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New Passages

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"New Passages" gave me added enthusiasm as well as an explanation for what I, a woman at age 50, am feeling and experiencing. How wonderful that I am metamorphosing into a "second adulthood!" That the last few years of culling out what I don't want to do are leading towards a powerful purpose: living the rest of my life with ever-greater meaning and enjoyment. As with "The Silent Passage," which has given so many men and women a healthier perspective of menopause, "New Passages" has helped define a brighter and more exciting future for all of us who are growing into our 50'and beyond. Even my 86 year old mother understands better where she has been in her "2nd adulthood," enabling her to define the significance of her continuing life....to just live in integrity and serve as an example for all those around her. Sheehy quoted research which shows that our genetic heritage profoundly affects us until 60-65....but, after that, what we think and beleve is what most profoundly affects how well we live. As in golf, "the game" is controlled by the 6" between our ears....

Sheehy offers an interesting categorization of life stages in the context of American life as she has known it and lived it. She uses excerpts from the hundreds of interviews she conducted throughout the United States while preparing this book to prove her theory. Her stages have catchy labels: Tryout Twenties, Turbulent Thirties, Flourishing Forties, Flaming Fifties, Serene Sixties. Sheehy's attempt to make meaning of the mature years is most likely to become an artifact of its era, unable to cross cultures or time. Her passages depend too heavily on life as it is being lived in the 1990s in the United States of America. With the work of Erikson and Jung on developmental aging already on the book shelf and thoughtful contributions by such as Friedan, Schacter-Shalomi and Miller, and others, Sheehy's contribution is disappointing.

Conceptually excellent, but a dismally dreary read.

Ever been at a cocktail party where you meet someone who tells an interesting story, but takes half an hour to do it, because of all the needless peripheral information. Sheehy personified. She fails to hold my attention with tediously drawn-out examples which lack pith and focus. An good editor would halve the length and double the value. The content is not bad, it just takes so damn long to get to the point.

Very Ameri-centric.

I found Sheehy's second "Passages" book almost as good as the first. As an aging baby boomer, the issues of recharting my life direction at middle age has been daunting to say the least. Second Passages provided the structure for this process. I also suggest "The Second Journey" by T. Athey as another good book - more focus on the issues of the Baby Boomer generation.

Platonix

Half way reading this book, and I had to give it a thumbs up already. Sheehy's analysis and narrative is hard hitting and brilliant. Your very life passage is written out in this book. Virtually everyone will identify with at least one of her narratives/passages. A must read for anyone interested in the philosophical aspects of LIFE!

The most interesting section of this book for me was right at the beginning where she describes the "endangered generation," those born from 1966-1980. While, I don't usually like to be called endangered, I could completely relate to the description of the troubles our generation is going through- how we have it worse off financially than our parents did in their twenties, and how that explains why we are floating in this in-between stage. This is happening just at the developmental stage in our lives when we'd feel a lot better if we had more financial freedom and didn't have to ask our parents for help. The stresses of dating, not being able to afford more than a cheap apartment (or worse- having to move back in with our parents), and being educated but in a competitive job market, take their toll. At this age, our parents were already married, owned their own home, and had a stable job. So things have changed a lot, and it helps to know that! It frees you to accept society as it is today and make the most of it. She ends the section with a positive prediction that our generation, expecting the least out of life after our disappointing start at adulthood, will end up very successful and appreciating what we have more than other generations. Sheehy is very insightful.

Gail Sheehy provides a new perspective on aging...yet she repeats the same points continuously throughout the book. You get the main idea of her whole book in the prologue and learn nothing more after. If you are under 40 this will bore and depress you like nothing else.

This is an excellent book by a talented writer with the purpose of telling people that, after the age of 50 "there is a lot more time left than they think." (page 273). Many will find it enjoyable and helpful. The advice given, such as "the secret to the search for meaning is to find your passion and pursue it," may be inspirational for some readers (and I'm not knocking that) but is too vague and generic for its utility to be testable.
The following criticisms concern the work's scientific methodology and may not be relevant to its literary merits. I think it falls short of being a useful text for students of gerontology. The basic idea is similar to that of Erik Erikson and Vaillant (two authors whom any professional in the field SHOULD read, although they have their faults). They believe that, just as there are identifiable stages in childhood, such as learning to walk and talk and completing school, there are stages in adult life. Shakespeare also had the same idea with his seven ages of man (in "As You Like It" I think).
One of the problems with identifying such stages is the wide degree of variation. Children learn to walk and talk at fairly definite ages, and failure to reach these milestones on time is a red flag for the parents or pediatrician. Things are less definite in adults. One age-related change, for example, is male hair loss. This is definitely age-related, but may start at 30, or not be evident after 70. Some workers retire at 50, and some never do. Some couples have an empty nest at 40, and some never have a full one. Alzheimer's disease (which the book barely mentions) can hit at 60 or never.
Sheehy's methodology was to obtain census data and to meet with focus groups and administer questionnaires and conduct interviews with a large number of subjects recruited by word of mouth and advertising. This can be a useful way of getting preliminary data on something that has never been studied before, but it means that she did not get a valid population sample. One example of biased sampling is that her "Vietnam Generation" contained not a single Vietnam veteran. She says that the characteristic effect of the war was to make men stay in graduate school. The validation and reliability testing of the questionnaires is not described. Memory was not tested.
Some of her biological/medical data are inaccurate. (Obviously everyone SHOULD read my "The Psychiatry of Stroke" about the effects of testosterone levels etc} To some extent this reflects the 1995 publication date, which preceded Prozac and Viagra.

The collective works of Gail Sheehy are a must for anyone venturing into the counseling and/or Reading markets...

Readings?

Yes, I am referring to those interested in cultivating their skills as a "Psychic" counselor/Reader. This material is the sort of formal perspective that separates those that just Read the Cards or whatever oracles based on tradition, from those that are dedicated professionals seeking to actually understand and help their patrons.

Its a good book for any person who is going through life changes. It doesnt answer every single question a person may have on why they are going through what they are, but it has some solid insight in a lot of general ideas. Def would reccomend....