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The New Male Sexuality, Revised Edition

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Just when I thought MALE SEXUALITY could not get better, it did! This revised edition is a must have for both men and women who want to both learn more about their sexuality and enhance it. Bernie writes clearly, factually, compassionately, and without judgement. His book informs, gives permission, and is helpful in understanding what happens when things are not the way you'd like, sexually. He provides excersises that support insight, and information that allows growth. This book is a standard, and should be in anyone's library who is at all curious about their own sexuality and their sexual relationship. I recommend this book for both men and women. It promotes conversation and learning between partners, and provides accurate information.

Finally, a book that speaks with reasonableness and straightforwardness to men and women! This book offers suggestions and tools, in an insightful and respectful manner, for women and men to enhance not just their sexual lives but also their relationships with one another. I had lost faith in men's ability to think beyond the mechanics. Thank you for pursuing quality and not just quantity!

This is a great book as long as the author stays in his field and deals with what he knows. It gets shaky when he strays into sociology and history where his knowledge is too superficial and obviously influenced by the spirit of the age. He depicts men as being sad, hollow creatures unable to connect with others in meaningful relationships and striving anxiously to perform up to others' expectations. He then spends most of the rest of the book telling us how to perform so we can live up to women's expectations and thereby enter in meaningful face-to-face as opposed to empty side-by-side relationships. It never seems to occur to him that men (and perhaps many women) may not want the degree of control and lack of privacy inherent in face-to-face relationships. Perhaps men are satisfied with a much lower level of intimacy. Like most psychiatric professionals, the author appears to think that the generally unhappy people he meets in his practice are representative. He seems to have unconsciously adopted the patriarchal and now feminist attitude that everything that goes wrong for men is their own fault. All the problems in male/female relationships are male in origin. Men have to change (perform?). While finding this all-too-familiar litany distressing, I found a great deal of useful information in this book about what the author clearly does know about: male sexuality. He seems to understand how and why we are the way we are sexually. The practical suggestions on how to solve functional problems could be very helpful.

I must be honest in that I have never read a sexual self help book before - however, my boyfriend, after enduring a terrible 15 year marriage was suggested by a therapist to read it. I picked it up and couldn't put it down! Both men and women hold some misconceptions about what is right, acceptable, etc. and Bernie Busts the Myths! It also frees men from the social conditioning and/or poor parental guidance they received in their youth...but carried with them for years! I'm giving a copy to my 20 something son because I want him and his partner to enjoy their lives - every aspect of it! Even in this day and age people are still scared to talk frankly about sex...while there were a few concepts or opinions I didn't 100% agree with, overall it was very concise, accurate and quite witty...a fun read. I noticed most of the reviews were out of date so I wanted to provide a current one...buy this book if you are frustrated or confused (err...not doing well in) about relationships, especially the sexual components...Bernie will help you see clearer and enjoy your God given sexual self!

I am 20 and male, and I prefer reading about sexuality from women's books rather than this one. Zilbergeld's book was great for general practices and will probably be a great resource for sexual problems later in life, but his tone treats feminism as something males are still learning to accept. In general, there is too much about overcoming men's guilt that women should enjoy sex, too, (performance issues) and not enough about creating better sex by appreciating it for oneself and being responsive to one's partner. In general, women's books like Because It Feels Good by Debby Herbenick strike a more emotionally stable and exploratory balance which fits where I am in life.

I found this book really helpfull. You can read it and it has some excercises that are helpfull. You can almost immediately feel a SLIGHT improvement after reading the relevant chapters

I bought this book for me, but I think my teenaged daughter has gotten more out of it than I have. It's answered far more questions for her than she was comfortable asking me about.

This book is unmatched in its straightforwardness, casual tone, and careful mix of do-at-home exercises and author's ideas. It is more sociological than most other sex advice books as well, providing the necessary social context for men's sexualities. "It's Two Feet Long and Hard as Steel" is a great chapter.

This book carries a lot of info, and was quite helpful to my situation.

Very useful book for both health personel and public. Very useful exercise tips for improvement of sexual function