This fresh look at loving relationships challenges many long-accepted notions about love. Do you agree with these new perspectives? (The numbers correspond to the chapters.)
1. Romantic love is a cultural invention, not a natural phenomenon.
2. Our loving relationships improve as we become more autonomous.
3. Love is best when it arises from free choice rather than from preconceived patterns, expectations, and obligations.
4. When the purpose of love is the satisfaction of pre-existing needs, the relationship is likely to become possessive, using, and jealous.
5. Jealousy is a learned emotion (based on comparison, competition, and the fear of being replaced), but we can transcend it by becoming more Authentic (singular, irreplaceable).
6. If we are immune to jealousy, we can love more than one person.
7. Our imprinted sexual responses deeply affect our relationships.
8. We will love better if we move beyond our original gender-personalities.
9. Having children should be a choice rather than an assumption.
10. It is possible to have wonderful loving relationships without getting married.
11. Some relationships are improved if the lovers do not live together.
12. Relationship journals can improve communication.
13. Love will be liberated if we transcend existential loneliness and depression.