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The Non-Judgmental Christian: Five Lessons that will Revolutionize Your Relationships

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This book is about what it means to BE a Christian (sanctification). Kuypers uses a lot of personal anecdotes but the book transcends its original self-help purpose. Kuypers starts out wanting to help us improve our relationships, but what he achieves, beyond that, is a transparent exploration of his own journey toward a Christian self. He admits to not achieving perfection, but through the 5 Lessons he explores what it means to think like Christ and how maturing as a child of Christ means evolving a non-judgmental mindset that affects every aspect of your life. This includes your personal goal-setting and your interactions with others.
It's impossible for the author to cover every aspect of Christian life in one book (that's what the Bible is for) and as a very personal text, he doesn't fully explore the idea of vocation . Yet, this overview of the Non-Judgmental Christian mindset delves deeply into ways of thinking and interacting that could positively change the way people experience you.
For me, the best part of the book is the exploration of the non-judgmental Jesus: how He was neither a "hammer," a "doormat" nor a "rescuer" of people. Kupyers explains that other people are what God wants them to be (He is sovereign) and that we aren't supposed to try to change others to suit our idea of what they should be -- even with the best of intentions.
I can't imagine a single Christian, especially Christian men, who will not be affected by this powerful book. Don't miss it.

A friend loaned her well-worn copy of The Non-Judgmental Christian to me after I shared with her that I find that I'm too judgmental, especially of other Christians. She told me that this book made a difference in her life, and she thought I might get something out of it. I loved reading this book - I've read it several times, and each time, I've gotten new insights from it. I haven't given her the copy back because I haven't wanted to part with it. In this book, the author uses plain language and painfully honest insights to help the reader understand what the Bible really says about judgment, judgmental behavior, how we make judgments constantly and how those judgments impact our relationships. He points out that there's a big difference between what we THINK we have permission to do when we recognize sin and what God actually wants us to do. This book has had such an impact on me that I bought 6 books to give to people who might gain similar insight. And now I'll give my friend her well-worn copy of The Non-Judgmental Christian back. I'm not eloquent enough to say all the reasons that I recommend this book, but I hope you'll read it and get as much out of it as I have.

I bought this because I judge people a little more than someone should..but this book didn't seem to open my eyes to anything positive.

Length:: 1:58 Mins

Video clip of author John Kuypers on live television, explaining non-judgment to a newly married husband having difficulties with his mother.

In this easy to read format John outlines the ways that people create barriers that hurt each other and themselves. Baring his soul through sharing his own experiences, John's book serves as a study guide specifically designed for men to help improve their relationships with their spouses. This book also serves a secondary purpose for all who read it - men and women alike - to examine themselves to see what they are doing to damage their relationships. This is well worth the read!