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Nice Guys Don't Get Laid

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Is Melleton right on with everything he says? No. But he is far closer to the truth than the conventional wisdom that women want a "sweet, kind, caring, sensitive" man. If you want proof, just open your eyes and look around. Look at the men the prettiest women are with. Look at the way they act. Look at their arrogance and abusiveness. Listen to their loud voices which betray no hint of interest in the feelings or opinions of other people. Then, look at the guys who can't get a date to save their life. By and large, they want nothing more than to treat a woman like a queen, but there are no takers. Of course, reality is complex, and absolute statements like "nice guys don't get laid" can never be completely accurate. But Melleton's work is a much-needed treatise nonetheless. He speaks for all the shy, insecure nice guys that women refuse to even acknowledge the existence of. And at the same time he slaps the hell out of those nice guys and says "wake up!". A man will not lead a healthy, fulfilling life by becoming a "Mr. Abuse", but neither will he be happy by living the life of a lovesick, put-upon "Mr. Nice Guy". A man needs a book like this to remind him of that.

This is the funniest, saddest, truest work of nonfiction I've ever read. At age 23, I've never been on anything remotely resembling a date; without this book, I would still be wondering why.

Boy!Boy! What a great book for NICE GUYS like me! I just wish I read it three month age, before I started dating my Miss Lovely and lost at least $5k (plus she still owe me $35k! Was I crazy!) and gained a lot of typical remarks a NICE GUY, Mr.Meleton said in his book, should get. Such as: You are such an Angel. You are so sweet. You are so understanding. Maybe some other time. You say the nicest things. You are so considerate. I love the flowers. What a nice guy. You treat me the best than all my old boyfriends. You are such a good person. We have so much in common. You are such a gentleman. (Sorry, looks like that I am copying from pp41-42. But they ARE true.) (Also, I never get laid and the last statement I got was "I am now dating a guy I first thought was a jerk.") Guys, if you ever heard any of these sentences, please buy and read this book before it's too late. After read this book and took the test in the book, I have been up-graded to Mr Average. Still a lot of work to do, but I feel much much better!

I love this book. I had a string of really bad relationships and was always complaining to one of my guy-friends about them. He was a true Mr. Nice Guy. He got really sick of me, and suggested very "nicely" (as was always his fashion) that I read this book. No, I don't recommend following this book in order to get chicks, but I do recommend that some women read it very carefully. It's a comic book. No one likes to be lectured, but this book helps you take it a little easier. It also helps me recognize a Nice Guy when I see one, and now I'm married to one.

This book was really good. Although the book is primary written to let the Nice Guy know that he is not alone, it gives both men and women a look into the phenomenon that has plagued the dating world for as long as I can remember: Women are attracted to jerks. It does this through the use of numerous funny and extreme examples. Although I disagree with some of the premises in this book, the book itself was meant to be nothing more than a humorous, enlightening satire based on a man's own experiences with the upside-down world of dating. I'm glad I bought it and I'm going to pass it on to some of my more disenchanted friends!

If someone considers this book a joke, either he doesn't have a nice guy problem or he is in denial. Although presented in a light way, nothing here is by chance, most comments, no matter how funny they are, depict a situation that happens in real life. It does have some practical advice. Really worth.

It's true that Meleton doesn't give prescriptions, but nor does he emit the stupid criticisms I've heard elsewhere: that "nice guys" are boring, too nice, or basically, not macho sexists. His picture of nice guys' situation in dating is painfully on the money, as many of us know and few seem willing to discuss. Whether to laugh, cry or become a jerk is not clear. I can make a strong case that dating is sexist, even that male initiation of and paying for dates is linked to rape (I call dating soft-core prostitution). Whether to remain the sensitive but lonely "nice guy" (who I assume is a feminist), or sell out and become the more successful "jerk" is a question I'm sure many others are also struggling with--and that no author can answer for you.

Though it's overdone, see also Warren Farrell's _The Myth of Male Power_. Or Muehlenhard and Linton's study, "Date Rape and Sexual Aggression: Incidence and Risk Factors", found in the Journal of Counseling Psychology, 1987, Vol. 2, p. 186.

All I can tell you is this, this book worked for me. In fact it's nearly worked for me 100%.
All my life I was a nice guy. I was raised in a traditional family household. I grew up believing that people were to be treated as you would like them to treat you. In a perfect world this would be great, but clearly it's not a perfect world.
I feel most of the statements and opinions the author states here are true. If statistical facts could be shown in these areas, then I think it would definitely make people have stronger reasons for feeling this way.
We live and then we die. It's a cruel world and there's no mercy. In the end it's about getting what you want, and saving your own a--. If for some reason these things don't appeal to you, then don't worry about it. I feel though that if you follow this type of method it does work. No matter who one is within reason will be more successful with this information, compared to someone without it.
I think most women generally like to be treated [badly]. It gives them some form of drama that they can attempt to solve while living through life.
What appalls me even more are women's reactions to these types of books. I never realized it until after reading this book but most magazines women read have many articles on how to manipulate "their man." I also think women write books dealing with these forms of topics in much greater volume than to our gender as well.

Mr. Meleton's book is great. The humor is on target andbiting. While not a psychology text, it does give some insight intothe mentality of women who think jerks need to be rescued. Also, froma generally nice guy point of view, it points out that while notgiving up being nice, nice guys need to get a healthy dose of selfrespect.

Nice Guys, don't give in to despair. Don't wonder"what's wrong" with you. Not a dadburn thing. When thefemales tire of being treated like dirt, and come your way, just laughat them. Really, do you want to touch one of these women knowingwhere they've been and with whom?

Ladies ... grow up. You will bebetter off with a nice guy and save yourself a great deal of pain.

I bought this book few days ago, and I was laughing while I read this book. I recommend all single people out there to read this book because this book gives a freshing look at dating. For men, they should not take this book seriously, but humorously, because this book asks us to be more abusive toward women. However, it is a must read book for women. This book gives many examples of how women flock to famous Mr. Abuse. No wonder domestic violence has been on the rise.

Many of the Mr. Abuse examples are dated, so I would like to include a more recent example, Howard Stern. I saw his autobiographical movie, "Private Parts". In this movie, while he was Mr. Nice Guy on radio, no woman gives a damn about him. When he changed his personality on the radio, women are taking their clothes off in front of him, and some even wanted to have to sex with him. Fortunately (or unfortunately, as he has put it) he would not because he is married.

To summarize, for guys, they should read this book from humor side. For gals, it is a must read because they may be dating Mr. Abuse, and they do not even know it.