Not All Twins Are Alike: Psychological Profiles of Twinship [Hardcover]

Barbara Klein (Author)

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Publication Date: February 28, 2003

Even twins are unique. Most people idealize twins, fantasizing a close, perpetually loving relationship. Yet Klein, herself an identical twin, demonstrates that twins have complicated and intense relationships that range from over-identification or excessive closeness to profound estrangement and conflict. Most twins who are raised as individuals deal with the significant emotional pain of separation in adolescence or young adulthood, yet as mature adults can come to love and respect each other as individuals.

As Klein makes clear, the parenting that twins receive as infants and young children affects the relationships that they have with one another and with the world they choose to function in. Because parenting is a critical determinant of psychological well-being, it should be treated as a serious but manageable challenge. This book is a must-read for twins, their parents, and scholars, students, and other researchers and professionals dealing with mental health and child development.

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"The twin patterns and the conclusions that [Klein] delineates and then supports through case histories are informative, fascinating, illuminating. . . . [This book] will help you to understand what's underneath the . . . surface similarities and differences in the twin patterns whom she studied to reveal the deeper emotional and intellectual issues that twins have to confront and make peace with."-Muriel Kessler, L.C.S.W., Bc.D.

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Klein, herself an identical twin, demonstrates that twins have complicated and intense relationships that range from over-identification or excessive closeness to profound estrangement and conflict.

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Product Details

• Hardcover: 160 pages
• Publisher: Praeger (February 28, 2003)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0275975843
• ISBN-13: 978-0275975845
• Product Dimensions: 9.8 x 6.3 x 0.7 inches
• Shipping Weight: 13.8 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 3.0 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (2 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #1,376,395 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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9 of 9 people found the following review helpful:

3.0 out of 5 stars Nice Perspective on Twins, October 20, 2004

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This review is from: Not All Twins Are Alike: Psychological Profiles of Twinship (Hardcover)

Dr. Klein's book provided a good supplement to my quest for twin knowledge. Her study shows how twins, both identical and fraternal, can be very different and offers reasons why this happens. Being an identical twin myself, I related to her views about the importance of equal treatment, especially when she discussed "share punishment" when only one twin caused an incident of mischief. She states, and rightfully so, that parents of twins have a more difficult job than those of singletons.

I did get the impression that the author thinks environment wins out handily over genetics in determining who we are, i.e., nature loses to nurture. Further, parenting seems to be the dominant nurturing force according to her. I partially agree but this is all too simplistic. Other, more deeply researched publications indicate that a much more complex environmental and genetic mix is at work in determining who we really are.

Her suggestion (conclusion) on page 108 that fraternal twins are as close as identical is not valid based upon the very limited sample she studied. This conclusion, I think, was a shot at Dr. Nancy Segal's book, Entwined Lives, (which is still the best twin book around) and is probably aimed at creating a professional separation from other twin experts. Entwined Lives goes into great detail about likeness factors of twins, both fraternal and identical, normal siblings and others. Segal's research base is voluminous. Dr. Segal's book remains the best discussion of twins especially with regard to the nurture-nature debate.

I liked how Dr. Klein discussed the four types of twin relationships and how these affect our adult lives and could see some of those traits in me as an adult twin. The pages discussing twins in psychoanalysis reveal a lot of how individual twins can be affected by their twinship. This is the strength of her book and almost any twin will find this information insightful.

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3.0 out of 5 stars Useful book on twins, but over generalizes, February 23, 2011

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This review is from: Not All Twins Are Alike: Psychological Profiles of Twinship (Hardcover)

There are some aspects of this book that I found very illuminating, but as a fraternal twin there are several statements presented as fact that are absolutely false. I suspect that she is viewing all her data through the lens of her experience as an identical twin and as a woman. Furthermore, her data set of 30 twin pairs is far too small to encompass all the possible twin combinations and relationship dynamics. I enjoyed several parts of the book, but some conclusions need to be taken lightly. Also, she mostly ignores the differences between boys and girls when examining twin patterns.