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No More Mr. Nice Guy [Kindle Edition]

Robert Glover
4.4 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (362 customer reviews)

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Book Description

This controversial e-book phenomenon became a best-seller and landed its author, a certified marriage and family therapist, on The O'Reilly Factor and the Rush Limbaugh radio show. Dr. Robert Glover has devoted his career as a psychotherapist to freeing men from what he was dubbed the "Nice Guy Syndrome"-trying too hard to please others while neglecting their own needs, thus causing unhappiness and resentfulness. It's no wonder that unfulfilled Nice Guys lash out in frustration at their loved ones, claims Dr. Glover. He explains how they can stop seeking approval and start getting what they want in life, by presenting the information and tools to help them ensure their needs are met, to express their emotions, to have a satisfying sex life, to embrace their masculinity and form meaningful relationships with other men, and to live up to their creative potential.


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  • File Size: 348 KB
  • Print Length: 192 pages
  • Sold by: Amazon Digital Services, Inc.
  • Language: English
  • ASIN: B004C438CW
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396 of 420 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars A great book! Highly recommended! January 9, 2007
By Wazu
Format:Hardcover|Verified Purchase
No More Mr. Nice Guy is a GREAT book However, the title is misleading, the purpose of the book is to boost confidence and help men reclaim power in their lives, it does not make men jerks. The author points out that you are the only person on this planet responsible for your needs, wants, and happiness. By boosting a man's confidence and ensuring the man's needs are met, women are naturally more attractive to these men. The greatest aphrodisiac is self-confidence.

The characteristics of "Nice Guys" are men who have difficulty setting boundaries in relationships with women and become doormats. The men often feel as helpless victims and seeing another person as the cause of problems. Many nice guys live life trying to gain approval for others.

Many nice guys did not have their needs met as boys. As a coping mechanism to try to get their needs met, they try to be nice. Later in life, Nice Guys apply the skills learned as a boy in dealing with women - by being nice - it does not work. When being nice does not work, the Nice Guys try to be even nicer.

Men need to set healthy boundaries in relationships with women. Avoiding conflicts in relationships is problematic - Women do not feel safe with a man they know they can push around. A woman wants to know you will stand up to her. That is how she will feel secure in the relationship. There is a catch - she has to test to see if she can trust you. When you set a boundary, she may strongly test and push against the boundary. She will tell you that you are wrong for having the boundary and do her best to find out if the boundary is for real. Generally, when women feel secure, they feel loved. When a man stands up to a woman, she believes he will likely stand up for her.
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190 of 205 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Life-changing September 28, 2003
By A Customer
Format:Hardcover
So far, reviewers aren't doing this book justice. I picked it up six months ago and was amazed at how well it described my plight as a "nice guy" (a.k.a. codependent). I've read stacks of self-help books, but this one stands above the rest. I mean it, it stands out, by far. And several guys I know who've read the book feel the same way.
This book fully described what I've been going through, told me how things got to be this way, and gave me concrete steps on how to change things. Since I've read it, my life has improved, I feel better, more powerful, and people are responding to me in a new way. If you're a guy walking through life feeling frustrated that you don't get the love, respect, and sex you deserve, you owe it to yourself to read this book.
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422 of 472 people found the following review helpful
Format:Hardcover
This book is, in many ways, highly flawed. I cannot, however, rate it any lower than three stars because the core behaviors Dr. Glover advocates are fundamental pillars of psychological well-being. His core premise is that all human beings have needs. Among these are somatic needs (food, shelter, treatment for injury, etc.) and emotional/psychological needs (love, validation, affection, etc.). For one reason or another, however, many men have come to habitually avoid pursuing or expressing these needs and desires in a direct way. Thus, "Nice Guy syndrome" is characterized by attempts to satisfy those needs by indirect means. Glover describes some of the more pervasive behaviors: a superficial niceness (in which one does something nice with the unconscious assumption that he will get something in return - "hidden contracts" as Glover dubs them), passive aggression, and other means of manipulation. Of course, these tactics are most often ineffective and leave the man frustrated and needy. Oftentimes, these desires are rechanneled (into things like porn or drug addiction) or repressed (only to emerge in an irrational or misdirected show of aggression or an emotional breakdown).

