story, that the child is thought of for the rest of the birthmothers life, is very reassuring to the child. This is the story of an individual, and Annie sounds like she was a wonderful person. Many birthmothers make sacrifices to give thier children life, but like most people, the choices are not perfect. The cover illustration is exquisit, the internal illustrations are very child-like (say 5-7yr old style) and have a sweet warmth to them. There is a note to both birth parents and adoptive parents about Annie herself, about how it feels for a birthmother to be asked if she still thinks of her child (a question that is painful to the birthmother for the implication is that she does so rarely). I feel the book did not live up to the reassuring title.