No More Clueless Sex: 10 Secrets to a Sex Life That Works for Both of You [Hardcover]

Gail Wyatt (Author), Lewis Wyatt Jr. (Author), Gail Elizabeth Wyatt (Author), Lewis Wyatt (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: June 13, 2003

Early acclaim for No More Clueless Sex

"Brings together the physical, mental, social, and spiritual aspects of sexual health as perhaps only the Wyatt team could . . . a tremendous contribution."
–David Satcher, M.D.
Former Surgeon General, United States Public Health Service

"Compassionate . . . informed . . . the Wyatts tackle a whole array of sensitive and difficult issues that face young and old alike trying to develop healthy sexuality and healthy relationships."
–Helene D. Gayle, M.D., MPH
Director, HIV, TB, and Reproductive Health, Bill and Melinda Gates Foundation

"The Wyatts’ conversational style, clear explanations, and sensible directives make this an important book for therapists, physicians, and anyone who wants a healthy, satisfying sex life."
–Diane F. Halpern, Ph.D.
President of the American Psychological Association (2004)

"This book reminds us that a fulfilling sex life does not begin in the bedroom but in our hearts and our minds. It belongs on the shelf of every house, apartment, and dorm room in this country."
–Dr. Angela Neal-Barnett, author of Soothe Your Nerves

"The Wyatts have provided all of us with an invaluable service with this priceless road map to satisfying intimate sexual relationships."
–Carl C. Bell, M.D., F.A.P.A., F.A.C.Psych.
Professor of Psychiatry and Public Health, University of Illinois at Chicago

"A must-read for everyone."
–Dr. Randall Morgan, M.D.
Former President, National Medical Association

"A must-read for counselors, therapists, and anyone interested in having more positive and powerful relationships and sex lives."
–Harvette Grey, Ph.D.
Immediate Past President, Association of Black Psychologists

"A respectful and honest exploration of myths about sex and the everyday experiences of real people. Their examples indicate that clueless sex is not limited to people of a certain gender, age, sexual orientation, or race/ethnicity."
–Patricia Arredondo, Ed.D., NCC
President, National Latina/o Psychological Association

Editorial Reviews

From Publishers Weekly

There are countless books on sexuality designed to help readers get in touch with their wild sides and explore various kinks; there are also plenty that offer detailed pointers on technique. This strictly vanilla book, however, isn't one of them. Sex therapists and spouses Gail and Lewis Wyatt make it clear from the get-go that their guide is more about the emotions and the complications of sexual relationships than it is about sexual technique. "All successful major breakthroughs in sexual pleasure and relationships begin with self-awareness," they declare, and their book aims to help readers rid themselves of bad influences (such as excessive use of drugs or porn), practice active communication with their partners and control their own sexual boundaries. With chapters devoted to "sex secrets" like "you don't have to fake it if your relationship is real," the Wyatts dispense much reassuring and forthright advice that should be especially welcomed by those readers who want to reconcile their sexual needs with their religious beliefs. They suggest, for example, that readers recite this affirmation of their sexuality each morning: "My gift is everything that I am. I have the capacity for love, passion and a belief in God...My gift belongs to God and to me." Sometimes the authors' views on what constitutes "healthy" sex are a bit narrow. The Wyatts are opposed to ever mixing pain with pleasure, and seem to believe that a desire for S/M games is always a sign of emotional problems, never just a curious spirit. And they appear to regard sex as a generally "dangerous" and "risky" activity that should only be undertaken with a carefully chosen and committed partner. Readers who agree with these opinions and are looking for tips to deepen the intimacy of their sexual relationships will find helpful advice in this volume.
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Review

"Sex therapists explore 10 common sexual patterns that sabotage love and offer a customized program to achieve greater intimacy and better relationships." (Publishers Weekly, December 8, 2003)

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Product Details

• Hardcover: 288 pages
• Publisher: Wiley; 1 edition (June 13, 2003)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0471194859
• ISBN-13: 978-0471194859
• Product Dimensions: 9.4 x 6.4 x 0.8 inches
• Shipping Weight: 1 pounds
• Average Customer Review: 5.0 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (2 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #1,496,910 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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4 of 4 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars strong self help book, November 29, 2003

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This review is from: No More Clueless Sex: 10 Secrets to a Sex Life That Works for Both of You (Hardcover)

Team Wyatt consists of two expert sex therapists that provide a powerful look at the ten most common sexual patterns that incapacitate couples. Each of the top ten is treated separately in its own chapter. Readers will find insight on possible patterns that are hurting more than just their sexual encounters, but also their relationship. The book provides sound advice on the compatibility of partners, but though sex is the prime topic obviously, the material delves into each others' values, ethics, potential to care about the needs of someone else, and criticality of knowing yourself and to staying true to one's self.

Using statistics and anecdotal stories, the Wyatts furbish a solid reference book that is easy to follow, offers other references to further aid the individual, and includes two assignments to enable focusing on the ten Wyatt rules that will insure a more complete sexual life. This is a strong self help book not just for those who feel troubled, but anyone who wants to keep the spice in their relationships.

Harriet Klausner

3 of 3 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars The trouble with sex, January 15, 2004

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This review is from: No More Clueless Sex: 10 Secrets to a Sex Life That Works for Both of You (Hardcover)

Has sex disappointed you recently? Do you and your partner
repeat the same sex script over and over again, or need tools
and incentives to make sex more exciting? Do you fake orgasms?
If you answered yes to any of the questions, it is the theory
of sex therapists Wyatt and Wyatt that no matter how
experienced you are, you are clueless about sex.

Husband and wife team, Drs. Gail and Lewis Wyatt, invite you
to explore the ten most common sexual patterns that minimize
fulfilment. Based on their decades of clinical experience,
coupled with their thirty-eight-year marriage, they share
information that should help couples learn how to keep self-
destructive patterns from sabotaging their chances for
gratifying, sexual relationships.

NO MORE CLUELESS SEX is not about the mechanics of sex, it
is about the emotional side of making love; about sexual
compatibility and sexual maturity. Their customized program,
which stresses that the brain is the sexiest part of the
body, will help you achieve greater intimacy and more
importantly will show you how to overcome sexual obstacles.
Pick up a copy of NO MORE CLUELESS SEX: 'Ten Secrets to a
Sex Life that Works for Both of You' and come into the light.

Reviewed by aNN
of The RAWSISTAZ Reviewers