Glover encourages the individual to take an assertive role in getting his needs met. He does not mince words, and says outright "you are the only person responsible for meeting your own needs." And the best way to make sure this happens is to take the direct route: express outright and honestly what it is you want, make your own needs a priority, and then pursue them (or ask for help). This is, of course, sound and commonsense psychology.
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73 of 83 people found the following review helpful
4.0 out of 5 stars It's the only book like it out there February 3, 2003
Format:Hardcover
I think the main premise of this book is sound. The cover is misleading, because it sounds like a guide to male selfishness. But it's not that at all. After reading it in one sitting I realized that a big group of guys, myself included, have lost a sense of who we are as males. The author is NOT telling us to stop being nice or kind; he's saying that we should find out who we really are and live true to that. He says we try to get approval all the time so that we'll get what we want, instead of forming relationships based on who we really are. We actually hide our true selves because we think we won't be accepted. Each man probably has a different reason why he's trying to be someone other than himself, and the author lists a whole bunch of reasons that you can check yourself against. Glover says that you should look at his list with your wife and work at it together. He is correct that wives don't like the "nice" husbands they're having to deal with, because these Nice Guys are really not that nice. He gives excellent sociological reasons why some men have become afraid of and detached from masculinity. The activities he gives for the reader to work through help a guy to see himself as he really is. In the end, he says, guys will be much better husbands to their wives, and more genuinely helpful and "nice," if they do everything with pure motives and complete honesty. If you've been trying to be nice in your marriage and your wife isn't buying it, and you want more sex, read this book!!!
Some of the concepts are explained up to three times. Repetition is a good learning tool, but I got a little tired of it. The chapter on masturbation doesn't sit well with me either. It seems unlikely to help in the way he describes.
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4.0 out of 5 stars Not bad
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Published 4 hours ago by Mr. Daryl Q. Yap
5.0 out of 5 stars Hauntingly Insightful for People Like Me
I am nearing the final pages of this book, and it has thus far been the most personal book I have ever read. Read more
Published 3 days ago by Adam W
2.0 out of 5 stars but it felt like each and every story could be boiled down to ...
Here's a summation: stand up for yourself. The book was choppy to read and not very helpful. It had its inspirational moments, but it felt like each and every story could be boiled... Read more
Published 7 days ago by Jake
5.0 out of 5 stars brilliant!!!
So much insight. For a lot of guys struggling with their marriage, this might answer a lot of questions. Will be re-reading his often.
Published 8 days ago by Chad Belcher
3.0 out of 5 stars practical but flawed
This book is very insightful in many ways. Dr. Glover's exercises also seem well constructed to help nice guys become better men. Read more
Published 10 days ago by RG3
5.0 out of 5 stars Excellent for the Codependant in all of us.
This was an excellent book. It is an easy read as well. It leaves you wanting more. Not just a book for men. Woman and partners should read this as well.
Published 12 days ago by Machelle Hinkle
4.0 out of 5 stars A must read!!
NMMNG should be a staple in ever man's life. I have read it 4 times~ i will refer back to it every few months when i feel like i'm slipping back to my old ways. Read more
Published 14 days ago by brick
5.0 out of 5 stars Just What I Needed
I am so thankful for this book and the insight it gave me about my life and why I'm living it the way I am. Read more
Published 16 days ago by Andrew
2.0 out of 5 stars Two Stars
I was a bit disappointed that my book showed up with the back hard cover completely torn through.
Published 25 days ago by Matthew Felten
5.0 out of 5 stars No B.S. here men !
Very insightful book that cuts to the core of the issue. I thoroughly recommend it!
Published 25 days ago by Robert A. Massey
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